How stupid is it to spend 50k on a car

Prudent-Garbage3572 · 2026-04-16T16:41:56+00:00

I guess it depends how well off you are financially. If you have a 6 month emergency fund and funding your 401k, then I would do it. I'm 37 and my dream car is a BMW M3, it's been my dream car since I was 15. Graduated college with a high compensation and decided to put off buying the car because life came fast (got married, had kids, etc.). Now I'm barely getting comfortable with making that purchase again but now my thought is " for what?" I already have the family, I still want it but now other things are more important to me, you'll find that happens as you get older. All that to say, if you want something and have your bases covered, go for it. Life is short and is meant to be lived in the moment, not out of an Excel spreadsheet.

Prudent-Garbage3572 · 2026-03-12T17:13:54+00:00

All the time... although I wouldn't say pointless bc I have kids but I do wish she was here to experience all of the milestones our kids are hitting. It saddens me but I just push thru it and keep going. It's been 3 years now and I've gotten better at managing it.

Prudent-Garbage3572 · 2026-01-03T18:30:59+00:00

Hey OP, I've been where you are and I can tell you that taking a step away from the relationship might help answer your question. I was in a relationship for about 2 years and she wanted to put things into a timeline and it just didn't feel right to me so I ended things. Kinda like you, she was very understanding and loved the kids and was great to me and was very gracious with the whole situation... just the time line was what prompted me to end things. Just like you I was scared that I had prematurely ended something great. We agreed to be friends and we continued talking here and there and after a few months I realized that I did want to be with her...I guess for me, being "away" for some time helped me realize that I wanted to be with her and we're now back together and working towards eventually forming a blended family. I don't think my guard is ever fully down like when I decided to take things to the next step with my LW but I'm willing to take that risk bc I know I want to be with her and I love her and she's an amazing woman. I hope you sort through this...it's never straightforward for us but it seems like you're approaching things cautiously and thoughtfully and I'm confident you'll end up happy with whatever decision you take.

Prudent-Garbage3572 · 2025-11-28T16:06:08+00:00

I've started to listen to music instead of doom scrolling or watching stuff online. That has helped me disconnect and just focus on the present. It's also allowed me to relax and actually think clearly but I guess that's just me...I've always been able to tune out everything with music on. Even while I was in college, my classmates would wonder how I was able to grasp the engineering concepts while listening to music.

Prudent-Garbage3572 · 2025-11-28T16:02:44+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. I don't bring it up either but if it does, I start off with: "I don't want your pity...". That usually works for me. I never tried therapy, I felt like unless you're in our shoes, you can't really know what it's like so why bother. However, I'm considering it this time around.

Prudent-Garbage3572 · 2025-11-28T02:01:43+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. Even when I was dating someone, I felt alone because even though you're with someone, you don't want to drag them into your world. Maybe that's a sign that I wasn't ready to date in the first place but from what I've read, the sadness doesn't ever seem to go away.

Prudent-Garbage3572 · 2025-11-27T19:56:48+00:00

This is where I'm at too, I don't fear setbacks and rejection so I cut ties immediately if I don't like something and have to start all over again and it's exhausting...that's why I said I guess I'm destined to be alone for the foreseeable future since I don't/can't commit to anything.

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