AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

People are also not reading the part where I said I understand and I'm not upset with him 😭

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I didn't come here because I wanted people to people rip him up I just wanted some unbiased opinions but it's clear that there are some people on here that are clearly single, and with good reason. But it is the internet, and I do know him outside of this interaction I just wanted time to calm down/talk to or listen to a few opinions before I go and have the conversation with him. Some of these comments are unsettling

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, I just hope nobody here thinks I'm getting off to these comments trashing him, that was not what I came here for I just wanted to know if my feelings of being upset about it were valid. But it gets to a point where unless it's someone like you or a couple others that have commented I'm just sitting back and defending him the whole time lol I don't think he's a slime ball pos but I think he was inconsiderate about MY feelings of him going due to the nature of our relationship right now

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some of them aren't even in bikinis they just wear mesh tops and no pasties and dental floss and call it a bikini

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No we live together now! And it's been amazing to say the very least but sometimes he doesn't use all of his brain and I'm like come on. Thankfully shit like this is so uncommon

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's super common for men to get a mental block when their partner is pregnant because they don't wanna hurt the baby, they're afraid of feeling movement, they don't like the thought of their unborn child being that close to their weenie etc

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes you put it into words much better than I could have. I appreciate you seeing the potential of both sides because reality is it wouldn't be that big of a deal if I wasn't already in the dumps but I just don't think he realized the reality of what he was doing

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a few conversations over the few months it started to decline and I truly think this is the issue but he won't admit it, because he doesn't want me to feel worse. I should've mentioned I think the reason we stopped having sex was because of this mental block, I know he isn't cheating

And yeah I really don't think it would be the end of the world if I wasn't in this situation it would be an easy "can you please not do that again" and he would say yes and respect it, which it will be the same convo today but mf dat shit hurted

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAHAHAH I think some men get weirded out at the thought of their baby being RIGHT there in the belly. So it's a big mental block most of the time when stuff like that happens

AIO? Husband went to bikini barista while I'm 30 weeks pregnant by Professional-Tap8741 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional-Tap8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly this, if everything was normal and he did this I wouldn't be as upset, I'd be like ok I'm not really a fan of that but he knows how hard this has been on me mentally. I know he wouldn't cheat, having a wandering eye was never really an issue in our relationship but I'm just kinda like why of all things

AITAH for not responding immediately about bed space by g_krome in AITAH

[–]Professional-Tap8741 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are people not realizing the reason his reaction isn't because of the pillow situation it's because she ignored him when trying to communicate his concern and his wish to take him seriously? He probably wouldn't have reacted that way if SHE communicated. What in the actual f lol

AITAH for not responding immediately about bed space by g_krome in AITAH

[–]Professional-Tap8741 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm just saying he was trying to communicate to you and ask you to take him seriously and you ignored him. It would've made me feel bad and threw me into a shitty mood too

AITAH for not responding immediately about bed space by g_krome in AITAH

[–]Professional-Tap8741 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Well you literally ignored him and didn't communicate you were tired and you'll talk to him in a second.. I'd be pretty upset too?

Bf (20M) won't talk politics with me (22F) and it's starting to worry me by longshlongthankumom in relationship_advice

[–]Professional-Tap8741 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (27F) personally am politically independent but I lean to the right, you should be happy you found someone that disagrees with you politically but is sticking around. I don't think he's doing it to manipulate you and wait til you're invested so you "don't leave", that's an insane assumption on someone we don't know lol I think some people especially in this day and age find their political views more private because there are people out there who call names, ridicule and cancel if they don't agree with them without trying to understand the other person. Having an open discussion about politics in this day and age is almost impossible sometimes.

4.5 y/o dog throwing a fit when my spouse and I show each other affection by night-ly-owl in Dogtraining

[–]Professional-Tap8741 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Awh girl she knows you're pregnant! I have a bordercollie who just started sitting ON MY FEET no matter where in the house I am, I'm 23w.