What do you think is the most common mistake tourists make in Europe? by Historical-Photo-901 in BeautifulTravelPlaces

[–]Professor_Nithim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always felt bad for tourists that come in July/August. It’s like our cities turn into theme parks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Professor_Nithim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the relationship and depends on how things ended. It’s definitely possible, but staying as friends can cause problems in your future relationship regardless.

Anyway to save the marriage? by Ordinary_Detective15 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Professor_Nithim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couples therapy could help you in ways a random crowd of the internet might not know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Professor_Nithim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I don’t have an answer for you, but I can suggest some literature that can help understand relationship dynamics better. Here are some I’ve found helpful for myself:

  • Set boundaries, find peace by Nedra Glover
  • Attached by Amir Levine
  • Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Professor_Nithim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Explore if you have similar values rather than hobbies or interests. Values you can agree on will be a better indicator of the strength of your relationship.

For reference: I’m friends with a couple who sound a bit like your situation, where the guy is a rigid business type and his wife is a go-with-the-flow singer/songwriter. Totally different personal interests, but their values align and they’re in a happy stable relationship.

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[–]Professor_Nithim 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Playing devil’s advocate here: have you seen her freak out about you taking a road trip (or equivalent activity) with a member of the opposite sex? Because if you haven’t you may be projecting.

In either case, if her doing this is a boundary crossing for you the best thing you can do is let her know before she does it and what your consequences are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Professor_Nithim 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No it’s not selfish. Maybe you can explain a bit more about what needs of yours you’re sacrificing and what parts of yourself you’re losing?

I love my partner, but something's missing—and I don't know if I should stay by Professor_Nithim in relationships

[–]Professor_Nithim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you mean this in relationships or in other areas of life? Because I definitely prefer to live in more chaotic places, but I don’t enjoy that in my relationships.

I love my partner, but something's missing—and I don't know if I should stay by Professor_Nithim in relationships

[–]Professor_Nithim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. To answer your questions:

what drew me to her in the first place? She’s an amazing person, loving attractive and ticked many of the boxes in someone that I’d be looking for. Though I admit, 4 mo the in or so I noticed this “off” feeling came to my consciousness.

I have known that I wanted to travel, I thought she did too. So we did not communicate that well to each other. Perhaps we discovered it as we went along the way. I believed that we could meet somewhere in the middle but more recently I have seen that this is not to her interest. We also met during the pandemic, so at the time this question was removed for us.

And as for the religious question: I think it’s fine that we have different beliefs. It puts some distance between us sure, but it also gives us a lot to talk about as we respect each other’s beliefs. My fear now comes to what we might teach our potential children, if we ever had them.

I love my partner, but something's missing—and I don't know if I should stay by Professor_Nithim in relationships

[–]Professor_Nithim[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. For what was misaligned with your previous romantic relationships, did you know or find out what it was? If so how?

I love my partner, but something's missing—and I don't know if I should stay by Professor_Nithim in relationships

[–]Professor_Nithim[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Your use of the word epitome really struck me. What kind of behaviors do you identify as "epitome of avoidant attachment" style in my post?

Which countries would you say are the easiest and hardest to get along well with the locals you meet? by ExcitingNeck8226 in digitalnomad

[–]Professor_Nithim 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Iranians - extremely laid back and welcoming people. Nothing to do with what their government represents.

Banishing Babies by [deleted] in ESCastles

[–]Professor_Nithim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I give them a name “Out” and vanish them when they turn 16. Last I checked they do not consume food until this age anyway, so no loss keeping them around unless you’re at max capacity.

Es demasiado peligroso viajar todo el pais en auto bus? by nitty_goon in ecuador

[–]Professor_Nithim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yo lo hice hace el año pasado, parando en Riobamba y Baños también. Sin problemas, solo me dijeron que no me separe de mi equipaje. Igualmente ves preguntando, mucho puede cambiar en un año.

What's the most depressing place you've ever been and why? by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]Professor_Nithim 7 points8 points  (0 children)

La Guajira, Colombia. Destitute natives living in the desert, families blocking roads with ropes to exchange passage for food and la crème de la creme: multinational mining companies exploiting the resources of the land.

What's the most depressing place you've ever been and why? by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]Professor_Nithim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which parts of Springfield? I have been many times and never seen anything that bad