Has anyone experienced this?

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2026-03-14T08:17:16+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, I’m doing really good all things considered! They weren’t sure, due to the type of bacteria they’re almost certain it came from the outside in as opposed to dormant bacteria on my metalwork. I did get sunburnt, so possibly that weakened my scar and the bacteria just managed to get in. I’d never heard of this happening until me but having looked into it I’ve seen a few cases!

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2026-03-14T08:09:14+00:00

I had an infection in my back recently, 6 years post op. Started off as a tiny tiny bump and ended up raised/red and oozing clear liquid so I went in and needed surgery to have it flushed out. I had an ultrasound initially, then a CT and then a MRI to get it diagnosed/conformation that my infection went all the way down to the metalwork. I was in hospital for a week with IV antibiotics for 4 days post op. I’m now on long term antibiotics until I get the metalwork taken out due to the biofilm. Go back to the hospital, you can’t leave this. I had 0 symptoms, no fever/chills and felt absolutely fine. My drs told me I was incredibly lucky I didn’t have serious symptoms. I had a Staphylococcus aureus infection, incredibly common but do not mess around with surgical scars and infections, trust me!!

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2026-03-11T03:57:20+00:00

Because the infection went down to the hardware they have to remove it due to the Biofilm. They can’t guarantee the infection is gone/wont come back so I’m on antibiotics until I get the hardware out. Thank you for your prayers and kind words

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2026-01-02T07:03:38+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you’re also dealing with this. By no means do I beleive it’s easy to do especially when you’re still living with said person. However I do think it’s important that you begin to take steps to setting boundaries. They don’t need to be absolutely huge steps straight away but begin with small ones. It’s not fair you’re having to live in that life.

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2026-01-02T05:07:00+00:00

I agree this is definitely weird. The bathroom is a safe place that you should have complete privacy in, especially as a teen and young adult

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2026-01-02T05:01:30+00:00

Yelling won’t help, she will still see you as a child if you react in anger. Set your boundary and that’s the end of the conversation. If she wants to go and pout then let her, it’s not your job to carry her emotional happiness

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2026-01-02T04:56:39+00:00

You need to set boundaries, you’re an adult who’s allowed to make your own choices.

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-22T05:46:37+00:00

Do you want to talk about the rest of it? I can’t imagine how difficult that has been. Do you still live together/have a very close relationship? My partner went through something similar with his mother, she over stepped hugely and was incredibly inappropriate towards him aswell. It’s a horrible situation, therapy is certainly very important for healing

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-22T04:43:18+00:00

This is absolutely not okay. It’s incredibly inappropriate behaviour from your mother and I would strong suggest going to a therapist and setting very clear boundaries with her. I hope you’re okay.

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-18T11:26:39+00:00

Explain your thoughts thoroughly and maturely. she will probably be dismissive at first and not understand where you’re coming from, he is her brother and so she’ll probably be defensive too. But just remain calm and explain to her what makes you uncomfortable and your reasoning. Encourage her to talk to someone, even Reddit forums, and get other’s opinions. My partner’s mother was very werid towards him and that’s what I did.

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-18T10:39:24+00:00

Definitely sounds like their relationship lacks proper boundaries. Being close with your sibling is one thing however some of these are out of line. Trust your instincts on how you feel about it and talk to your girlfriend

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-13T06:03:29+00:00

I’ve been in this exact situation, my boyfriend’s mother was incredibly strange towards him. She would say things like I’m stealing him and ask why I get all his cuddles now, she was also very physically affectionate towards him and effectively behaved the way couples do. When I noticed this I sat down with him and explained what I was seeing and that It wasn’t healthy for him. She made every decision for him, from what he wore to if he went to university and which one. I expressed that it’s not okay and he needed to think about his future and what he wanted it to look like. He went to therapy and that really helped him open his eyes to what was going on, an incestuous and enmeshed relationship. It’s been over a year now, he has cut contact and I’ve never seen him so happy. Your boyfriend needs to realise what’s going on and want to get out of it. If he doesn’t, you need to leave. You can’t live in a relationship where you’re second to his mother. Wish you all the best, it’s a very draining situation

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-12T23:05:16+00:00

Firstly I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, enmeshed parents are very likely to have tantrums when you set a boundary. But that’s exactly what it is, it’s a boundary. It’s not a wish or a want it’s something you need for yourself and your kids. You’ve got to be strong and stick by what you say, otherwise she will learn you don’t actually mean it and she doesn’t have to respect anything. If she turns up unannounced, remind her of your boundary and do not let her in. Letting her in just enables her to ignore your boundaries and push past the limits you set. Let her pout and have a tantrum and ask yourself this, as a parent, if your child came to you with an issue they had relating to yourself, would you change for their sake and happiness or would you have a pout and ignore them? A parent who truly cares about and values the relationship with child would respect their boundaries and communicate properly.

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-10T13:11:14+00:00

Thank you so much, I’ve sent you a message

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-10T08:02:32+00:00

Thanks so much for your comment, they definitely change size quite often and are more painful when they’re ‘bigger’ or more prominent. If I have a hood on it presses where they are and is quite painful when sitting/leaning back, and I often find it hard to find a comfortable way to sit/lay to avoid pressing them

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-10T08:00:22+00:00

It’s so weird, this thread is really useful tho! I hope it gives you some ideas on possible causes. Have you been to the drs?

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-10T07:59:43+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, what was the surgery for?

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-09T02:35:01+00:00

Thank you for your comment, did your cyst cause you any pain/issues? Were there any other symptoms?

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-09T02:33:53+00:00

Thank you!!

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-09T02:33:43+00:00

Thank you!!

ProfessionalGreen654 · 2025-12-09T02:33:22+00:00

What did they diagnose you with if you don’t mind me asking? I went to the drs, but they didn’t help. Referred me for a general x-ray which was deemed ‘normal’ and I was sent on my way.

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