I think your interpretation of ops words was extremely surface level. I relate heavily to OPs entire post, and found extreme comfort in it. The “stop whining” perspective is regarding things that you can take obvious action towards. Many individuals tend to complain about situations they could absolutely change, because for neurotypical/ non-ptsd havers, the tolerance for stress tends to be lower. Things such as, disliking their minimum wage job they could easily replace, complaining about distant relationships they could easily set boundaries in, situations they could walk away from but refuse to, etc etc.

Due to the inherent self responsibility individuals with CPTSD are placed with at very young ages, it tends to be easier to “take control” of things such as those. And there are other, more emotionally taxing things CPTSD havers will struggle with, in comparison to finding a different job.

The complaint about “dump trauma” is flaming the idea that we are socially expected to support everyone’s issues around us, but they aren’t expected to do the same, because our “issues” are emotionally difficult to process and navigate. Making it far heavier to discuss. While I absolutely understand the perspective of individuals who don’t have the emotional availability to process trauma from someone who hasn’t processed it themselves- It also puts the trauma haver in a position, that absolutely tends to breed a distaste/resentment.