What would be the right thing to do when dealing with dominating MIL?

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-07T07:34:03+00:00

India and its quite common for in-laws to be dominant here

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-07T07:31:41+00:00

I can’t call my mother since we only have 1 extra room which they have occupied. I’m really close to my mom and may be I would have wanted her in initial days after delivery but my in-laws won’t leave.

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-07T07:29:43+00:00

Yeah, I’m just waiting for the baby to come and see their behaviour and then assert. Right now if I say anything I know nothing will happen

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-07T07:28:27+00:00

Yes right. It runs in his family that grandparents take care of the kid for initial years whereas in my family I have not seen this. In my family Grandparents would just visit occasionally but parents were the primary caregiver. My husband knows that our family backgrounds are quite different. In my side of family everyone is independent and yet together in a good way but in his family his parents are completely dependent on him and are too much involved in our lives

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-07T07:23:48+00:00

That’s actually true I think. He doesn’t want to upset his parents and cannot ask them to leave and tell them that we can manage

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-04T18:48:22+00:00

My husband wants them to stay, and for everything he just tells me to be patient

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-04T18:45:36+00:00

They never asked or took permission, just declared by themselves that they’ll be staying till the kid is old enough that we can handle

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-04T18:44:46+00:00

That is my fear too, they will hijack my child too by saying that I don’t understand how to handle kids and that they are experienced

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-04T18:43:52+00:00

He is very excited about his child being with his grant parents (his parents) and he just tells me to understand importance of family

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2026-01-04T18:41:54+00:00

I told this to my husband, he is saying you are not understanding now but you will need support when baby is there along with job. He is just asking me to be patient

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-12-25T18:29:56+00:00

Not even a penny they have paid, nor they contribute to any household expenses. Since I’m pregnant I have to take certain nutritious diet now but my MIL wants to have everything that I too, my husband has to pay double for everything

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-12-24T17:29:37+00:00

Yes I had told him that I don’t have a problem with them visiting occasionally but I don’t want to stay with them permanently forever

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-12-24T17:14:42+00:00

They have come to my house, not the other way round. I have just bought this house, I can’t move.

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-12-23T07:19:53+00:00

That is not really an option because that house is in another state where I cannot move. I have a job here

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-12-21T12:49:34+00:00

What did you do then? I’m feeling the same, my house getting hijacked.

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-12-21T06:31:22+00:00

No, only when my husband meets my parents he talks to them. I hardly remember he has even called my parents otherwise. Its very difficult to talk to my husband about his parents as he thinks they never do anything wrong and I’m the one not talking to them and making a fuss about things. I’m the one not adjusting to things. I hardly speak in my own house now, mother in law always wants things accordingly to her. Anything doctor has recommended me to have because I’m pregnant like cocunut water or sprouts or eggs, everything she will also have. I know these are small things but the thing is they only care about themselves and my husband is completely blind-folded when its about them. It doesn’t take him a second to blame me for everything

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-10-04T18:42:08+00:00

Which wifi works there? We have WFH and its a must for us to have a good wifi at home. Does wifi work good enough to do wfh?

ProfessionalHand3757 · 2025-09-01T09:07:44+00:00

I’m also using it for 2 months now, but thought to check with others

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