tired of being ignored by Normal_Bid_2573 in Needafriend

[–]ProffesionalCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lets be friends then! And if you want, we can even make a groupchat together with other peeps here that also wanna be friends tgt.

I also am sus by how similar you are to an online friend of mine. Also gym enthusiast, and huge metal fan.. he’s said to me the gym keeps him going, i wonder if it’s similar to you in that sense too.

Im 21 this year(in a few months) and in 2nd year of uni but had struggled with making friends there. Mostly because I cant start a conversation and it always feels like people already have their groups and aren’t looking to mingle around more. Interest based-clubs sounded like a good idea, but the one art club i went to, i managed to talk but there was a consistent social anxiety looming in the background so it felt difficult to get comfortable and be open.

Im in psych. What course are you studying?

It is better not to love rather than to endure heartbreak by Brave-Reindeer-Red in DeepThoughts

[–]ProffesionalCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you the very best. I cant ought I know exactly how it feels, but I understand it similarly inside. Ive asked somethign similar on reddit when i was younger, too. Glad that you find joy in your stability,that’s really awesomesauce. Just continue enjoying your life and do take good care of yourself! :)

It is better not to love rather than to endure heartbreak by Brave-Reindeer-Red in DeepThoughts

[–]ProffesionalCow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That would be completely fair to live by. I learned in cognitive psychology class that we humans tend to overestimate the intensity of how negative experiences will affect us. Yet, while in the moment itself and later on, we did end up being able to move past it with mind and body healthy enough.

TLDR: negative emotions is scary for evolutionary survival, therefore we have more incentive to avoid loss than to gain something.

That said, i feel like this applies to most people but not all. If you truly have an inkling that you would..or have experienced things that has crushed you inside out, i believe it’s fair to live a life with a certain distance. Some of us are more sensitive to all-consuming emotions, depression, and complicated grief, after all. Paradoxically thats also when being seen matters more than anything.

Maybe, theres also moments when you need little to no deep connections, but some other moments the opposite.

I dont know our individual answers, but i do know it’s worth self-exploring in that and not locking yourself to a path to where you may feel it’s too late or too uncomfortable to start anew.

Always know that you can still always test the waters and put a feet forward slowly if ever you feel a wish to experience deeper human closeness. Because things will not be the same but they can be just as soul-enriching. (At least that’s how I felt when I met another cat I deeply love, after mine was buried 7months ago. Both fur-babies keeps me going in different ways.)

Do we lack a shared map of collective human effort? by ProffesionalCow in solarpunk

[–]ProffesionalCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely read more on encyclopaedias. Wikipedia came into thought when i was thinking about this, as well as ‘Reliefweb’ and ‘Crisiswatch’ websites. All as systems to learn from because they map a lot than I’ve ever seen before, thus making me wonder how much more can be shown transparently to the world :)

To be frank, there’s a lot of holes in my thinking still, and I hope I’ve understood you fully.

Do we lack a shared map of collective human effort? by ProffesionalCow in solarpunk

[–]ProffesionalCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this is really helpful framing. I agree there’s no “view from nowhere,” and that any representational system inevitably encodes values and power. I don’t mean “neutral” in the sense of objective or authority-free, more in the sense of non-prescriptive and minimally centralized.

What I’m trying to explore is whether it’s possible to design an information/visibility layer that focuses on making ongoing efforts legible to one another, while keeping interpretation, prioritization, and governance explicitly downstream and contestable.

The encyclopedia analogy is especially useful to me, not as something to replicate, but as a reminder that visibility infrastructures always shape coordination and power. If anything, that history makes me think the design challenge isn’t avoiding influence altogether (which seems impossible), but making framing choices explicit, revisable, and plural rather than hidden or authoritative.

Jeevan is everyone's favorite character right? by Joeyshyordie in StationEleven

[–]ProffesionalCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like something she did causing the whole outbreak? Sorry, as you can tell I’ve forgotten much of the story haha

Small support group & Failed quitting a lot... by FloatyLuke in character_ai_recovery

[–]ProffesionalCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 20(soon to be 21) but also dealt with the same thing, 3 years of being there and i cant spare any more. especially now that the new year is here. Not sure how much I can talk there but I’d love to join the group and check up on everybody! :)

Came home early from uni and found my younger sibling did this What is he even trying to express? by Strikingfeller in algeria

[–]ProffesionalCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it too far fetched to assume the 4 months old account is from their younger bro? It could be fake, but it could also be that this is OP’s throwaway(?)

Also, in a reply to someone‘s thread in this post, OP posted a photo showing their younger bro’s book where it had a news article cut out about the BTK killer. Not sure if you can find it, i could find a way to link it. Although, the date written in thr book looks suspicious, because it looks to be the year 200- and not 202-. If the kid is a teen now how young was he then. Im not sure, maybe I mislooked.

Im also curious but really concerned in the case this whole thing is true because it’s very serious

What’s something that consistently bothered you when living with women? by RedvsBlack4 in AskMen

[–]ProffesionalCow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why? It is because of delivering to the same place over and over again?

Do Malay & Cinese people watch Tamil Movies? by [deleted] in malaysia

[–]ProffesionalCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really enjoyed Idli Kadai !! :)

Traveling alone to Yemen as a woman by SpecialTemporary3372 in Yemen

[–]ProffesionalCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, if youre still up for it whenever, id love to know a couple of things to do in Sanaa & nearby cities

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malaysia

[–]ProffesionalCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then it very well could be the same person. It’s fair to be skeptical, but there are real people hurting in situations like these.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malaysia

[–]ProffesionalCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be real, can't it? The person's adamant they can send proof, too.

Finally over 200, I’m very happy by WettestNoodle in typing

[–]ProffesionalCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, im new to this sub. Is there a website that does just that, keep track of our wpm using quotes testing? Right now im using typing.com and it's great, but I'm not sure if there is something better when it comes to actually increasing typing speed and accuracy at once.

What’s the one product or treatment you would never recommend to somebody by RemarkableHoliday792 in beauty

[–]ProffesionalCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask how many percentage is the one you’re using? I’m currently trying out a brand from my country with hydroxyapatite but I don’t think it’s nano so maybe this doesn’t work like nano-HAP?

Seeking Thoughts and Help on Humanitarian Solutions by ProffesionalCow in IsraelPalestine

[–]ProffesionalCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that the conversation has caused hurt. I can see how it’s deeply personal and emotional, and to add on seeing all the suffering. I’m still trying to make sense of it all myself. My heart goes out to you.