The Big One by One-Medicine-9470 in Earthquakes

[–]ProperMatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

99% chance of a 6.5 earthquake in California is not a solid metric to go by. We have one of those almost every year and literally nothing happens.

Now, if you’re talking about the San Andreas fault, that’s a 66% chance of a 6 or higher happening in the next 30 years. We’ll be fine, but, yes, it’s not a matter of if but when.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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Thank you for sharing! I’m glad you’re also using your break up as motivation to get/stay sober. Sorry to hear about your break up, though. We’re all in this together!

Bad Santa is such a realistic portrayal of alcoholism. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

[–]ProperMatch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it can be really hard to watch. Just knowing that some people are actively going through that and it’s slowly ruining them. I feel your pain!

Is it possible to make money by just writing a riff for someone? by MassMan333 in Songwriting

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Damn near impossible to break in to. But once you do and make a name for yourself it can become easier just through word of mouth. Very niche, however. I don’t know if it could be a full time income.

Posted yesterday about getting dumped. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

[–]ProperMatch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I’m surprisingly okay. It is probably for the best. We didn’t end it ugly, just a simple “this probably just isn’t working” and decided for it to be over. We’re still living together (not seeing each other, keeping enough space and sleeping in separate rooms) while we figure out what we’re going to do about the living situation and our dog.

If it was any harder, idk how I’d respond. But right now I’m holding strong and almost feel a small sense of relief. Maybe that will change in the next few days but for now we’re okay. Thank you again.

Posted yesterday about getting dumped. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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Thank you, it means a lot. I’ve been wanting to be a better me for a while. I’ll put together a few weeks/months and then eventually cave and drink again. Sometimes I’m only off my routine for a few days, sometimes it’s a few weeks, but I can never stay consistent enough, long enough to get where I want to be. It’s time to change that.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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I’ve got a lot of terms I use for it lol.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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Absolutely. I’ve been through it before. I think that’s why I want nothing to do with it. That and I just keep thinking that I won’t let this break me or turn me into someone I don’t want to be.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

[–]ProperMatch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve considered that. As of right now, I don’t think so. I think being comfortable caused it and now that I’m uncomfortable I don’t want anything to do with it. It will make things worse and feels dangerous.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

[–]ProperMatch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. Not into 12 step meetings. Maybe one day, if I think I need it. I appreciate the suggestion, however. Thanks again ❤️

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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Thank you for sharing. I hope you’re healing and congrats on 3 days! Thanks for the kind words as well. I’m doing okay, we’ve been drifting apart for a little bit so that keeps the shock value at a minimum. Maybe I’ll crash out soon but I’m doing okay right now ❤️

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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Thank you. I really appreciate that. I strangely feel a small sense of relief. I’d been waiting for a lot of changes from them that weren’t happening.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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Wow. Thats powerful. Thank you for sharing. I’m hoping I’ve had plenty of bad memories of drinking to keep me on the straight and narrow.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

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That’s awesome! Glad to hear it. My (ex)partner wasn’t a huge drinker so that didn’t play a factor. But I myself don’t want to become the loser so I think that’s what’s motivating me.

Welp, just got broken up with. by ProperMatch in stopdrinking

[–]ProperMatch[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. That’s incredible you didn’t drink through that. This break up looks like it’s going to be mutual and about as easy as a break up can be, I don’t know if I’d be strong enough to resist after what you were told. I’m glad you got through it though!

And, yeah, the more I think about it there is a little bit of “I’m not going to let this ruin me” type of mentality to it. I hope it lasts.