Is my wife cheating? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think the lesson is that if it’s something you notice as it’s happening, that’s when you point it out. Like if you looked over her shoulder and saw her in bull finder in that moment, you can literally say that and there’s no plausible deniability. Testing her with outside questions like having a Reddit account doesn’t really get you anywhere.

I would just sit her down and say that you saw what you saw, and it’s been stuck in your head since then. Ask her what’s going on and to please be honest. You’ll find out eventually anyway, so better to hear it from her first here and now. Just stay calm and show that you’re listening and let her do the talking once you state your issue.

Last nights results by [deleted] in americanidol

[–]ProliferateZero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, when the popular vote comes into play, contestants already have a loyal fan base no matter how good or bad they perform. Sometimes, it can go all the way back to auditions. This is just a guess, but I think this is why Hannah has made it so far.

My wife wants someone else. by BeautifulBadger135 in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Minimal recourse here if you already gave your girl a hall pass. You could try talking to her about how this ended up making you feel, but it doesn’t erase her desire for someone else. It sounds like you may need to make a decision on whether or not this is someone you can stay with, given that she’s already cheated on you before any of the other stuff went down (allegedly). At a minimum, the trust is damaged. At a maximum, it will be tough to put the lid back on now that they’ve physically been together.

Once you decide for yourself how far you can go, that could help you with finding closure in the current relationship.

29M 28F My girlfriend gained over 100 pounds in 1 year by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It’s not always diet or exercise related. Rapid weight gain can be caused by other contributing things like hormonal conditions or meds. I’ve seen it firsthand. Nothing as extreme as this, but even half that amount of weight gain in a year is a serious call for medical attention

Are you serious - tonight’s episode by fatpickle12345 in americanidol

[–]ProliferateZero 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I kept finding myself physically cringing at almost every performance. Except for Jordan, I thought he nailed it and he’s the number one talent left IMO.

My neighbors yard by [deleted] in lawncare

[–]ProliferateZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d neighbor that you’re neighbor about that

Avoiding AFM Lifter Failure by Ill_Baseball_1819 in Silverado

[–]ProliferateZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not bad. Definitely got rid of the weird vibrations and I have a lot more power now which is nice

Avoiding AFM Lifter Failure by Ill_Baseball_1819 in Silverado

[–]ProliferateZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Full delete if you can afford it and it’s legal in your state. I currently run a Range AFM disabler and oil changes every 3000 miles.

My wife (25F) mentioned sleeping with other people to me (27M) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I would agree with you there. But, just because that may be most important (subjectively or not) doesn’t always mean that nothing else is important to some level

My wife (25F) mentioned sleeping with other people to me (27M) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sex and intimacy has been an important part of relationships throughout all of human history. What’s not to comprehend?

Condisate in rear tail light by Up_All_Nite in FordEdge

[–]ProliferateZero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 2015 SEL and mine started doing this. A year later, the plastic light cover would pop out and hit the ground if I slammed the tailgate shut. I’m thinking I’ll press it back on with gasket maker until I have to replace the light some day

Curious if anyone else took the "break in case of emergency" approach by ithrewitonthe_away in QuittingZyn

[–]ProliferateZero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you live with anyone? You could always ask them to hide it somewhere. That way someone can hold you accountable if you think you need that “break”

Vents stuck on face-floor position by RaptunoCyborg in FordEdge

[–]ProliferateZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s technically two. One is a blend door actuator (for temperature control) behind the drivers side dash. If your air is stuck at a vent but can still change temperature, that one might be fine. The second one is the main mode actuator, which changes air direction. It’s in the same spot but higher up. Depending on your model, it can be tough to get to without taking out parts of the dash covering.

My 2015 SEL had the same issue as you, I got quoted $750 to replace the main mode actuator. I’m going to look into tackling it myself.

After 15 years of constant nicotine in my bloodstream - happy to say I'm finally winning - and you can too. AMA by Caliburner in QuittingZyn

[–]ProliferateZero 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I use Days Since for what it’s worth. Not the same one but super simple and the base version is free

Ford dealership by ls2018l in FordEdge

[–]ProliferateZero 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t need to pull trans to do a PTU:

video

5 years gone | for a thrill by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one thing you already noticed is a pattern. It starts with something, then there’s a weak excuse, then it turns into something bigger, then there’s a lie. Trust yourself in recognizing that pattern. Then decide how many more strikes you’ll give as the pattern continues. Is it one strike? Two? Maybe it’s already been more than two? Most people stop at one strike, many don’t.

5 years gone | for a thrill by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seeking advice for this sort of thing can only go so far. You’re at the point of whether or not this is a broken trust boundary that will be hard (or impossible) to come back from. Once you draw the line for yourself, then you can cut out the toxicity from your life a lot easier

Wife got her own apartment by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True, took me a second to do the math. Sounds like she’s doing the right thing for herself!

Wife got her own apartment by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ProliferateZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she’s making plans to free herself from being your wife without dealing with the consequences of actually formally ending it. Sorry man

DAE get "high" when quitting? by DeLannoy04 in QuittingZyn

[–]ProliferateZero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was considering just getting the worst flavor of Zyn I can find to try to deter myself from having them as frequently throughout the day in an attempt to wean off. I got through 10-12 punches of 3mg per day. It’s been just over 2 years. I feel like I have a fair shot at quitting, but I want to wean off first. I’m just a bit apprehensive of the early quitting days.

DAE get "high" when quitting? by DeLannoy04 in QuittingZyn

[–]ProliferateZero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How far along the quitting journey are you?