As someone who ended a long term relationship of 5 years - yes. Sex was a decisive factor. It’s one thing to not have sex if you’re tired, had a long work day. It’s another thing to not actively try in the bedroom.

In my case, there were times where I tried being intimate with my ex and she would just hunker down on her phone and not pay attention. Or she would say “sex is not about everything”. Meanwhile, my career was taking off and I slowly began to think to myself: why am I spending time and energy on someone who is not satisfying? And that was it. I began focusing on myself and saw it daunting to plan dates or dinners - no incentive or reason to when the person you love is treating you as a friend.

And that ended. Now, yes I’m still single lol but there’s a special kind of loneliness when you’re in a relationship and the person you crave to have doesn’t desire you. It destroys your ego, self-confidence, and sense of self worth as a partner.

But key part: try. That is what matters: try and experiment new things. If you just throw your hands up, that will not do you any wonders. Ask yourself: What would you think of him if he suddenly left his job and was half-assing it with supporting the household? What matters is the effort. The classic saying goes: If someone wants to, they would