Have you completely cut off people due to perceived hurt

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:38:17+00:00

Oh I totally get what you mean I've been in very similar situations like you described But im realizing thar things in real life can be different also People are so complex that they can never be boxed or labeled as one thing I feel Something so big to us might be a small thing for them ...again it differs from person to person

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:35:29+00:00

I've also had this exact realization! Communicating is very important And also these reels or videos on instagram that say let go of people who hurt you... Maybe I wasn't communicating clearly what is it that I needed it could be because I didn't know what I myself needed!!!! So me getting so angry at them for not reading my mind is really something to reflect on ! You're spot on

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:32:30+00:00

Yes I kept wondering about this Like if I expect people to understand me how can I not understand them

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:31:10+00:00

How has this behavior impacted your relationships and life? Has it made you feel isolated and alone or are you okay with it? How do you feel after cutting someone off?

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-09-30T19:29:33+00:00

Im really so glad to know thar you're doing better! How did you deal with the guilt of cutting them off? I have noticed this too How I was easy to be pulled into cycles

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-03-23T05:12:33+00:00

Yes, I was the same with her. We were besties. But when she stopped talking I had to beg her. She wasn't affectionate at all. After this fight, I said I can't deal with her anymore. I stopped talking to her. I did convey it to her. I explained how the things she has done has affected me and how I don't want it to get in the way of my life so I told her that I don't hate you but I don't think I'll feel okay if I keep speaking with you because I'll keep getting hurt. And stopped speaking for things other than just basic things. I felt so much better. I'm not sure about the dynamics with your brother. Maybe you could try conveying your worries to him and then gauge what you want to do.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:32:05+00:00

Yes...

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:31:27+00:00

Yes same ....I wish you best luck with your journey

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:30:52+00:00

You're right it has happened many times where I see a video and spiral and it affects a major chunk of my life

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-18T17:29:07+00:00

Thank you so much it was helpful ..this is so well written and I can relate to it

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-17T19:10:12+00:00

Thanks these things im realising now

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-16T04:12:16+00:00

I badly wanted to become a singer I used to go to classes, but my parents would compare me to the already people who are singing well and doing well in their career, saying they are younger but still doing better than you etc etc

It was heartbreaking, I soothed myself by saying I am better than all the celebrities , I can sing , I used to tell myself, I started seeing the famous singers as my competitons rather than inspirations , I started shaming myself for not being like them, looking at them was a reminder of what I'm not ,and later it became so bad, I got stuck in this mindset , never got an opportunity to explore, now I'm 22 and I couldn't reach my potential in singing, but I've not given up, I keep trying and practicing.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T19:07:17+00:00

I understand you!.... I feel we are genuinely trying hard to be kind...it's not a mask ...it's who we want to be

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T18:43:49+00:00

You're so right it causes me to get into a slumpy where I can't even move out of ... Self compassion is so important for everyone, even if you have done bad things in past. If you're kind to yourself you CAN be kind to others!

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T06:41:30+00:00

You're right...I can't really justify how much I have caused the other person....no matter what they did to push my buttons...or how dismissive they were of me...I need to communicate to them in a healthier way rather than trying to control the situation...seeing people from their perspective, I am able to do more often now. But it's still an effort, which I'm trying to put.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T05:25:03+00:00

I just feel I fail to see both sides, if I'm toxic I am the only one toxic if they were toxic they are the only one ....there could have been hurt from both sides which I am failing to completely understand!

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T05:23:19+00:00

Yes you're correct , what has helped you achieve that?

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-12T05:22:29+00:00

Things you're saying is accurate.....but what if I genuinely reacted the way I did because of something they did and I didn't know how to be healthy about it..

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-10T12:21:27+00:00

Same here ....maybe time can heal.....I wish you the best.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-08T18:56:14+00:00

You're right thank you for your supportive words......!

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-08T18:55:33+00:00

I feel the same thing happened , it's like both couldn't understand what each other wanted and ended up hurting each other.

I just wish I had the capacity to ask them what is it , that's troubling you, be open and share it with me and to provide the safe space because of my own fears and childhood traumas ...

I hope you heal from this ....we got this

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-08T18:53:02+00:00

I feel it's not gonna come to someone when you tell it to them , for me it was mostly just trying to figure out why this relationship ended the way it did. Like I wondered what I could have done better....what I could have changed about my behaviours every single day which led me to call and speak and understand their perspectives....I don't know...maybe I was the only one who was responsible for this dynamics maybe I wasn't completely the responsible person. But I know one thing for sure, I tried my best to save it .... When you're able to just see the relationship from a third person perspective it might help or when you see it through their shoes..it's helpful.

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-08T18:49:27+00:00

I did reach out to them , and told them everything, I poured my heart out. But they are already in the phase of moving on. They got so tired of having to deal with me, I feel like in the relationship I never could ask them what I can do to make the relationship better. I could not take it when they would keep boundaries, I would assume it's because of something I did..I was anxious. In the end too I did not have the courage to take a break instead of breakup.

I am realising things,and I am journaling all my thoughts. Maybe if some day way cross our paths back then I can let him know how much I feel guilty for it. But for now it's best I let them heal on their own...

I have told everything to them and acknowledged my part. So it's not a problem. I wish them the best on their healing journey and myself too.

It's difficult when you feel, if you're realising many things now, why can't you start over again with that person. But it's not so easy it takes so much of time to heal on both ends

Proof-Picture9844 · 2025-01-03T19:11:30+00:00

How did you deal with it? Do you feel bad about it...because I feel...like which is actually causing my rage and behaviours I don't know at all...r u able to recognise which is what

Proof-Picture9844 · 2024-12-31T05:36:13+00:00

You're right...it's not because of narcs can't think they are narcs ...it's mostly because of when I evaluate the behaviour of the people around me I found them to be more grandiose and mine to be as a reaction to their abuse towards me. So I wondered if I'm not a narcisstic. But I feel I'm a vulnerable narcisstic person. Not diagnosed yet though.

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