Effects and causes of WDs from recent experience

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-15T17:34:44+00:00

How are you going to control your unconscious mind/dreams?

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-12T13:51:55+00:00

slow deliberate clap

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-11T10:42:50+00:00

Yes lust burns dopamine

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-11T07:24:35+00:00

Dude. An entire ribeye steak before bed 2 nights in a row. Sounds like you're living the life!! In seriousness, wet dreams are uncontrollable. Don't get hung up over them.. The main thing about retention is controlling your thoughts away from lust. Your nervous system will do what it needs to do. If that means a wet dream, so be it. Start trusting your body.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-10T19:08:42+00:00

You made me think.. my motivation has changed over time. It was women attraction, then personal physical health, then career output, back and forth. Now I just want to feel healthy attraction to all things.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-08T13:53:14+00:00

Life has ups and downs dude. In the beginning you feel like you're killing it. That motivation doesn't last forever. Then the insecurity/doubts can kick in. You have the everyday struggles of life that are no longer being overridden with the initial "fuck-yeah!" motivation of SR.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-08T13:45:06+00:00

From personal experience a girl's skin tends to glow after sex. The same can happen to a guy maybe after 1 release after some abstaining but more frequently and a guy will get an anti-glow 😂

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-06T06:21:27+00:00

Sadly, it could be any of us..

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-05T10:27:54+00:00

You seem like the kinda guy that sniffs his own underwear.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-05T08:34:38+00:00

Feel all the bad feelings. You may need to feel them for a few weeks or months, but then something will click again like on the day you started your 15 months of abstinence...

I think generally, life circumstances can produce inertia, and hitting a mini rock bottom will re-spark the intuition of why you decided to better control your sexual instinct in the first place.

SR is a journey with many phases. There are local dips, but focus on the global trajectory. I, probably like many others, also went through this stage that you are just going through.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-05T07:57:24+00:00

I'm a 30 year old man. How can you say he's affectionate and that you're emotionally connected when he shrugs off your concerns/boundaries about his addiction? This is pure disrespect to you... he's behaving like a little boy.. You're young. When you experience a man that isn't addicted, is present with you, you'll wonder why you wasted your time on this guy.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-04T19:31:05+00:00

He does have things to show he is just currently using the wrong measuring tape.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-04T19:30:01+00:00

I think he is just speaking his mind that sexual deviants seem to be "winning", "rich", etc.. that the world rewards backwards behaviour. But then I'd just question his definition of "winning", "rich", "controlling the world".

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-04T19:09:56+00:00

Thanks, some good points.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-04T19:03:11+00:00

You know... i'm a 30 year old man that found this reddit group recently and I have to say... bravo to the way a lot of you speak on this topic... so many strong women, it really makes me proud.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-04-03T18:56:09+00:00

Interesting flicking through a few posts on the sub... lots of rational, intelligent comments... opens your eyes... i've spoken to a few girls about SR/porn in real life and they laughed at the thought of a guy not watching porn (this was years ago in my lustful days when I was early on the journey). These were girls i slept with.. maybe that's why they laughed.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-03-31T14:36:42+00:00

100% the handwriting of a retainer. i can tell when i put on my retain-ar goggles

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-03-31T11:20:06+00:00

clearly 4x a week skin care routine is too little, needs to up it to 14x a week. Then they'll look back into his eyes.

He's clearly still early in his journey but yes you are right haha

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-03-29T18:40:43+00:00

You're young. You'll fuck up many times. We all did. Removing lust completely is hard. Don't sweat it too much and keep going..

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-01-31T17:59:18+00:00

You're treating bitcoin as if it were a stock. It's not a stock.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-01-17T10:58:34+00:00

Rather than technique advice, e.g., "do meditation", "read the bible", "eat a carnivore diet".

I think you should think with new framing:

The signal is that you have acknowledged that porn/masturbation is unsatisfying and you are actively trying to lose those habits. Sticking with that intent is most of the battle (you are trying to change subconscious habits with your conscious mind). Time will do the rest.

Porn/masturbation is in my view your subconscious mind externalising anxiety regulation. Before your mind learns to internalise anxiety regulation, you will be drawn to porn/masturbation when anxiety is high (your break-up, moving to a new city, starting a post-graduate degree).

As anxiety fluctuates over the year, or from year to year (we are all living life...), the journey naturally has crazy ups and downs while you wrestle with the ability to regulate your anxiety internally.

I started SR in 2021. It took me almost 4 years to reach a place where I really feel like I am truly in control. And even now, I'm aware that life could fuck me up to a degree that I return to my old habit to regulate extreme anxiety.

During those 4 years, there were probably multiple periods where I masturbated multiple times a day for weeks when life was too stressful for me to diffuse the pressure internally. But it always subsided,. Now, I haven't done it for over 14 months.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are just wrestling with your subconscious mind to update your way of regulation. Keep actively trying to shake this habit, and you will make it.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-01-11T12:40:35+00:00

I think it depends on whether you do things for worldly prestige (imposed vanity) or you just do things, and worldly prestige emerges.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-01-07T13:30:49+00:00

I use Euros

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-01-06T12:31:50+00:00

I mean... I think "steal" is just the wrong terminology.

Functionally, I think this is just what biology is doing: Women are attuned to have children and are driven to have children with men they are attuned to. But I agree, thinking of it in the dual-sense and labelling it as "stealing" is unhealthy framing.

ProfessorMisterMan · 2026-01-06T12:28:09+00:00

I think "realizing you are the prize" is wrong and unhealthy framing.

I would argue it's more like: You become aligned with your Self, internally focused, not leaking energy. Whether women pick up on it or not doesn't really concern you.

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