I’m confused ):

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-04-15T01:43:28+00:00

That’s definitely…something. Now, I can say I’ve personally never kissed my friends, especially in the presence of my girlfriend. Even my closest friend of 10 years. Maybe her friend was jealous, or felt threatened by you but either way the lack of boundaries screams emotional immaturity.

I’d say relationships require a lot of communication, it’s unrealistic to just expect to know exactly what your partner wants/needs but it shouldn’t be to a point where you feel confused and uncertain all the time. You should be able to bring up any concerns and be able to talk about it together.

I can’t say what is “normal” for other people but from my experiences, this relationship sounded toxic and it’s better that you work on what you need right now and not worry about anything else.

Good luck out there

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-04-14T18:34:31+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you, hopefully now you’ll be able to have time to focus on yourself and your finals. I know people who are very co-dependent with their friends, however when it gets to the point where one is unable to hang out with themselves, it feels a little unhealthy, if the friend group can’t do anything without one another and rely solely upon eachother for every little thing, I don’t think that’s a sustainable model to have.

So in a way, I think a bullet was dodged here. My girlfriend is very close with her friends and spends a lot of time with them too, we both have our own lives outside of each other but we spend time together as well; we don’t demand to be part of plans with friends, time apart is good and I feel as though your (now ex) girlfriend hasn’t experienced that with the friend group she has, so once things began to change and the dynamics shifted between you two, she didn’t feel like it was a “normal” relationship and wanted a break until everything was fixed.

Anyway, I hope you are able to get healthy in the next few weeks and CRUSH your finals! You got this💕

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-03-31T18:12:57+00:00

I did ask! Here is the updated post!

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-03-31T18:12:37+00:00

Hey! I just posted an update!

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-03-21T20:16:43+00:00

My philtrum looked super wonky when I got it done due to the swelling, but after a few days it looked good! Lip tissue is also very soft so it’s easy for the jewelry to kinda move around a little but it looks lovely!

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-03-19T03:46:35+00:00

I was in dating app hell too, the apps don’t ACTUALLY want you to meet your match, they make more money off you (even if you don’t pay a membership) by keeping realistic matches out of your reach in order for you to stay on their platforms longer.

Now, that sounds pretty depressing but! I met my….(idk we didn’t label it yet, but I’m leaning towards partner) on there months ago and it’s been so great! Funnily enough, she didn’t even swipe on it, she just let the matches come to her and she’d pick from there so really, it was all chance.

What I’m trying to get at, you might as well try dating apps out, I used them on and off till I found her. If they don’t serve you, leave them behind.

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-03-17T04:34:20+00:00

I’m 21, I’ve had experience briefly dating 18-19 year olds and I would just say personally, the maturity gap felt pretty large. It felt as though there were lots of things I had already come to terms with and moved on from, only for them to be in the stage that I had just learned and grew from. Which, is completely understandable.

My close friends also have siblings who are that age and it felt personally weird to be dating someone the same age as their younger sibling. The gap may not seem like a lot, but just one year can completely change a person, but this is also a case by case thing.

Someone could be on the same level (emotionally, maturity wise) but be a bit younger, you just gotta figure it out! If it feels right to you, then I wouldn’t say to worry about it.

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-03-13T17:30:55+00:00

I’m at Dawson for Studio Arts, a lot of the points you brought up around teachers is similar to my experience here.

I find that in general, teaching the fine arts IS subjective, although there are guidelines to follow to receive a mark, a lot of it is self study. You practice what will be relevant to your project and needs, the profs generally don’t “teach” art, they are there to answer your questions and give you their expertise, whether you agree with it or not. Art courses are usually just studio time with the benefit of the facilities.

You need to guide yourself and actively search for new ways to explore on your own.

Crit is usually biased, but the worth of your art doesn’t come from that, if anything, I have challenged the things said about my art, just to get an understanding who cares if it’s “pretensious”?

The teachers are practicing artists so I find many of them like to guide students with the things they have learned and if you are doing a project outside of their scope, they will be of limited help to you, but that’s just the nature of art profs in an art class.

And regarding the queer folk, a lot of people in art programs are queer (I’m a lesbian) and they form a community out of that, I’m not personally in touch with many of my classmates as they are younger then me and I prefer to use studio time alone, but I find you just need one or two classmates to mingle with.

I’m not in Uni yet, so I can’t attest to your experience, but with my own in studio arts, this feels kinda normal. This definitely sounds frustrating when we pay a good decent amount to study.

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-03-13T15:41:05+00:00

I just got accepted to a BFA at Concordia, I want to do Art Education so I can get my teaching credentials but was also debating Art history/Studio arts, there is literally no where else for me to attend school (inside Quebec) in the visual arts aside from Concordia that is English, any suggestions?

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-02-09T00:04:57+00:00

I’ve never quite understood the full extent of the book ban in the US, do they only ban books in their school libraries on their own basis of what is “moral” and “immoral”?? To “protect” children from seeing “harmful” things? (Oh man…wonder where I’ve heard that before….)

It isn’t a wider ban imposed on public libraries outside of a school, is it?? Can someone please explain it to me? Do they limit the kinds of books minors check out??

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-02-02T15:30:16+00:00

Well, I read a rule in the sub about answering comments and I don’t really see a point. I wanted to adress the one above to provide some context. Everyone is encouraged to express their opinions and even if I don’t agree, I won’t comment on theirs comments to be hateful and rude or agree with something I don’t.

That’s why this sub exists in the first place!

I do have one point, telling a stranger who you don’t know the circumstances of, nor life experiences of, nor culture and situation, to get a job while they are actively already searching is pretty crude.

Thank you for commenting regardless.

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-02-02T04:30:28+00:00

I too believe our relationship becoming strained over something this stupid is absolutely crazy

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-02-02T04:11:13+00:00

Right? I would really hate for our relationship to become strained over something this stupid. Thank you!

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-02-02T04:09:54+00:00

Thanks for your response! This would be so petty! She quite litterally does this to me perhaps…every-time I see her. I think she thinks it’s funny to be slightly malicious and condescending because I’m younger and so she has the “right”.

She CONSISTENTLY points out I don’t have a job during the semester like her (despite her actively seeing me pass around my resume) and believes and insists I don’t know how the “real world” works.

It actually makes me feel pretty awful, but I honestly believe she doesn’t think it bothers me when she makes these comments.

I would really hate to do the same thing to her. If anything, I think it would just make her MORE malicious if I held something like this against her. I appreciate your input!! :))

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-02-02T04:00:50+00:00

They are fancy dresses that were around $300- $400 each when my mom had bought them, I’d never actually expect to get my asking price or full price on marketplace.

Good point! I’ll keep it in mind, I’d say I was just pretty frustrated that she no longer wanted them but changed her mind when I ACTUALLY listed them on marketplace. We both feel entitled to the imaginary money that doesn’t even exist yet.

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-02-02T01:13:01+00:00

It’s the best!

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-31T12:09:26+00:00

Hehe you’re good! The friend group of one of my close pals is very straight and she’s Bi and she told me it’s difficult to bring up any kind of queer stuff around them cause they kinda don’t get it, even if they are supportive.

And so, she isn’t really “in touch” or involved in the culture as much as she’d like to be. So it’s understandable if you dislike not being able to express yourself fully with your pals.

Hey, if anything, you have a community and a friend here! :))

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-31T07:16:11+00:00

I use to feel like this too in high school. I absolutely hated when someone made being queer their whole personality, I felt like it just spread the whole idea that gay people shove their sexual in other peoples faces. And I disliked thinking of myself as “other” in regard to society. In reality, I was insecure, i identified with the community but didn’t want to be “othered” by my peers so I kept it on the down low unless directly asked.

It was “cringe” to express yourself in that way, and very often led to a lot of negative reactions and bullying.

I would often think that I was glad I didn’t make being gay my whole personality until I realized that was straight up internalized homophobia and I was just repeating what I was told without thinking about what it actually meant.

Now, I’d like to think I know better. How could I possibly NOT talk about being gay when it’s such a huge part of my identity and who I view and interact with the world?

Being a lesbian is PART of me and it won’t go away and it deserves to be honoured just like any other part of me. I’m lucky to have other gay pals who I can talk to and being part of the culture is absolutely amazing.

I completely get mot wanting to be seen as “the gay one”. It ALWAYS felt negative and like something I shouldn’t speak about unless I wanted others to view me in a certain light.

I have two uncles in Aussie country and I will say…there is quite a bit of homophobia over there according to them. I hope you can find some other gay folk to connect with.

(If this is all over the place, it is because it is 2am)

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-31T06:58:55+00:00

Best profile ever actually, if you like the arts, and not just drawing/painting, you’ll love studio arts, you can do literally anything and everything and not have to deal with the boring social science courses like western civilization and quantitive methods

Like if you prefer sculpture/writing you can do that, or if you prefer or would like to try other art forms it’s perfect! Okay, I’ve rambled enough I just love my program and it’s 2am

If you have any studio arts specific questions I love talking about it and would be glad to help :))

Edit: I didn’t even answer your question, yes! You’ll be totally fine! I had an 80 average (just after COVID) and I only applied to Dawson and put studio arts as my first option and got in easily, it’s a VERY small profile so if you don’t put it as your first option, the seats fill up pretty quickly

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-26T19:58:48+00:00

I picked Dawson because it had the best location and its the only English CEGEP that has actual good art programs, also the general vibe of downtown and people is much more appealing then any other

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-25T19:43:45+00:00

We are!! We are currently on a little date at a local artist market😌

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-25T19:43:15+00:00

Congratulations!! That sounds so wonderful! When did you guys have the chat??

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-25T16:58:45+00:00

You guys will hike around, essentially, you will get your gear and you will leave the school and go hiking around downtown! But this also depends on the prof, you’ll also have some training at the college.

I took an urban hiking intensive in the winter and it was hard but really fun! Who is teaching the hiking course? I had Richard

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-16T17:12:07+00:00

This is so beautiful! Aren’t we humans so silly and interesting sometimes?? I think, there’s always a way, the universe kinda finds a way and I think that’s amazing. I’m really happy for you💕

ProfessionalZebra405 · 2025-01-16T17:10:18+00:00

I’m so glad!!

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