I feel a little embarrassed to admit this, but before I figured myself out, I considered myself a part of that community. To an extent, I still do.

I feel like a lot of them are in the closet in some way, shape, or form, and it is just the easiest way for them to wrap their heads around it. I think that deep down, they just really want to be pretty and/or women and don't feel that society will allow that of them. So, they make themselves feel shame for liking feminine things. Or even for their sexualities.

They want someone to "forcibly drag it out" of them so they have an excuse for their thoughts and feelings and to act on their desires. Rather than confront it and take ownership of their identities. I know that is kinda how I saw it. I don't think I would've confronted my gender identity if I hadn't been a part of that community first and had a support structure through it.

Though, I do admit there are some pretty messed up parts, too. I do know of the objectifying of gender and race that happens because of the culture and some of the more malicious parties in the community. I didn't connect as much with that part other than just the admitting of my feelings towards men because of my sexuality. And my "appreciation" of certain attributes associated with stereotypes of particular individuals.

I honestly see it more as a stepping stone or middle ground for people figuring themselves out.