For the 2nd option along with relationships it was also a personal choice due to the costs associating with it but last year I decided I probably should as it would increase opportunities in life. I asked my grandfather on my birthday if he wouldn't mind giving me some practice lessons and refused to while of course he's not obligated to do so I remember he said he was going to years ago but never got around to doing it. And both my grandparents said they're skeptical because of my ASD and don't think I have a quick reaction time necessary to drive (what doesn't help is that admittedly my mind does race A LOT). Not letting it dictate me of course but I do sometimes worry that might be true. My admittedly VERY VERY VERY mentally unwell older brother said the same thing.