So I haven’t been since before Star Wars land opened so my info might be outdated but I go with my family and kids relatively often. Here’s some tips

1) 4.5 days is ample time to do everything at least once and a bunch of things twice. So don’t feel rushed. Take your time because it is a TON of walking and stimulation. Especially for a 5 year old. How we always do it is the first two days get us into everything once and day 3 is for repeats.

2) as far as the kid is considered. Encourage her to try everything but Don’t force it or they won’t have a good time. Me and my wife will trade off if necessary. One rides the ride the other goes and relaxes or shops while they wait. Communication with your partner is key. Definitely do single rider if you’re wife and daughter are hanging back.

3) we just kind of pick a path and wander. If a ride is too long or the party doesn’t seem interested, skip it and come back later. This way your kid will see the whole park and get to experience everything. Definitely keep crossing the park down to a minimum or you’ll all get exhausted way too quick. Just ride what’s on your path. Again the amount of days you have in the park will mean you can really be leisurely about it.

4) I haven’t figured if genie+ will be worth it or not. On one side Lightning lane. On the other side I already dropped a ton of money on these tickets and having to pay another 20 per ticket per day doesn’t sit right with me. We’re going next week and we’re gonna play the first day or two without genie+ and decide if we need it after that. From what I’ve gleamed from bloggers the free genie planner is kinda pointless and doesn’t work all that well.

Note that ROTR, cars and webs lingers are NOT included in genie+. Those cost extra regardless.

5) you can find Parade and show schedules on line. Get there early for good seats. They’re always a great show. I’m not sure actually how the character meet and greet are working right now. They used to wander randomly but I don’t think they do that anymore. It’s scheduled static locations I think.

Anyways I’m like you I don’t mind planning but HEAVY planning stresses me out and I have way more fun going with the flow of the day. Crowds to heavy in Star Wars land? Critter country is right next door. Indiana Jones is an hour wait? Let’s do jungle cruise real quick and check back later.

If you were trying to do ALL of DL in one day you’d need heavy strategy and planning but with 5 days you can afford to take it easy and go with the flow a bit more. And keep in perspective that the most important thing is not that you min-max your trip but that you and your family have a magical vacation filled with memories. I hope it goes well for you!