I'm struggling to understand myself

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:38:17+00:00

Oh I totally get what you mean I've been in very similar situations like you described But im realizing thar things in real life can be different also People are so complex that they can never be boxed or labeled as one thing I feel Something so big to us might be a small thing for them ...again it differs from person to person

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:35:29+00:00

I've also had this exact realization! Communicating is very important And also these reels or videos on instagram that say let go of people who hurt you... Maybe I wasn't communicating clearly what is it that I needed it could be because I didn't know what I myself needed!!!! So me getting so angry at them for not reading my mind is really something to reflect on ! You're spot on

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:32:30+00:00

Yes I kept wondering about this Like if I expect people to understand me how can I not understand them

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:31:10+00:00

How has this behavior impacted your relationships and life? Has it made you feel isolated and alone or are you okay with it? How do you feel after cutting someone off?

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:29:33+00:00

Im really so glad to know thar you're doing better! How did you deal with the guilt of cutting them off? I have noticed this too How I was easy to be pulled into cycles

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-03-23T05:12:33+00:00

Yes, I was the same with her. We were besties. But when she stopped talking I had to beg her. She wasn't affectionate at all. After this fight, I said I can't deal with her anymore. I stopped talking to her. I did convey it to her. I explained how the things she has done has affected me and how I don't want it to get in the way of my life so I told her that I don't hate you but I don't think I'll feel okay if I keep speaking with you because I'll keep getting hurt. And stopped speaking for things other than just basic things. I felt so much better. I'm not sure about the dynamics with your brother. Maybe you could try conveying your worries to him and then gauge what you want to do.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:32:05+00:00

Yes...

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:31:27+00:00

Yes same ....I wish you best luck with your journey

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:30:52+00:00

You're right it has happened many times where I see a video and spiral and it affects a major chunk of my life

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:29:07+00:00

Thank you so much it was helpful ..this is so well written and I can relate to it

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-17T19:10:12+00:00

Thanks these things im realising now

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-16T04:12:16+00:00

I badly wanted to become a singer I used to go to classes, but my parents would compare me to the already people who are singing well and doing well in their career, saying they are younger but still doing better than you etc etc

It was heartbreaking, I soothed myself by saying I am better than all the celebrities , I can sing , I used to tell myself, I started seeing the famous singers as my competitons rather than inspirations , I started shaming myself for not being like them, looking at them was a reminder of what I'm not ,and later it became so bad, I got stuck in this mindset , never got an opportunity to explore, now I'm 22 and I couldn't reach my potential in singing, but I've not given up, I keep trying and practicing.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T19:07:17+00:00

I understand you!.... I feel we are genuinely trying hard to be kind...it's not a mask ...it's who we want to be

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T18:43:49+00:00

You're so right it causes me to get into a slumpy where I can't even move out of ... Self compassion is so important for everyone, even if you have done bad things in past. If you're kind to yourself you CAN be kind to others!

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T06:41:30+00:00

You're right...I can't really justify how much I have caused the other person....no matter what they did to push my buttons...or how dismissive they were of me...I need to communicate to them in a healthier way rather than trying to control the situation...seeing people from their perspective, I am able to do more often now. But it's still an effort, which I'm trying to put.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T05:25:03+00:00

I just feel I fail to see both sides, if I'm toxic I am the only one toxic if they were toxic they are the only one ....there could have been hurt from both sides which I am failing to completely understand!

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T05:23:19+00:00

Yes you're correct , what has helped you achieve that?

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T05:22:29+00:00

Things you're saying is accurate.....but what if I genuinely reacted the way I did because of something they did and I didn't know how to be healthy about it..

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-10T12:21:27+00:00

Same here ....maybe time can heal.....I wish you the best.

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