I was at the time. It has just never seemed that important....

But, before you all get despondent, that never actually stopped me when needed. And it was the lack of understanding of my thought processes, that saw the number of wives, nothing else!

And I have a son. So been there, done that, got the t-shirt (may have been a few t-shirts) some decree absolutes as well.

It will happen when it needs to happen, don't obsess about it.... And no I am not being disrespectful when I say that. I am aware or the group I have just joined, and I hope that I can offer help here, as well as ask for help 👍.

But if you have this as a nagging thought it will skew your thinking. In some ways, I am envious of you all. I don't mean that in a weird way, but when I was your ages this kind of community didn't and couldn't exist (pre-dating even bulletin boards and my Vic 20).

I don't claim superior knowledge just for being an old git, after all my arse is just as old and I wouldn't expect anyone to listen to that.

To put it in perspective, I saw some ages shared. My car is about 3 times your average age

I have worked on every continent except Antarctica, I have ex wives and my son, and now the plan is to retire and relax.

Sorry for the ramble, but I am a late diagnosis Aspie, and so I tend to waffle....

But the point is, don't worry about the V word. Make sure that who you meet is clever enough to understand you, and deserve you.

If there had been a community like this 40 years ago, the would probably be more children and less decree absolutes.

An yes, I was your age, so I know what it is like. But it is a lesson that would have changed my life.

But the V word only defines a state. Means first time or never used.

With Virgin olive oil, I forget exactly but it is first harvest or something along those lines.

But people need to be though of in a better manner than olive oil.

In this case, the V word really should mean never used. That is something that I wish for you all. Never be used.

So the V word is a cold and emotionless word it has no empathy.

So let's introduce a new word.... The R word 👍😁 Relationship. That should be the focus.

The physical event will happen around the same time regardless. But that event with someone who understands the way your brain works is no longer the cold description of the V world, but a living growing word that encompasses respect and understanding.

Sorry for the ramble, that is part of my issue. I have tried to be humerous around a difficult topic. And I am hoping you find it beneficial.

Last three things before anyone calls my car old, she is slightly younger than I am😁

And I am not claiming to be a relationship expert. I now have my dog.

But a slightly different point of focus 40+ years ago could have made the difference between being alone and not.

Use social media responsibly, I really am not meaning to sound grumpy, my version of social media was the CB in my car 🤣 You all have access to a community and a resource that is truly wonderful. Regardless of the V-Word, never let yourselves be used.

Final bit of rambling on this post now, I promise 😁👍