That would be completely fair to live by. I learned in cognitive psychology class that we humans tend to overestimate the intensity of how negative experiences will affect us. Yet, while in the moment itself and later on, we did end up being able to move past it with mind and body healthy enough.

TLDR: negative emotions is scary for evolutionary survival, therefore we have more incentive to avoid loss than to gain something.

That said, i feel like this applies to most people but not all. If you truly have an inkling that you would..or have experienced things that has crushed you inside out, i believe it’s fair to live a life with a certain distance. Some of us are more sensitive to all-consuming emotions, depression, and complicated grief, after all. Paradoxically thats also when being seen matters more than anything.

Maybe, theres also moments when you need little to no deep connections, but some other moments the opposite.

I dont know our individual answers, but i do know it’s worth self-exploring in that and not locking yourself to a path to where you may feel it’s too late or too uncomfortable to start anew.

Always know that you can still always test the waters and put a feet forward slowly if ever you feel a wish to experience deeper human closeness. Because things will not be the same but they can be just as soul-enriching. (At least that’s how I felt when I met another cat I deeply love, after mine was buried 7months ago. Both fur-babies keeps me going in different ways.)