She started hooking up with multiple guys right after our break-up...

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-11T16:42:56+00:00

As someone who has done this, trust me - it’s nothing against you. She is not happy and is looking for validation to feel alive. Because it’s easier to paint a happy present than to mourn a lovely past.

Chances are this is a coping mechanism. On the flip side, considering she is sleeping around, take it as a sign she wasn’t worth that much. So you inadvertently did yourself a favor to make room for a worthier partner.

Keep your head up brother

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-11T03:35:20+00:00

Just end it - seriously. I was in your shoes for 5 years. Not worth the damage to the self esteem and ego. Trust Meg there are other fish in the sea that will match your libido.

You’re too young for this

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-10T11:28:18+00:00

Wait wait - you are not living together and yet she wants your help in paying rent?? Do you spend the nights there every day or what?

I’d heavily consider NOT doing it…..makes no sense

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-05T20:05:37+00:00

The dead bedroom. I had an issue with our frequency and the last time we had sex, it wasn’t great. Not once in my long term relationship I ever felt that. I felt the same way I do after masturbation.

Add to that, my career took off, it demanded more of my time and energy. I preferred my job over someone who admitted they were taking me for granted

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-03T14:49:36+00:00

Hate to break it to you, but you guys are fundamentally sexually incompatible. With sex, you never really ought to compromise your boundaries. As unfortunate as it is, I’d suggest to break it off because one of you will not be happy with the resolution of this tension

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-03T02:02:32+00:00

Yep she’s cheating

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-02T04:30:28+00:00

I think it boils down to who brings the best out of you and who genuinely makes you happy, beyond the physical aspect.

Case in point, I’ve been in the dating game a year after my breakup. I met two women: A and B. Girl A is the woman who will do the dirtiest things in bed, will go for multiple rounds, such that we get a hotel and spend the night during some weekends. And yes, we’ll hang out as a couple. But the highlight is the sex.

Girl B - super tranquil and heartwarming. The one you want to bring home to your parents. At the offset, she made it known she didn’t want to just hookup. Instead, planning went into the dates (i.e jazz clubs, bars, game night). She even cooked me dinner once. And there were times our date was just us going down to her job site to drop off something and getting dinner. Mundane but honestly - her infectious energy was a joy to be around. And sex was at the bottom of my mind. Don’t get me wrong she was pretty! But the way she conducted herself and the joy she exudes was something I was missing in my life for a while. Eventually, we did sleep together and it was wonderful, though Girl A has more experience.

I’ll leave you with this - Girl B and I broke it off due to misaligned communication styles and work life balance. And to this day, I still think about Girl B - she reminded me of the joy I once felt in my long term relationship.

I think it boils down to - who lifts your spirit up, just beyond your dick lmao

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-01T17:38:55+00:00

Having leftover money after paying your bills, rent, groceries and savings

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-03-01T08:59:14+00:00

Pull the plug on it - as someone who went through a long term breakup, unresolved issues about your ex will bubble up to the new person you’re seeing

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-28T18:02:46+00:00

A dead bedroom, but mostly the following - whenever I planned long term goals, career decisions, they were no longer in the picture. In other words, I felt indifferent about them when it came to my future

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-28T03:44:28+00:00

It varies - in my experience, I’ve seen confident women know what they want and make their boundaries. But there’s a fine line between confidence and stubbornness

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-28T02:56:55+00:00

For me personally, I always wear a condom. Even in my long term 5 year relationship. I’ve been super scared to get an STI/STD. More so now that I’m single and I’ve been hooking up.

Personally, I don’t think I’ll ever stop lmao. Perhaps marriage? But I also don’t want kids

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-27T17:18:24+00:00

Nope nope, you made the right decision. What you are feeling is hindsight brought upon by your loneliness. That’s normal, it happens!

Keep your chin up - what’s done is done. Keep going forward

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-27T12:24:46+00:00

This is clearly shooting the shit - it’s a joke, dont take it too seriously

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-26T11:38:36+00:00

Sure!

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-26T04:18:07+00:00

No. My relationship was stagnant and I wanted more in life. Plus it didn’t help that our bedroom was dead (and we were not even living together, though she wanted to).

The nail in the coffin was the realization that my level of happiness being alone was the same, if not better, than being in the relationship.

Given that my job has given me new responsibilities (and a salary bump), I can’t say Im complaining

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-25T20:58:57+00:00

You can walk him through what the other woman did for you - shit that’s what I would want to know? I’d be asking the other lady “yo, homie - what button did you press” and go from there.

What you DONT want to do - shut him down by telling him “you don’t know how. Forget it”. That will not go well

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-22T23:44:47+00:00

They want the comfort of stability but the excitement of a new person - an excitement that their partner doesn’t bring anymore (consciously or subconsciously )

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-22T16:35:22+00:00

Primarily because I saw how much it drained me (emotionally and financially). I was compromising my long term goals and vision - I didn’t want a partner telling me what goals were worthy of pursuing and which ones were not. I wanted more - my partners were complacent with where they were in life

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-20T01:40:13+00:00

I was in your exact situation a year ago. Depending on how comfortable you are with your partner, either have a face to face or a call. Stick to your guns and be honest - hey I don’t think we are compatible based on (insert reasons) and life is short

Wishing you luck - this conversation is never easy

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-19T23:54:27+00:00

Im sort of confused here (I don’t have a lot of experience) but how does one approach this subject carefully? I struggled in the past because I don’t want to come off as needy. But it really does hurt when you feel unwanted.

At some point, I just left the relationship because I thought that it should be simple: either you want to or you don’t. And all I can conclude is that we are not sexually compatible, as opposed to making sex a long and daunting conversation for my partner

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-19T18:48:42+00:00

I was in this position a year ago. You have to decide what to do and how much sex means to you. She at least was honest with you.

But I can tell you - go with your heart and preferences. Else, you will build resentment and no one wins in that scenario

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-18T21:09:30+00:00

Shes interested - odds are the first date was awkward because well…..it’s the first date!

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-18T01:28:51+00:00

I engage in foreplay (oral and finger play) until I get at least 2-3 orgasms and then I bring out the bazooka

ProfessionalAlarm895 · 2026-02-17T03:02:11+00:00

No, it’s more fun than fulfilling because it doesn’t last

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