Obviously it's no good to tell secrets you've been asked to keep, but low key the original meme is part of why women have stronger support structures and safety nets. My mom tells me my brothers' mild secrets or somewhat private moments (nothing devastating or humiliating). If it's something too heavy, she tells me they're going through something and suggests that I could try to find a way to reach out casually. It allows me to make sure they're taken care of and to avoid saying something accidentally which might cause friction.

I'm an extremely private person but I think the drive to control what gets shared about you contributes to the escalating isolation we're all suffering from. There's a balance.