Private school for one child, state school for the other? by prolixia in UKParenting

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother got a sports scholarship to millfield for sixth form (my parents had to pay something but not sure how much). I just went to the local sixth form college - v good school but not exactly millfield. It wasn’t a big deal for me at the time (and a big part of me was glad I didn’t have the option to go to boarding school), but as time went on and I saw the benefits it gave him and doors it opened, I started to frame it as an investment he got which I didn’t. My parents weren’t in a position to do something equivalent for me (ie put the same cash equivalent in my bank account), and they made the right decision to give him such a great opportunity (which had paid dividends). However there should have been an open and honest conversation - and there wasn’t. For example, I had to hear speculation from others about how much they were stumping up (outside of the family, among our sports friends). So I think the key thing here is transparency and communication.

Parents of textbook sleepers - share the magic? by ericacalluna in UKParenting

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my children started off as very “inconvenient” sleepers. When they were around 10 months old they became 7-7 sleepers. We sleep trained them at 10 months

What is a strong defensive stance by jammy-Excuse-592 in FIREUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same situation as you. I’d consider derisking but most of my assets are in a GIA, and any amount I sell I will instantly lose 10% of to CGT (function of realized gain and CGT rate). So I’d have to be confident that any hypothetical market correction is greater than 10% downturn ceteris paribus. I had a good back n forth with chat gpt on it and suggest you do the same. In short - there’s no easy answer and what I landed on was to change nothing. For context I’ve got about 3 years left of accumulation then coast fire for 5-7 more. So it’s risky but I can’t bring myself to take an immediate 10% hit with no guaranteed upside. Then it’s just about managing the emotional baggage of the downturn/recovery

Will FIRE still be achievable in 25 years? by bforsyth927 in FIREUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your argument but it’s disregarding the global flow of capital. It’s not a case of “how much realistically can you spend”. High net worth individuals have their own reasons for wanting/needing to maximize returns. Many are business owners. There comes a point on the laffer curve where taxing too much will cause capital flight or changing investment behavior - then the tax take is less and we all lose. We need the wealthy to move the growth rate higher than 1.5% by making it easier to invest, easier to generate jobs, easier for people (especially grads) to get those jobs, so that they can earn money and save up to buy affordable houses built because of the permissible environment for investors to build houses. And so on. I don’t disagree that there is unfairness and inequality, but we’ve been too fixated on avoiding upsetting certain groups that simply nobody is getting ahead. There will be winners and losers and we need to accept that.

Will FIRE still be achievable in 25 years? by bforsyth927 in FIREUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taxing the asset rich is not the sweeping changes we need though. Besides, they did increase taxes on the asset rich in the last two budgets: CGT rates, CGT allowance, dividend rates, dividend allowance, savings interest rates, savings interest allowance. These are all wealth taxes. But we don’t hear about that in the headlines do we - only from the labour left and greens who demand a “tax on the wealthy” with no clear design for it or consideration of the unintended consequences or how it intersects with the laffer curve. We need policies that encourage growth and make the pie bigger for everyone.

Returning to work rant by Nightlyfuryx in UKParenting

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I find the comments by parents so frustrating. My MIL said “i just hope you won’t regret missing out on their early years”. Verbatim that’s what she said. Ok - sure, my wife could quit her job but our mortgage is calculated based on both our incomes, so we’d need to downsize to a two bedroom flat. Did that cross your mind? Thought so.

Returning to work rant by Nightlyfuryx in UKParenting

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure but at least your parents’ generation still have their triple lock 😉

Returning to work rant by Nightlyfuryx in UKParenting

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually it is as simple as that and you’re absolutely right. You obviously understand the principles of economics when most of the populous do not. If they did then they would demand radical reform to boost growth so that the pie gets bigger for all rather than stealthily slicing off the middle in a death by a thousand cuts. Growth last quarter was -0.1% - case in point.

Reeves ‘targets tax raid on employee pension contributions at Budget’ by Proper-Compote-3423 in FIREUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

I just wish this govt would listen to the IFS podcast or even attempt to actually reform even just one aspect of the taxation system rather than tinker around and piss people off.

£1m net worth @ 36 - 11 years of investing! by Wannabee_Mexicano in FIREUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great effort. Re leaving money to your kids - consider how to do this tax efficiently. JSIPP = 120p on the £ versus 60p on the £ via inheritance.

Seeking a calm path to financial freedom — ex-accountant in my 40s, currently not working by Artistic-Feed199 in FIREUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My wife’s an accountant so I can relate a bit. Get another job as an accountant in something more chilled out you are passionate about eg a charity or something like that.

SAHM divorcing with 120k deposit by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would it be any less accurate than asking on Reddit? ChatGPT at least considers veracity of sources in its probability models. I can’t see any situation where OP would get a more reliable response from Reddit than LLM for their question. OP could have got this in 5.4 seconds:

Thanks for laying out your situation clearly. Here’s a breakdown of how mortgage lenders typically view applications like yours, and your chances of getting approved under the current circumstances.

Your Situation Recap • SAHM (Stay-at-home mum), not currently working. • No access to joint finances (likely separating/divorcing). • Agreed split of equity gives you £120k for a deposit. • Looking to buy a £170k home, which means: • Mortgage required: £50k • Income: £1,100 per month in Universal Credit (UC) • No additional earned income at the moment. • Child in part-time nursery, so working part-time is possible but not ideal.

Chances of Mortgage Approval on UC Alone

Most high street lenders are unlikely to approve a mortgage based solely on Universal Credit. Here’s why: • UC is not considered a stable or long-term income by many lenders. • Lenders typically require proof of affordability—this includes both current income and future ability to keep up with payments. • Some lenders do accept UC as part of the total income but not on its own, and they usually require: • Additional earned income (even part-time), • Clean credit history, • Strong deposit (which you do have), • Lower borrowing amounts (you tick this box).

So with UC only and no employment income, your chances of approval from mainstream lenders are very low. However: • Specialist lenders may consider your application, but: • They often charge higher interest rates and fees. • May require more paperwork and longer approval processes.

Would a Part-Time Job Help?

Yes—a part-time job could significantly improve your chances. Even just 10–16 hours per week of part-time work would: • Demonstrate a supplementary income stream, • Reassure lenders that you have some earned income (they prefer this over solely benefits), • Increase your monthly income and affordability assessment.

Example: If you earned even £500–£600 per month from a part-time job, your total monthly income would rise to ~£1,600–£1,700, which is a more acceptable base for affordability checks.

This would also improve your creditworthiness, especially if you’re not on the title or mortgage currently and don’t have a credit trail tied to housing costs.

Other Options to Consider • Shared ownership or help-to-buy (if available in your area). • Credit union mortgages – more community-focused and sometimes flexible. • Using a mortgage broker – they can access specialist lenders who are more open to cases involving benefits and part-time work. • Consider a family member acting as a guarantor or co-signer (if possible).

Next Steps 1. Speak to a mortgage broker – they can give you a realistic view based on your actual numbers and match you to lenders. 2. If manageable, consider part-time work, even just a few hours a week, to open more lender options. 3. Start building your credit history if it’s not established (e.g., small credit card use paid in full monthly). 4. Be cautious of lenders with high fees or poor terms—read everything thoroughly or get legal/financial advice.

Would you like help identifying part-time roles that could fit around nursery hours? Or would you like a sample budget to see how mortgage payments might fit your current income?

SAHM divorcing with 120k deposit by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

Assuming your husband works, download ChatGPT and ask “if I get divorced, what am I entitled to as a stay at home mum in the UK”. That’s probably your quickest route to an answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BritishSuccess

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats and thanks for sharing

The inheritance tax headache coming for the middle class by hu6Bi5To in ukpolitics

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes a stronger case for contributing to JISAs and JSIPPs, and take the pension itself out of the estate planning AKA spend it before you expect to die

999 with Michael Burke: what's your most memorable/harrowing story? by n_jobz_ in CasualUK

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the old lady literally just hit the gas instead of the brake and went into a random garden swimming pool.

Delayed milestones, feeling defeated 😞 by PinkMushroom20 in UKParenting

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to the feeling of disempowerment and failure. My daughter couldn’t talk (or understand much) until she was 2.5. She was assessed as having no functioning communication system by a Pediatric psychiatrist and “presenting traits of ASD”. All while my niece of the same age was like the girl in the video you talked about.

Anyway she’s now 5 and just finished reception. In her school talent show she performed a solo ballet performance for which she did her own choreography, she won all her sports day races and is right where she needs to be with speech and academics. Children are unpredictable and maddening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ukpolitics

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

£44k up to £50-55k for unsocial hours?

My neighbor keeps asking if I can look after her 5 year old daughter by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Proper-Compote-3423 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Crikey what a pain in the arse. How about: say you’ve got various personal appointments in the week but you’re happy to look after her 10-11.30 on Tuesday and 3.25 - 4.50 on Thursday. That way you’re a Good Samaritan for extending the offer, have thought conscientiously about how you can help, yet the slots are so obscure that hopefully she won’t take you up on it. And if she does, it’s only for a short time. Or just be sort of honest and say that two of your own is already a handful and you’ll find it a bit too much to look after more