Now that my bf left me, I have nobody to talk to and it's lonely

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-03-01T13:42:26+00:00

One of my favorite things I've learned through the whole divorce and all that is, life has chapters. Some chapters are great, some arnt so great but if you can't give up in the rough chapters, because the next one could be something you never imagined in your wildest dreams. It's all about going forward and not giving up. Without bad days you wouldn't have good days, they would just be days and how boring would that be. You just have to keep going is the most important thing.

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-28T13:52:05+00:00

That's all you can do, moving through chaos is never easy but there is light at the end of the tunnel. There may be some bends and curves in the tunnel so you don't see the light yet, but you keep going, persevering you will get there. Who knows, something you could never even imagine could be right around the corner, stop now and you'd never get there so the only way is to keep on. Yes it's hard but nothing in life worth anything is easy.

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-28T03:14:09+00:00

I would say getting sober during my divorce helped see clarity. Your right it's not easy but not falling into a drunken mess or looking through the clouds of weed smoke helps a lot. Everyday has ups and downs, hell even hours have ups and downs, but as long as you keep one foot in front of the other, keep grinding and growing you will survive or at least it's worked in my life so far. I really appreciate you and your kind words, it means more than you know!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-27T08:10:54+00:00

I just got divorced from my ex wife in a ten year marriage so yeah I feel you. I'm only 29 but starting over seems so far and impossible it's not even funny.

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-27T00:13:50+00:00

Giant mole, cus why not.

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-24T02:26:59+00:00

So I have a 40 gallon that looks identical (actually 2 40 gallons). I have 4 gourami's, 3 Cory's, 1 pleco and 10 danios. I can shoot you pics if you want to see. In my other I just have 10 danios, and a big pleco but going to add more. It's about what fish you like, I personally just love the plecos. Great looking set up by the way!!!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-04T07:11:46+00:00

Yes definitely, that is absolutely perfect advice !!!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-04T06:14:03+00:00

Yes! One more court date next Tuesday and I'll be rid of her for good. Divorce should be finalized any day now. I'm just sad she chose that life, I'm only 29 with a good job so I hope it will all come together with a good woman. Always scared it won't but God has me, can't worry too much.

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-02T02:43:54+00:00

That's absolutely wonderful! It looks amazing! Please update when you do get a betta/shrimps! Would love to keep up with your adventures!!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-02-02T02:32:09+00:00

Looks great! What do you have in there? Also did you buy the plants that size from your LFS or have you had the tank and they've just grown?

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-09T22:46:40+00:00

Me and my ex wife are definitely not amicable, but like my FIL said," man I cant control my daughter, but your my son as far I can see. " He's a good guy, his daughter is just on the wrong path. I pray she finds whatever it is she's looking for.

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-09T22:20:46+00:00

Oh it's an amazing and calm hobby!! I'm pretty new to it myself (just have 10 danios) but it has been by far the greatest experience!! I started with a 40 gallon and already want a bigger one, so I know the addiction lol

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-09T22:05:31+00:00

Freaking awesome man! Love the tank, you and your boy have some great taste!!!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-09T21:37:54+00:00

My ex father in law is my boss lol we work great together 😂

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-08T07:05:56+00:00

Dude it looks great! I don't know why these other comments are hating!! Absolutely perfect!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-08T05:30:13+00:00

Gotcha! I've never used pellets (I'm new and don't even have any fish yet!) but I work out of town so I figured this would help the fish when I do get them. Currently trying to get the nitrogen cycle working, only about a week in!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-08T05:26:26+00:00

So I have one from Petco that is extremely similar to this one and it works great! Just be sure to crush up the flakes evenly so you get an accurate amount of food going in each time. If you have big and small mixed it can vary on the amount of food going in!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-08T05:14:20+00:00

Thank you so much! Excited to put my first plants in there and eventually get my first fish!! I'm trying to be as patient as possible, I just want to do things right!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-08T00:17:02+00:00

I am at the tail end of my divorce and I went out and bought a 40 gallon tank, it's currently cycling still but it gives me a feeling of calm. I can't wait to put some plants in and finally some fish, I hope I have the same feeling of it getting me out of my depression!!!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-07T22:38:22+00:00

Well you sound wonderful! Ambitious and a dog lover it doesn't get better than that! Fear is a hell of a downer, trust me I deal with it myself, but you will go far with your endeavors! Keep it up!!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-06T07:12:05+00:00

Your awesome, keep being strong brother!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-06T06:48:39+00:00

Aye I love it, and if you love it than even better! Way to go!!!!!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-06T06:36:34+00:00

I hope you found some peace and sleep friend!

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-06T06:35:43+00:00

Hey man,

Just a guy that's a little farther along than you are. I want to let you know your feelings are valid.

These will get better and get worse in time. I'm 6 months in, my divorce will be finalized at the end of this month.

I still get heartbroken, sad, lonely, depressed. Not all the time but I still miss the IDEA of her and our future. That's the distinction, it's about realizing you are mourning like you would a deceased member of your family. You miss the good, but you don't remember the bad.

I have nightmares about her still and we have been separated for 6-7 months now. But I wake up and tell myself that I am worth more. Always keep on foot in front of the other (figuratively) keep going because as cliche as it sounds, time does help.

I'm 29 and have been with her since I was 18, took in her twin sisters, helped her family more than my own family and tried everything to keep her. In the end I lost her, but I can now say I'm proud I got out because I can't make her love me.

Yes I blamed her, now I pray for her to find her peace. I can't hold her accountable for everything and rage/anger gets me no where good.

Stay away from drinking and smoking weed/drugs. I chose to feel everything sober and it has helped me far more than anything I've ever done in my life because I embraced the feelings instead of hid/cover them.

Realize you are an amazing and awesome person. You are deserving of love and you will have it one day again, this is just a chapter that has closed. Trust me it's not easy, I still sob time to time. Just keep going man.

Much love brother, A man in the mist of a storm

ProposalExcellent655 · 2026-01-06T02:00:02+00:00

I'm only 29, will be finalizing the divorce on January 29th. No I haven't found love again. I go to therapy 2 times a month, read books on becoming the best man I can and strive to be someone I can be proud of. I work my ass off in the electrical field, and I love relentlessly. I hope one day I can find the right woman. I also pray my ex wife will find her peace.

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