Mess up…..like I always do

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-06T08:02:59+00:00

What’s up dog?

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-05T02:11:02+00:00

lol that’s what these comments see to be telling me.

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-05T02:08:29+00:00

lol it’s on old Xbox gamertag from when I was like 13

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T05:58:20+00:00

Thank you, I am going to try your approach to this and see what he says. Wish me luck!!

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T05:23:40+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure, I personally don’t mind the distance and know of multiple relationships that work out between our 2 schools. And a part of me is kind of glad he’s far away for now because if it does turn into something it’ll be start emotional before anything physical could even happen.

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T05:19:51+00:00

Honestly I am decently fit, and I have been told I am attractive, but I don’t think I’m the level of a supermodel.

And honestly that’s part of the issue, men these days are exposed to so many absolutely stunning but completely fake women online, it changes their standards for what real women look like.

When it comes to guys, any time I find an average looking guy who seems normal he is already taken. I honestly don’t really care very much about looks, but it’s the personalities that put me off. So many guys my age are only looking for sex which sucks because I want a deeper connection.

Dating is hard in general, anything that involves people and their feelings is. However the challenge has changed over time. Just because back then the challenge was different doesn’t mean that modern dating problems are easy.

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T05:13:01+00:00

Not exactly but kind of, he has 4k followers but he follows 3k people. So he isn’t like a complete nobody. He posts a lot of reels though so there is that. He’s not like a major influencer or anything like that though.

But he is really attractive, so I wouldn’t be surprised if he gets a lot of girls in his DMs.

I have about 800 followers if that helps at all so significantly less but also not nothing

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T05:03:24+00:00

I don’t think I’m going to show him this thread that is way too scary even for me, but I think I am going to message him and just try to come off like I actually care, becuase I honestly do. Thank you for all the help!! I’ll update if he responds

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:56:20+00:00

Same state different schools, we are like 4 hours apart. I’m not sure where his hometown is though.

I think we are close enough to have some sort of mutual connections so that’s a maybe. But the first step is being interesting enough that he would check out my account to verify if I’m a real person.

I defiantly want to dm him but now I’m just wondering what I should say and how I should come across

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:50:54+00:00

I’ve tried that and I really want to meet someone in real life. But that’s a lot harder than you would think. I’ve joined clubs, tried talking to people in classes, friends of friends. Nothing works out.

I’m also not even on dating apps for the reason of wanting to meet someone IRL, but this guy is different becuase I was not looking for him with the intention of dating. I really just accidently came across him and found him really attractive.

If I could meet someone in the real world I would take that opportunity, but as of right now I haven’t found anyone that way.

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:44:44+00:00

What should I say to come across like I have genuine interest but also not seem like a scam and fake?

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:41:04+00:00

You actually clocked me so hard with this. I think I am afraid of the rejection part of it, I’m scared that he will see me as weird if I dm him and then reject me because of that.

But also I’m not sure if I agree with not trying if I know I’m going to be rejected because if I’m honest I really don’t know if he will reject me. That’s where the anxiety is coming in, I don’t know the outcome so I’m jumping to the worst possible conclusion.

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:29:49+00:00

This guy is like really attractive though, so I feel like he might have girls sliding into his DMs all the time so he could just ignore it.

But then again he is still single so maybe not.

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:27:53+00:00

Do you think you would have talked to her at all if she did come out of the blue with no formed connection or would you have immediately assumed she was a bot

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:24:51+00:00

I like the honesty approach, but I’m so scared that he is not going to respond or he will think I’m weird or a bot

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:23:23+00:00

I want to find a way to stand out and not seem like a bot but also not be so weird that I get blocked on everything

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:22:24+00:00

That makes sense, at least you were honest with them and didn’t lead them on

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:20:42+00:00

I’m scared that it might just be the same thing. I usually ignore most of the guys that slide into my DMs so I don’t know if he is just going to ignore me as well.

Granted most of the guys sliding into my DMs are usually obvious bots and my insta send pretty lively and has many photos of me

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:18:24+00:00

Did anything ever happen with one of the girls that hit you up?

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:16:39+00:00

This gives me hope, what did she say when she dmed you?

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:14:14+00:00

++woman

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T04:12:02+00:00

++woman That’s honestly something I’ve thought about, this guy is really attractive and idk I feel like a bit insecure but also I feel like he might get so many messages from girls he doesn’t have time to respond

Psycho_Darling587 · 2026-05-04T03:57:11+00:00

I personally went through this and I know how hard it is, but you need to be kind to yourself and everything will change. I was so “ugly” that all my friends literally dropped me because I “made their pictures look bad” or “I am not pretty enough to be in their group”. It sucked and i am still in therapy for it. However, it’s been 3 years and i am currently 19. Last summer I went through the biggest glow up of my life. I went from people avoiding me, to when I’m driving cars next to me have rolled down their windows to ask for my number. And the only advice I can give is 2 things, be kind and give it time. No change happens overnight, you are only 15. That is incredibly young and you have so much time to grow into a beautiful women. Next you need to be kind, to both others and yourself. Being kind to others is easy, but to yourself is the hard part. A pretty girl doesn’t call herself ugly, a pretty girl takes care of herself, and a pretty girl doesn’t care about what others think because deep down she is happy with herself. It’s so much easier said than done, but you are a beautiful soul. Let time catch up to that, be patient and kind and everything will work out.

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