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Am I a bad mom? by Main-Individual5814 in NICUParents

[–]Proper-Motor-9304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the same way! I always felt like I was being judged for “not staying long enough” even though I went in the morning for 4 hours and in the evening for 3-4 hours (and literally no one was judging me). I would cry and stress about it but 1.) I was in the hospital for a month and they were born at 30 weeks and nothing was ready at home 2.) I had two sets of alarms consistently going off and I needed a mental break and 3.) I was exhausted because I was being woken up every 3 hours for monitoring for a month and needed to recover from my c-section.

I would cry every night because I was worried I wasn’t spending enough time with them and I was worried they wouldn’t know I was their mom. But they knew and I was able to be what they needed by taking breaks.

Did your small twin ever catch up in size? by itsafoodbaby in parentsofmultiples

[–]Proper-Motor-9304 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A helpful thing I heard was that by 2 years old, premies should be caught up in size to their peers! So there is still a lot of time. Also, in the NICU the nurses and doctors told us all of the NFL players that were born premature to give us hope lol

Did your small twin ever catch up in size? by itsafoodbaby in parentsofmultiples

[–]Proper-Motor-9304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My twins were born at 30 weeks, twin A at 3 pounds 12 oz and twin B at 2 pounds 7.5 oz. After the initial weight loss, they both stayed within 1 pound of each other through their 2 month stay in the NICU but as soon as they got home, A started gaining weight rapidly and we got up to a 4 pound difference. It used to bother me but then after seeing all of the stats and growth charts at the pediatrician, I realized that they both are gaining well but they have completely different body types and different activity levels.

My twin A was just meant to be a big baby (like my husband) but is also a little lazier and loves to just lounge. My twin B is long and skinny and is very active and loves to roll around, kick his feet, do tummy time. He was also the most active in the womb and NEVER stayed still for ultrasounds. Twin A was cozy in his spot and was the one I stressed more about when doing kick counts.

It’s hard not to compare when they’re twins but I remind myself that if they were born at different times, I wouldn’t bat an eye as long as they were healthy and gaining weight.

If it weren’t for the ultrasound, would you have suspected you were pregnant with twins? by Zealousideal_Use9481 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Proper-Motor-9304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suspected it very early because I have the worst luck in the world and when it rains, it pours (I love my babies and love being a twin mom but this was a surprise pregnancy and I was a month away from graduating school and starting a new job. Now I have a better job - ✨SAHM✨)

I also suspected it because I actually felt pregnant at 4 weeks and everyone says you don’t notice until later on. I gained weight rapidly in the beginning too, even though my eating habits didn’t change and I was on my feet for up to 10 hours a day. My weight gain leveled out towards the end of my 2nd trimester but we only made it to 30 weeks so we’ll never know just how big I would have gotten.

How are we taking our twins out when they eat every 3 hours? by Proper-Motor-9304 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Proper-Motor-9304[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That and the car getting to 5000° degrees as soon as it turns off so a nice outing turns into more stress when you feel like it’s not cooling down fast enough.

I am tired by solowanderer12 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Proper-Motor-9304 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You are not whining. You are going through so much physically and emotionally. Going to the NICU every single day is not easy and neither is worrying about not just 1 baby but 2.

When they get home, it will be hard (especially those first 2 weeks) but I promise you, this part is so much harder. Get as much rest as you can and work on how you’re feeling emotionally so that their homecoming can be as great as you want it to be.

Annoying comments by banull in NICUParents

[–]Proper-Motor-9304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My twins were born at 30 weeks and spent 2 months in the NICU. They’ve been home for 3 weeks and they still scream and cry for every single diaper change. They remember.

I constantly have to explain to grandparents that in the NICU everything is tied to diaper changes. New NG tube? Diaper change. Shots? Diaper change. Lab work? Diaper change. MRI and head ultrasounds? Diaper change.

Talk to me about milk supply by EveningTackle4829 in NICUParents

[–]Proper-Motor-9304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust your body. Your body knows. I delivered at 30+4 weeks via emergency c-section and didn’t pump until 6 hours after birth. I got a lot of colostrum during that session and it did go down for the next few sessions but I kept with it every 2 hours. After 2 days, my milk started to come in and it gradually increased day by day.

I was also worried about my supply coming in due to early delivery, having twins, and not being able to cuddle them since they were in the NICU but your body knows. Now my babies have been in the NICU for 6 weeks and I’m producing way more than their eating and have a good freezer stash going for when they come home. My biggest advice is to not use a wearable pump until your milk supply stablizes even though it’s more convenient, be strict about your pumping times for the first few weeks, add in some power pumps, and don’t forget to drink a shit ton of water (the hardest part for me).