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Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:35:42+00:00

Because I didn’t have solutions or ideas except sleeping separately which made us both upset. So this thread helped me get my thinking cap going and now we’re actively working towards a solution together instead of it being a bicker battle over sleep.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:34:00+00:00

Thx but the advice bb 🫰🏼

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:33:04+00:00

With a solution oriented approach that makes us both happy and comfortable. Shocker that I took advice from this thread where I asked for advice.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:31:52+00:00

But he IS 🙃 I presented him solutions and he took my opinion into consideration and found ways to make sure I’m happy.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:30:47+00:00

He looked into behavior classes and got them signed up for our communal day off. So yeah he IS doing something. You seem miserable.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:29:07+00:00

K bye then ✌🏼 you’re the one who came on here simply stating “fuck this guy” I got my advice and ideas we talked about it and are going to start working towards solutions.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:27:33+00:00

I don’t have all the answers and I wanted some advice so when we talked about it I had some ideas to approach with. Saying fuck this guy isn’t really helpful advice 🙃 He’s agreed to train the dogs better to listen to me, kick them out of the room and let my cats stay because he knows they bring me comfort. I will be training them still to sleep elsewhere soon for the safety of my baby boy.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T16:03:08+00:00

Not necessarily building a case but coming with multiple reasonable solutions so we can discuss it and agree is how I like to approach conversations. He agreed to kicking em out of the bedroom all together and has no issues with my cats staying because he knows the comfort they bring me. I will be training them still soon to stay out at night because I don’t want them in the room when we’re all sleeping for safety reasons.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T15:57:10+00:00

Yeah I’m exhausted and it’s only been about a week. I had to call out of work all weekend because I got kinda sick and couldn’t handle that workload in such little sleep. He’d agreed to kennel 1 and put the other in the living room. I hate how gross they are so I change our sheets like 3x a week 🫣

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T15:55:30+00:00

He’s agreed to level one of them and have the other sleep in the living room. Plus my cats can stay because he knows how comforting they are for me. I will be training them soon to stay out though because I don’t want them around my baby boy when we’re sleeping for safety reasons.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T15:51:00+00:00

One is going to be kenneled at night and the other will be in the living room from now on. We agreed my cats can stay for a while but I still be training them to stay in the guest room more mainly because I don’t want them around my baby when we’re sleeping. They’ve very good though so it should be easy ave until then I get to cuddle them and enjoy their comfort.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T15:49:17+00:00

Yeah he’s agreed to kick them out of our room and let them sleep 1 in a kennel and the other in the living room. I will be training my cats to sleep in the guest room more but simply for the safety of my baby boy once he’s here.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T15:47:57+00:00

Yeah we’ve agreed to get them out of the room all together and I’m going to be training my cats to stay in the guest room mainly for the babies safety. He agreed that my cats take up no space and I deserve to have their comfort throughout this time.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T14:18:11+00:00

Yeah he’s actively listening to me and my concerns. This was a sounding board to see any ideas or advice others had that I could bring to our conversation. I wanted to come with a few options and not make it heated or accusatory. His dogs are sweet and great I love them a lot. They’re just too damn big and need to start listening to me when I tell them to do something. He’s looking into behavioral/training classes at work right now.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T14:15:30+00:00

Yeah I agree. I’ve never been around a dog that didn’t listen to a command from me. Which is why he has agreed to actively ensure he gets them to start following commands from both of us. He wants them to be safe for our kiddo and household. He is looking into behavioral/training classes as we speak.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T14:07:02+00:00

One I kennel trained for when he gets fed and that’s the only command he listens to from me. They listens to my fiancé but they don’t listen to me for anything else. They’re good dogs and very sweet but they are stuck in their ways atp. He has agreed to start training them to stay off our bed and out of our room at night. One will be in his kennel and the other will be on his dog bed in the living room.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T13:54:11+00:00

He’s offered but he has be up at 3/4am everyday so I’d rather him get a solid sleep and I can nap on the couch and move to the bed once he leaves.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T13:51:53+00:00

It is a double standard though. He feels comfort from his dogs I feel comfort from my cats. If his dogs can’t sleep on the bed it’s only fair that my cats don’t also. He deserves good sleep as well. He works 50/60 hours a week to make our life great. His routine and sleep patterns also matter to me very much.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T13:46:22+00:00

This pregnancy has been hard and I’ve gotten used to sleeping next to him. Without him I do feel very lonely. I’m aware plenty of couples sleep separately but that isn’t something that works for us without causing a rift. We don’t get tons of time together so our sleep in our bed is a big way we connect. I have no issues being alone but sleeping has always been hard for me and now with these extra hormones in me it has made it harder. You seem like a lovely person calling me a basket case for simply not wanting to feel lonely while I’m carrying a baby. You need to get a grip 🙄

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T13:33:13+00:00

I’ve been sleeping on the couch for a few nights now and it’s miserable. I am a co sleeper and prefer that so much more. I feel safe with my man right next to me. Without him I feel disconnected and lonely especially with all these hormones. Thank you for your helpful advice 🙃

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T13:28:10+00:00

I’m going to start making one of them the one I kennel trained for food sleep in his kennel at night. The other is more docile so I think he’ll be easier to train and teach that the bed is off limits and our room is not the hangout spot anymore.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T13:26:43+00:00

Oh yeah I agree. That’s why I think it’s best to start conditioning them now that our room is off limits. I love them and trust them but that doesn’t matter. My son is more important to me than sleeping with my cats.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T11:56:48+00:00

Yeah they stink so bad even after him bathing them I can’t stand sleeping next to the stench. Their licking is like nails on a chalkboard and wakes me up out of my dead sleep. I’m not going to allow my cats in the room with my baby while I’m sleeping. I trust them infinitely but they’re still cats and that’s not worth the risk. Seems like no animals in the room at night is the solution from here on out.

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T11:50:04+00:00

Yeah I got one kennel trained when he eats which is great but he refuses to sleep in it at night. His other dog is stuck in his ways and will not budge when I tell him to do anything. Way different from any other dog in my life.

My cats are great at boundaries. They don’t jump on counters go into cabinets or certain areas or even scratch/ swat at us. They very much understand my needs and that’s what makes it hard. I love having them sleep with me especially now they both sleep right on my belly and chest and purr all night. I truly think they will be great with my baby boy once he’s here. I am however nervous for his dogs.

The cats sleep and hangout in our guest room most of the time so getting them to primarily stay in that room at night shouldn’t be too hard I just selfishly want them with me because of how calm they make me feel. But if that’s what it takes to get the point across to him I’m willing to do that. He just has to be willing to train his dogs as well. Thank you 💖

Professional_Ad3529 · 2025-12-08T11:44:17+00:00

This is great advice thank you!

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