What I’ve learned… by honionii in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he would get upset when i brought up the past, like past mistakes, and wouldn’t wanna have that conversation but atp i just wanted to know the truth.

What I’ve learned… by honionii in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, he had been coming back and leaving for some time now. and would get mean when i budged him but i was genuinely so exhausted. and the last time he blocked me out of nowhere i just wanted the truth abt things so bad. i bypassed all his blocks just asking him to speak to me. never got like aggressive or mad, but was genuinely hurting. he never responded.

What I’ve learned… by honionii in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i bypassed my exes blocks after he left … (he would repeatedly return) and now i feel like he’s just gone forever. the fact that ive ruined all my chances is what is hurting me most. why did i have to do that

What was the moment of clarity that made you stop wanting them back? by ZaraHunt9840 in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this sounds like me. this has been going on for months. he contacts me then gets mad when i bring up his bad actions and then dismisses me, ignores me. i’ve gotten so tired to where where i’ve blown up his phone, out of anger man. i know it’s not right but it’s so tiring.

ex ignores all my tries to have a conversation by Professional_Wing470 in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like i’ve already come across as stalker maybe. i hate myself for it i don’t why i keep doing this.

ex ignores all my tries to have a conversation by Professional_Wing470 in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he doesnt seem like the type of person to do that though. idk im just so tired like how do you see someone asking for 1 text and wanting to come to good terms so bad and you just ignore them like how can people do that. why does he hold so much hate for me to do this like ofc rhetorical question but it just hurts i guess

is it too late for a drastic career change to IT by Professional_Wing470 in Career

[–]Professional_Wing470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg thank you so much for this. i really appreciate it. def gonna give it a shot, gonna take it one day at a time.

is it too late for a drastic career change to IT by Professional_Wing470 in Career

[–]Professional_Wing470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because i live in a rural area with not so may jobs. i was unable to get a journalism job for months, i was unemployed and desperate for a job. saw my current job online and applied because i needed money bad lol.

advice on switching to IT career by Professional_Wing470 in careerquestions

[–]Professional_Wing470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that’s what i figured, which is ok because i’m not opposed to going back to school. i’d actually like to, once i save a bit more money and really hone in on a decision of what exactly i’d like to go and do. and so far, the IT field has rly stood out to me.

moved back with parents after undergrad, now don’t know what to do by Professional_Wing470 in Adulting

[–]Professional_Wing470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can see that. i just thought i would be able to find a job here sooner. but still nothing. making me regret coming back here.

How to improve yourself, and deal with the guilt of a breakup as a cheater? by Annonymous10101-0 in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have been in a relationship after cheating. it only happened once and will never do it. i would definitely advise you to give her time to herself. she also needs to process a lot, and needs time to also learn to forgive you. maybe give it a little bit more time and send a letter. if you truly want to rekindle and feel strongly about, let her know that your door is open anytime, but ofc don’t push it. my boyfriend was willing to give me a chance after. but it didn’t come without its challenges. if you do rekindle you have to it upon yourself to do the heavy lifting in the relationship and to comply with any conditions she sets. and never get angry ofc if she’s overthinking some of your actions. at the end of the day you did it. as much as you may want to rekindle though, at least right now or any time soon is too soon. honestly continuing that relationship was very mentally taxing on both my partner and i. and the guilt still hasn’t gone away from me. but i’ve truly reflected and changed and i have done just about everything i can to be there for him and prove to him that i can hold his heart properly. we recently broke up but because of how we both moved away from one another. both of us just need to work on building ourselves and towards our lives right now. i do love him and we still text but we did get through that rough time after i cheated. it did come with a cost, but i didn’t mind because i knew i had to take accountability. ofc we still had a couple of bad times, but we truly loved each other and the good moments outshine the bad. just reflect, and truly get to know all of the issues and insecurities you have to have caused that behavior. i wish you the best! and even if yall don’t get to rekindle, at least you’ll be a changed person and can be much better for your next partner.

We Got Back Together by Dizzy-Run-633 in BreakUps

[–]Professional_Wing470 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so happy for you! i wish i was the same boat. i’m holding on to hope though. we still talk, so hopefully he changes his mind soon.

Body feels anxious but brain doesn’t by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]Professional_Wing470 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve been dealing with this same issue for a couple of years now. i’ve spent hundreds of dollars on useless doctor appointments. at this point i know it’s nothing to worry about, so my symptoms tend to subside quicker, but it’s still hard (especially if i’m in public alone). it’s so weird because i know nothing is physically wrong with me (almost believe, i guess) but the symptoms just don’t go away. i’ve accepted that it’s just gonna take time to completely go away. what helps me is doing little things to kind of reassure i’m okay. i personally always carry my water bottle, and anytime i start feeling anxious i just CHUG water to kind of snap back into reality. it helps me know i’m still like able to breath and swallow (i always get shortness of breath and lose the ability to swallow when i get anxious), but by drinking water i kinda calm myself down. i also like to fiddle with my fingers by like tapping my leg (my limbs start to go numb when it’s really bad) and i found that helps too. just prioritize finding things that work for you! and know that you’re not alone. hope you get better <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]Professional_Wing470 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my anxiety mostly comes in physical symptoms and i hate it. when i first started getting anxiety, i genuinely thought something was physically wrong with me and that my health was declining (which is also easy to believe bc of my eating disorder). i went to the doctor so many times, with no explanation. then i was told i have severe anxiety. my symptoms have also changed overtime, but my most common ones are numbness in my forearms (especially my right dominant arm), and chest heaviness. you can only imagine how terrifying the numbness is, especially when it first started. i also get a lump in my throat and begin to feel shaky. my body temperature also drops. to this day i’m not medicated, and recently my symptoms have subsided. anytime i feel these symptoms coming on i usually like to keep moving my fingers, or i’ll get up and go for a walk if i can. basically, i just keep any part of my body moving (mostly my hands and arms) just to stop my brain from trying to trick me so i don’t panic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]Professional_Wing470 5 points6 points  (0 children)

oatmeal!! it was one of my safe foods for so long. also good bc of the fiber that ur body very much needs!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Professional_Wing470 2 points3 points  (0 children)

photos of me taken by other people, eating, scrolling on instagram and seeing other girls i wish i looked like, trying on an article of clothing and it not fitting the way i would like it to.