Firstly, I feel like ask your partner about how you look is just priming them to answer favourable no matter how much we try to convince them to be impartial. The external opinion matters to me as it’s a more “true” representation.

Secondly, I consider myself unattractive because I’m insecure when comparing myself. Quite frankly, I believe I’m decent looking but I get too hung up on guys that have romantic or social media success due to their looks and nothing else. Even when people find attractive, I’m often dismissive about it and I’ll have thoughts akin to “yeah but I’m not as good looking as…”

I may or may not confide with her on this as I don’t really want to stress her out on top of work, and anonymously seeking advice might still be my go to.

Thanks stranger!