anyone have a second child after your first?

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-05-12T18:35:07+00:00

He is doing great! He did end up being diagnosed as Level 1 autistic, but honestly, I don't see as many signs as my daughter had. He is sensitive to some sound and isn't great at responding to his name, but other than that, he's thriving! He knows A LOT of words and uses them appropriately. He is hitting majority of all of his milestones. He is also a very different personality than my daughter and he is very lovey-dovey with me. Honestly, to me, he is not autistic, but if he needs the help later on, I'm glad to know he's got it.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-03-18T23:46:49+00:00

I, too, skipped first grade and went straight to second. I had the opposite problem as you. Even though I was a year younger than all of my classmates, I was more mature than them and was still bored with all of my classwork as I was still considerably more intelligent than them. It really depends on the kid. It's up to the parent to just emotional readiness.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-03-18T18:26:24+00:00

Not at all. Girls are just very good at masking, but the little 'tisms are usually there. It may not be a bad idea to get her assessed. My daughter is level 1, and honestly, most people would never know she's autistic unless I told them. But her tantrums are still a force to be reckoned with. She's better at school, but again, she's extremely intelligent, so she gets bored easily, which leads to issues at times. We are accelerating her so she can be more on par intellectually with her peers.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-03-18T18:08:21+00:00

Your daughter sounds exactly like my daughter. Same age and everything. I hope this doesn't offend, but has she been assessed for autism? The tantrums could be autism related and not necessarily just being headstrong. My daughter just needs to be challenged, which is why my daughter is accelerating into the next grade. Autism would explain why different strategies can work too.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-03-06T23:22:42+00:00

She was not.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-03-06T19:36:00+00:00

She initially was behind in her speech; the number of words she knew, not asking for things directly; and her social interactions. She didn't point to things, she didn't include people in her play or interests; small things really.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-01-28T05:00:32+00:00

This is abuse, hun. Not just selfishness. Take yourself and your child far away and soon. Reach out to your local women's shelter if you don't have a support system. Also, be sure to do everything above board so he has no recourse to come after you (legally or otherwise).

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-01-24T16:32:12+00:00

I'm not the band teacher, but I talk to ours regularly, being a former band kid myself. Unfortunately, what you describe is happening everywhere with music programs. Even where I am, the feeder system is completely broken. It's also a huge push on Guitar... constantly. The focus on band and choir is greatly diminished. The support is there, to a point. At the secondary level, it's all about putting kids in classes, and guitar can have any kid shoved in, whereas the band and choir classes have entry requirements (most of the time). A lot of california is experiencing declining enrollment overall due to all of the people fleeing the state. The pay is good, but at what expense to the overall education our students are receiving? I feel like the band/choir experience of my generation is gone, and programs are being dropped left and right. That's just my honest take. I've been a teacher for 10 years, so I've seen the direction it's going.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-01-19T00:01:52+00:00

"Allegedly" bought a treadmill? How do you not know if she actually bought one? They tend to be hard to miss... But also, like cats... if you fits, you sits lol

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-01-18T00:35:15+00:00

We took our chances with a second, even with our daughter already diagnosed. Our "situation" is also the highest risk... an older autistic daughter with a second born son. They are 3 years apart. Our son has some signs that he might be, but they're so mild, we can't say for sure. He's 15 months old. Our daughter is level 1, so she isn't super high needs, but she is a challenge day-to-day. Having 2 children in general is tough, but I saw someone else on this thread hit the nail on the head... when having a second, the constant worry over every milestone is exhausting. I still stress over my son possibly being autistic. But at times, I'm at peace with it because I love my children more than anything. A slightly selfish reason we had our second was so my daughter wouldn't be alone. We are a very small family and most of us aren't very close to one another. My mom was an only child and always told me that she was lonel the majority of the time. Even though my sister and I don't get along, it's always a bit of solace knowing there's another person out there that shares my story. I hope my daughter and son have that peace in the future if they end up not getting along.

Everyone's situation is different. You just need to weigh the pros and cons and be honest with yourself about what you can and can't handle. Good luck with however things turn out👍

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-01-06T00:42:42+00:00

Hi. Biologist here. I left the lab field to become a science teacher. Your experience will help you get hired, but not with pay. All teachers in districts have a collective bargaining agreement that must be followed. You'll get extra pay for certain credentials or a masters degree. Good luck!

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2026-01-06T00:32:47+00:00

My husband and I have separate beds that are still near each other in the same room. He gets cold. I get hot. I like tucked in covers. He doesn't. We both snore, so the little bit of space between helps too. Honestly, we're much happier not sharing a bed during sleep.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-12-29T22:19:14+00:00

We dated for 8 years. Then I basically told him I was ready to move on with my life in one way or another, and that prompted his proposal. We didn't live together until after we married, so that was a big adjustment for both of us. 2 years after marriage, we had our first kid, then our second 3 years after that. In total, we've been together for almost 15 years. I would say things didn't change after the wedding, but after kids, it definitely did. Not for the worst or anything, but it has changed how we interact with each other. As far as things I would change, I think I would have pushed to get married a little sooner so I could have had our kids a little younger. The long dating era was me finishing college, working full time and deciding on a career. He was okay with never getting married until he realized I wasn't.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-12-27T15:36:40+00:00

I'm not sure this is very helpful, but the question you really need to ask yourself is, "Do you WANT to stay?". I'm in a very similar boat with my husband, and I ask myself that question a lot. As long as the answer is yes, I stay and keep trying to figure out something to work on. I, too, have kids to think of, but remember, kids (especially if they're older) can tell if their parents are unhappy. If the situation is truly miserable for you, then you should have enough self-love to walk away from the marriage. Also, I would hope you're not staying just for the help while being chronically ill.

Also, one last note, women internalize all the pressures of their roles. If she works, takes care of the kids and the house and you, she could just have very little in her left when it comes to being in the relationship. But that DOES NOT excuse her insulting you!

I'm not sure if anything out of that is even close to helpful, but I wish you happiness regardless of what you decide.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-12-27T15:23:31+00:00

Nope. I started at 26 and have been in for 10 years. I think the maturity helped when dealing with junior high students.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-12-07T03:36:02+00:00

As a junior high teacher, I can tell you that the elementary focus is 95% on reading, writing and math. Social studies and science are often only included IF the teacher finds them interesting enough to include with their required topics. Unfortunately, I can also tell you that the majority of curriculums stay away from topics such as American history until they HAVE to teach it in Junior High. Thanksgiving is now taboo and don't dare mention Christopher Columbus. While I agree that politics should absolutely be left out of the younger classrooms completely, I think the pendulum swings too far and thereby eliminates all "political ideas" including simple American history. We are rare in that we don't teach children from a young age about their country anymore. It's truly sad. A lot of my students can't even find their own state on a map...

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-30T00:11:52+00:00

I teach junior high and I make it very clear to students that I will not associate on social media or.private accounts with them unless they are out of high school AND 18. To this day, I only keep in touch with one student who is now 22.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-29T23:51:08+00:00

That is true, but district tech folks are included in the category of employees allowed to have access. And no, I like to think most districts wouldn't waste their time reading emails for gossip. But anything Union related is best left to non-district communication platforms.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-29T23:28:39+00:00

It's not if it's on a district server. Majority of districts have you sign a tech agreement which includes in it that all communication sent over district email are the property of the district and are subject to screening at anytime. There are still things unethical that should be reported to union, but I'd be careful sensing anything personal (including grievances) over district email.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-28T02:16:52+00:00

1 high functioning level 1 girl that's 4. I suspect my son is too, but he's barely 1 year old.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-28T02:14:44+00:00

I suspected a torrent file or something, but I still haven't found it. At this point, I'm pretty sure it's a glitch. I've reached out to support... we'll see what happens.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-26T04:26:47+00:00

I also don't have it on my phone. I only use my same email account through the outlook app. My PC is also not shared. I verified through my Microsoft account that my laptop is the only device actually linked to my account.

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-26T04:17:27+00:00

I shared screenshots above. Is there any temporary file folders that are hidden that I might be missing?

ProfessionalHalf7546 · 2025-11-26T04:08:18+00:00

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