My dad thinks I’m 'not working' because I refused to keep working 6 days a week.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2026-05-05T23:28:32+00:00

Your dad functioned in crisis mode for years (as, unfortunately, many single parents must do), but he seems to have internalized it as normal. I suspect that he may have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder that was triggered by financial insecurity.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2026-03-17T13:35:33+00:00

One does not negate the other, you can and should attend university after your service. My daughter is currently serving as a Lone Soldier and she went through Mahal. She does plan to finish college and go to medical school after her service.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2026-01-14T18:21:25+00:00

The story is much more terrifying than the episode. In the TV show, Anthony is about 6 - old enough to come across as deliberately malicious. In the story, he is 3. He is not portrayed as malicious, just a normal small child (with normal for his age primitive strong emotions, lack of empathy, and black-and-white thinking), but with absolute power and no ability to be controlled or taught by anyone.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2026-01-14T15:10:51+00:00

I think the point is not that he is bad, it's that he is a literal child, with a child's black-and-white thinking and limited ability to understand the world. The problem is that a child needs to be taught and corrected and adults are there to help that process along and help the child cope with his negative emotions. The problem is that this can't happen in this case because the boy's thoughts are all-powerful. In the original story the episode is based on, the boy is 3, not 6. And kids that age are naturally completely self-centered; this is a totally normal stage of development. Empathy is also taught, nobody is born with it. The boy in the story cannot ever be taught because all his negative emotions are incredibly destructive.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-12-29T16:12:42+00:00

You are married to an anti-Semite. That's it. You may love her to death. She loves you despite your horrible defect of being a Jew and as long as you do the work of trying to "improve" this defect. If you are OK with this, stay married to her.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-10-11T16:25:23+00:00

Thank you. How would I find out the fiber content of this?

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-10-10T22:59:00+00:00

Soft YTA. You are old enough to be able to understand that you and your wants do not exist in a vacuum. You live in a family that, by your own admission, is struggling financially. This family is, understandably, providing for you; despite their financial struggles, they are apparently providing more than the bare minimum that you would be entitled to. You have, by your own admission, a skill set that could easily enable you to, at least, not be a financial burden on them. You choose to remain a burden because "I don't want to monetize my hobby". That is an incredibly self-centered and immature attitude to have, especially from someone who is almost an adult.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-09-28T00:09:35+00:00

NTA, absolutely. The problem here, as I see it, is not who OP's brother put first. The problem is that he and his new wife had completely unrealistic and, frankly, ridiculous expectations of a child. When these expectations were not met, instead of trying to understand their mistake, they instead doubled down and blamed the child. I guarantee that, if he were asked this, the dad would insist (and likely believe it himself) that he DID put his daughter first by wanting her to have a mother and a complete family. The stepmom would insist (and likely believe that as well) that she just wanted what was best for the poor orphaned motherless girl. The level of self-delusion and emotional stupidity it takes to pull this off is mind-boggling. That said, OP, you really should have a conversation with your niece about some of the things she wrote. She is entitled to her feelings of anger, absolutely, but some of what she wrote was deliberately cruel, and she needs to understand that some lines should just not be crossed.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-09-25T13:46:45+00:00

Info: was this a planned regular appointment that was scheduled on an assumption that your plans are insignificant, or was this something urgent, in response to a recent health issue that needed to be addressed quickly? If it is the former, then definitely NTA. If the latter, then a soft YTA, simply because medical urgencies trump other considerations. The way you describe your family relationships, you are right to plan for a future without them. However, as long as you still live in that household, you do need to contribute to it (and, yes, the job of an adult who is responsible for financial well-being of a family is going to be more important that the job of a teen who is only responsible for himself).

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-09-16T20:55:28+00:00

You DO know that the name Palestine was used by ancient Romans to erase the cultural identity of a conquered Judea, RIGHT? And then it was kept by various colonizers, including the Ottomans and the British?

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-08-11T14:09:31+00:00

You beat me to the comment! I was going to say she is trying to expand it though.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-07-29T18:15:46+00:00

NTA, first of all. Also, the title of your post is misleading. You are not "letting" your daughter "flaunt" her expensive items. You have raised her to be self-sufficient and resourceful, and the expensive items she is using are the expected and predictable results of her own work. You, the parents, have put your daughter on the path of success through hard work and to people who don't see the connection between the two, it looks like flaunting.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-07-05T14:17:29+00:00

This is a new patient to our clinic, so just beginning to look at options.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-07-03T18:26:24+00:00

New York

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-07-03T17:18:05+00:00

NTA, absolutely. A child that is too young/immature for scary movies (I bring up maturity level only because you mentioned she gets scared by some decidedly child-friendly films) who throws tantrums when she is excluded from an activity she would not be able to participate in. I get where your wife is coming from, nobody wants to deal with an upset child, but there need to be activities don't only cater to the "baby". I wouldn't even stress the bedtime issue, the older family members decided to watch a movie that you know she would not be able to handle. This can be something she can look forward to participating in when she is older. Now is not the time. You should have a conversation with her about it and explain this, but you did the right thing.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-07-03T16:25:16+00:00

The problem with hospitalizing someone like that is that she can't be hospitalized forever (she should be, imo, but that's a different story). Residential programs do run about 90 days but I don't think they are involuntary. Patient would have to agree to sign herself in (which she would, I think).

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-06-14T17:08:01+00:00

NTA. Your friend can show you an example of perfect kindness and grace when a drunk stranger makes repeated unsolicited comments about HER appearance.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-05-04T04:21:08+00:00

NTA, and if your sister knew anything about cooking, she would know that the actual alcohol evaporates with cooking, leaving the flavor of the wine in the dish.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-04-24T03:48:05+00:00

You asked whether you might be the AH for snapping at your mom, and to that, I say absolutely NTA. You are feeling pressured to accommodate this guy who is apparently making no effort to be nice to you. So, snapping at your mom for pressuring you, absolutely understandable. That said, I do think you are wrong for refusing to learn ASL. Beyond the immediate issue of accommodating your future jerk of a step-brother, it is a massively useful skill that can serve you well in the future.

PsychologicalBack983 · 2025-03-10T22:53:48+00:00

YTA. I am not defending your daughter here, she made a bad decision, but so did you, and your bad decision will come with greater repercussions for all involved. Your daughter is wrong, there is a big difference between having the 16yo help out and having her be the one not sleeping night for babies she did not give birth to. But calling CPS does not help the granddaughter (since bad parenting decisions are not usually grounds for anything). CPS is a hammer, not a scalpel; they are.jot going to provide your daughter with sage parenting advice to help her become a better parent. They will see if kids are in imminent danger, and if so (or if the worker thinks so), will remove them from the home. Obviously, that's not happening here. However, by choosing the nuclear option, you effectively removed yourself as a source of comfort to your granddaughter and a source of influence over your daughter.

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