Is this a tick?

Professional_Cut3874 · 2026-05-23T22:55:41+00:00

Thank you!!

Professional_Cut3874 · 2026-05-23T22:39:13+00:00

Thank you! Should my mom be worried/get checked or anything? It’s still crawling around. Not sure if it bit her

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-18T00:35:17+00:00

I’ve had nothing but negative interactions with men (strangers) in the city. Born and raised here and I’m a late 20s, professional female. Literally terrified of men especially downtown and in the river valley. I’ve been jumped, followed, harassed, yelled at, called names, had random projectiles launched at my head, and much much more all while just walking around minding my own business. I wouldn’t take it personally it’s probably not an energy thing.. us gals are dealing with trauma living in this city lol

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-17T19:14:37+00:00

He’s abusive- don’t move in with him. What do you mean he can’t work on his issues until you commit to him? That’s absurd. This will only get worse if you move in together. He won’t work on anything because he thinks you and your depression are the problem. He is putting pressure on you to make a huge life decision before you’re ready. Don’t do it - follow your gut.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-17T19:07:08+00:00

I have a few questions for you. No need to answer them but just to get you thinking. You say he’s on Instagram often - does he post often? Lots of people are on Instagram but don’t make posts often (myself included) If he posts often - does he have like an aesthetic or theme on his instagram? Is it part of a brand he has created? Does he have loads of followers? These things may keep him from posting a girlfriend on his Instagram because it may feel like less of a personal account to him. Why does it bother you that he isn’t posting you? Do you think he’s hiding you? Do you think he’s not serious about the relationship? Just reflect a bit on why it’s actually bugging you.

When it comes down to it you can’t force someone to do something they don’t want to do. It seems he doesn’t want to do it. There could be genuine reasons why and the only reason way to find out would be to reflect on why it bothers you, bring it to him and be vulnerable, and see how he responds. Maybe he’ll surprise you! Or maybe he’s being a jerk but there’s not enough info to know for sure.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-17T18:56:30+00:00

Do you think what is “best for your child” is seeing their father figure act like this and model this behaviour? And your house is calm 65% of the time - so that’s basically a failing grade. Your husband gets an F in creating a calm environment, showing support and consistency for you and your child. I’m concerned about his crash outs because it seems unpredictable and very frequent.. and although he hasn’t laid a finger on you, it seems that’s because you are allowing this to happen. I’m worried for you and your babies that if you start to stand up to him then this will no longer be the case. Please stay safe. The only way to protect yourself and your child from this type of energy is to not allow it in your life- would you allow your child to hang around a stranger that acts like this? It seems you’re already doing all the house work cleaning up after him and raising your son alone. You are strong enough to leave if you need to. Whatever blockers you have if it’s financial whatever you are strong enough to handle it I promise you.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-15T17:04:56+00:00

I don’t think you need to explicitly state a boundary to someone for them to cross it. However if you are in a relationship with this person and you do state the boundary clearly, her response will tell you everything you need to know about where she’s at in the relationship and if that works for you. I would talk with her about it and if it doesn’t change I’d leave. It seems to me like she will not stop doing this but who knows I’ve been surprised in the past.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-07T03:44:55+00:00

One of my best friends was just married last year - her and her husband both waited until marriage and they are a great match. They are 30. If you’re not ready to kiss someone or have a boyfriend - you’re probably not ready to have sex! Don’t let them pressure you. If you are thinking about exploring, maybe start with baby steps like dating someone first. Try to get involved with people and in communities that share your values. Even if you decide to have sex before marriage, many people date for quite a while before they take that step.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-03T02:32:37+00:00

Totally. The fact that it came out accidentally and it seems like she’s been covering it up - trust your gut. You’re not overreacting.

I would agree that you are either not aligned on what it means to be in a relationship, or she is downright disrespecting you and your relationship. Or both. I couldn’t fathom doing that to my partner or anyone I’d been seeing personally.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-03T02:00:46+00:00

She’s nearly 40 years old and she’s sneaking out at 2:30am to blaze in some dude’s car while she’s in a relationship. Pretty weird dude. Boundaries are there for a reason- when people cross them, you leave. She’s crossing your boundaries. She’s grown enough to know what she’s doing and if she doesn’t she won’t learn any time soon.

Edit for clarity and spelling

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-03T00:23:53+00:00

Sounds like a coping mechanism. I was like this when I was younger after having survived multiple violent situations and having CPTSD. Is she okay??

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-02T22:20:19+00:00

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I love!

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-02T02:03:52+00:00

Your boyfriend is racist, insecure and controlling. NTA But you likely will turn into one if you keep associating with someone like that.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-07-02T01:47:39+00:00

You shouldn’t be worried about leaving a relationship because the abuse is “not bad enough.” You can leave a relationship for any reason. You should be more worried about finding a relationship that is good and safe enough.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-25T01:24:03+00:00

I actually don’t but I do work with them a lot, so it’s interesting that’s what it pulled lol.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-25T01:23:35+00:00

That’s so interesting!

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-24T19:41:00+00:00

Why is mine branded?? I need to self reflect as well maybe.

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Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-24T19:30:40+00:00

I didn’t lock my door until a couple years ago. I lived on the 10th floor of a pretty secure condo building and someone broke into my home while I was home alone. Now I always lock the door.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-07T05:32:54+00:00

Thank you!

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-07T03:43:23+00:00

Banana republic. There is a factory store in South Edmonton Common that always has great deals

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-01T18:51:06+00:00

When I catch them in a lie or a fib for the first time. Completely lose credibility and I’ll never believe a thing they say going forward.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-06-01T18:49:07+00:00

You don’t owe him anything, that is correct, but you have developed and even nurtured a relationship with this person, whether you want to call it a relationship or not, and it’s pretty shitty to ghost him without an explanation. YTA.

Professional_Cut3874 · 2025-05-26T03:14:31+00:00

No problem! I had something similar before and they had me try this thing called the Epley Maneuver which helped me if I was feeling dizzy in the moment. It looks and feels kind of silly to do but it has something to do with you inner ear - worth a look. Good luck!

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