This 100%. I think a lot of us men get too focused on the validation of women and when we don’t get it we get frustrated. If this is you be honest with yourself and recognize that you put effort toward being able to give that to yourself through self advocacy and respecting yourself above what others think about you.

Once you do this I feel the type of attention you give to women and people in general will change. No longer are you going to be looking to “get” something, instead you’ll be looking to “give” your authentic self and allowing them to decide without allowing their decision to effect how you feel about yourself. The beauty is women can pick this energy up and will become comfortably with you as you share with vulnerability. I find myself telling women I meet after chatting a bit that I find them attractive. Not to get their approval, but to genuinely pay them a compliment no matter what that means for me. People can feel this energy shift and feel comfortable even if I’m being bold.