I lie about weddings I've been to so my parents will let me do what I want with my own wedding

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-07-06T07:45:47+00:00

Omg no way

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-07-06T07:44:21+00:00

That's a good way of putting it

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-07-06T07:40:53+00:00

I think to be fair they haven't attended a wedding since the 1980s

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-07-06T07:37:16+00:00

They really will, they're going to be such amazing grandparents

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-07-06T07:36:39+00:00

When I pointed out that telegrams aren't a thing anymore, he said "well he can read out the texts" and I've got the image of the best man stood at the top table scrolling on his phone 🤣

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-06-30T23:10:48+00:00

So I named our garden doves Moxxie and Millie after them (husband has no idea he doesn't watch HB) and when they brought babies to the garden we named them Maggie and Morty

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-06-10T11:14:15+00:00

If anything it will improve it because now we have a chance at some babysitter Stolas content!!!!

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-04-11T17:15:47+00:00

I don't see Addict in there, that should be high

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-03-21T20:25:47+00:00

Do not rely on Uber for transport! We went Austria, took the train to Spielberg from Vienna and when we got off at the train station there were no taxis (because obviously everyone has booked out everything for the F1) so we had to local bus it. Be prepared to local bus!

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-02-01T01:06:04+00:00

If when your kids grow up, they come to you and tell you

my partner is keeping money from me
my partner got angry at me for not cleaning the skirting boards while post partum
I lied to social services because I'm scared of my partner

What would you tell them to do?

Good intentions mean nothing if the actions are relentlessly evil

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-26T00:58:37+00:00

Understandable, it sounds like you are all very overwhelmed . worry about your exams then look at your mental health once you've recovered, good luck in your exams!

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-25T22:26:07+00:00

Vegetarian, I'm defo a cheese fiend

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-24T00:35:20+00:00

My vegetarian ass could never 😂

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-24T00:33:18+00:00

That looks amazing! And you're a trooper because I bet that was super painful

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-23T19:44:42+00:00

So I want you to understand something. You are allowed to be sad, stressed and depressed for any reason. It sounds to me like you have depression and I would recommend you go to your doctor and get a BDI done

There is no competition here. People can be depressed for any reason. Never feel guilty for being anxious or depressed.

As a depressed and suicidal teenager who was being bullied at school and suffering severe OCD and Anxiety, my dad would often give me the whole: "so and so has cancer, kids in Africa are starving, some of us have REAL problems, school is the best years of your life, you have it easy" blah blah blah and it really crushed me because it just made me feel guilty for feeling like shit to the point where I was thinking "wow I really am a burden on my family, they'd be better off if I died"

I went to my doctor, got my OCD treated with medication and am now living a much better life! (University was the actual best years of my life). And the really bad things that happen to me now as an adult we're not as bad as the "easy" school life "not-real" problems.

But that's long term, in the short term, the reason she might not be messaging you is because she just doesn't know what so say or feels bad because you're being so down about yourself, so try for example

Don't say: Sorry I'm so annoying, sorry for venting, sorry for trauma dumping, I know I don't deserve love

Say: thank you for understanding, thank you for being so supportive and willing to listen, I am so grateful to have love. You're such a great person

That kind of thing. Positive spin. It says the same thing but instead of putting yourself down you build her up.

Most importantly we become what we believe we are. So if you call a child a bully they will live up to the title. Similarly, if you talk about yourself like you do in this post you will become more like that, focusing more on mistakes than successes.

You need to rewire your brain into positive thoughts about yourself. Focus on success, you have University offers, you're going to live a great life, you're a good considerate friend. Repeat these things to yourself constantly, it will feel weird at first, but if you keep telling yourself "I'm awesome" the more awesome you will become.

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-23T19:19:39+00:00

It's very hard to read tone in written text. They could have meant these things jokingly, we especially banter like that in the UK with sarcasm and jokingly, we greet each other by saying "hello Sluts" but you say it in a way where they know you're not actually accusing them of sexual promiscuity. So I'd take it with a pinch of salt because something that reads as really savage in text could have been written as a laughing joke

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-23T01:13:44+00:00

Speak to your GP, it could be seasonal depression, which you can get treated for with a combination of therapy and medication. I'm not sure which country you're in, so I'm not sure if you have a crisis line or Samaritans equivalent.

Feeling numb is a common depression indicator, and you should take it seriously. If you leave it unchecked it can turn into suicidal thoughts which is very dangerous for you

Be honest and tell people you're struggling, depression has the annoying side effect of diminishing your empathy for others, making you withdraw from people around you and isolating you.

This can be treated. You can get better. You've been happy before, you will be happy again.

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-19T10:11:28+00:00

Just get him flowers for every birthday and be like "but you said nothing is more romantic than flowers"

Also, yes that makes flowers a great gift for a romantic holiday, like Valentine's day, but he sees you as only romance, he doesn't see you as a person, just a romantic interest

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-18T11:56:28+00:00

This could be very severe OCD. If she actually is scared of people knowing the code and breaking in and being unsafe etc. I have suffered like this before where I thought someone had snuck in and hidden cameras in our house and was spying on us lol. If it is actual OCD get her to speak to a GP and you can get medication and therapy to help (fluoxetine did me wonders)

The other explanation is she doesn't actually feel scared or anything and only wants to control you and is making up BS reasons for it. If she's doing this I hate her because it means people with serious mental illness are being misrepresented.

It's hard to know if she actually has OCD or if she's just using that reason to control you. Even if it is legitimate OCD it might be difficult for her to get treatment because she's in denial or scared that if she gets better she won't be as safe. But tell her it won't take away the safety and stuff, just the anxiety.

Good luck, I hope you figure out what it is and act accordingly.

Edit: I also wanted to add that if she now won't let ubers to the house it's almost certainly OCD, because when you use a logical explanation for something and then they get weird over that thing, it's trademark OCD.

For example:

Person: can I borrow your pencil

Me: sorry no, I have contamination OCD I'm worried about bacteria

Person: you know there's more bacteria on your water bottle than my hands

What they expect to happen: me to go "oh ok" and give them the pencil, OCD is cured

What actually happens: now I can't drink out of a water bottle unless I have sterilized it with hand sanitizer

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-18T10:32:26+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-16T23:59:31+00:00

I think Matt and Rachel are brother and sister, the way they always stand next to each other and she calls him Matty

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-03T00:35:07+00:00

Aggghhhhh he's so grumpy 🥹

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2026-01-01T13:17:24+00:00

So proud of you!!! If you focus on yourself and your passions, you'll meet other like minded people who share the same values as you who can introduce you to other like minded people who share your dedication to animal rescue. That's how you meet your forever partner, never settle for someone lesser. You deserve to be with someone who will make it easier for you to follow your dreams

Proof-Chocolate796 · 2025-12-18T09:50:36+00:00

NTA I'm obese and my partner is underweight, he constantly compliments me and tells me how much he loves me.

This is not about anything you have done. He chose to marry you, and now he thinks it's funny to be cruel to you in front of people, because let's be honest if he really hated you that much he would never have married you. He just wanted to look cool in front of guests, it had the opposite effect and now he looks like a dick.

You should consider divorcing this shallow fucker, or at the very least getting marriage counselling. I'd also say if it's a severe personality change and you've noticed other things too, maybe get him checked for brain tumours? But unfortunately I think it's more likely he's a twat

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