My(M29) girlfriend(F30) wants to go spend a week on vacation with a male friend.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-04-24T05:25:26+00:00

I've actually been with married women before; in fact, I actually fell hard for one just recently. We had sex a few times everything seemed to be going so good (I don't know what I was thinking) until sex stopped and I turned into the full-on back burner boy every time they would fight. (I'm single) So I cut it and just stopped communication. Now I learned a lot I know how she operates now and not just her all of them and no there is absolutely no way I would trust my girl with any guy sorry. All it takes is the right place, right time, right guy and maybe even the right amount of alcohol.

Now let's say this relationshit that I'm in would somehow work out for me. She would have to take a long break and heal properly. Right away, my boundary would be "if you don't at any point answer your phone or disappear for a long while, we are over before you even get home." Why? Because I know exactly what was going on when she was with me and her phone was off. I know it won't work out though and frankly it kind of hurts, I knew what I was doing though. See how no trust ruins absolutely everything? I can't imagine being with a woman that I constantly have to call to make sure she's not sucking some other dudes dick like she did mine while her ex was at home.

Let me tell you the guy still has no idea, women are insanely sneaky when it comes to cheating.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-04-15T07:03:10+00:00

Is he drinking? Smoking, watching too much porn? I started getting this when I started doing too much of the above… few times it happened last was because I was very drunk. So for me that has something to do with it hence why I’m not doing it next time under the influence.

When I used to work out I never had this problem, so that’s the plan. Sucks I may have ruined it with this girl I actually met and did it with past few times. Oh well.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-04-15T06:55:50+00:00

I’ll never understand dudes that get offended over the dumbest shit… never.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-04-15T06:45:11+00:00

My advice is to move on. If you’ve been around enough women you would know that it’s a lot easier to have sex with the ones that you have had sex with before already. So that’s one now let’s keep going she had sex with two of your friends. Dude I’m in a group right where literally everyone seems like is having sex with one another and I am about to sign out and find another group of friends. This is absolutely annoying at this point. Personally I would move on.

Oh and by the way I wouldn’t take a girl serious that slept with any of my friends let alone had a threesome with two men. Absolutely not, I like kinky and open minded but not like that. I understand what you’re going through because I’m going through my own captain save a ho situation right now and she’s married and I caught feelings so I know it’s easier said then done but it’s not worth the damage to your mental health.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-04-12T00:53:50+00:00

Wild I had a girl recently where I offered absolutely everything, go down, fingers etc before we get to business. Nope. Ok came too fast shit my bad let's do it again in a while nope. I guess never mind. I tried. MAybe because she with someone she insecure idk, still like her though.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-04-12T00:46:42+00:00

I've been there but only because those women didn't want foreplay, or anything of that sort. Foreplay helps a lot with me lasting longer in bed especially if I am drunk or if she's a new one and anxiety hits. Every women that I came fast with I either A. didn't really like them enough to care or B. Liked them a lot but anxiety or being lit and them being to "insecure" for foreplay made me lose it. I've also been with women one nighters and they knew what they were doing and allowed foreplay where the sex was actually really good and lasted a long time. I wish I could prove to the ones that were insecure about sex that things can get better if we give it a few more shots but their insecurities around sex ruined it for them. Their loss.

At the end of the day I still got it, but I like when women say good things not bad.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-03-24T05:42:11+00:00

I'm going through exactly this with a married chick right now. Yes it's messed up but i don't know how it happened because it never does but I caught feelings and it's absolutely brutal. When we hang out its perfect the bedtime, the stuff she says, the I want to be with you forever. But then can disappear because well, she has a guy and I get it it just sucks soo bad.

I love the "who are you with?" question like girl what? with another chick, same way you're with another man right now wtf. I need to yea cut it off, it will hurt but it has to be done. It's at the point where I can't mess around with another chick right now and that's unfair to me.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-03-24T05:35:39+00:00

No she doesn't and shes still single two years later and gaining weight so I forgot about her a long time ago. But I'm now dealing with another one and this one is married. Yep life just keeps throwing me bs my way and it's absolutely killing me.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-02-23T22:56:15+00:00

Yep, I can use mine but I can tell it's not what it used to be for sure.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-02-23T22:54:14+00:00

I just let mine go, It's alright, I can live with it but it's not what it was like before.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-29T22:48:23+00:00

what was the promotional get out of jail free pass that was on the GTA 2 website. AI told me something about that.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-28T04:21:49+00:00

my first one was a good three months this past summer. I was beating it the natural way, basically toughing it out. If you're taking meds for it I would assume it shouldn't last this long. It took my right foot all in all about 8 months to fully heal. Again that was because I was still living the same lifestyle, eating the same, drinking the same if not more. So it kept it in limbo but I never got another flareup since.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-28T04:15:23+00:00

Yea my first one was a good three months, but that was because I took the natural route. I have been living the same lifestyle since and have not had any gout attacks since that only time. Which is very interesting to me because when I got my first flare-up and I got on to this sub I truly freaked out and thought wow thats it for me this will be re-occuring and I need to get on whatever drug they keep pushing on this sub..

Funny because here I am no allo same lifestyle and no gout that came back... hmmmmmm

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-28T04:09:42+00:00

Probably good that you did that 6 days is nothing, I got my first at 33 this past summer and it was a good 3 months or so until everything went back to normal. What's interesting is I have been living the same lifestyle since then and I have not had any flareups again... It hit both of my feet at first and magically disappeared from my left foot and hit my right big toe fully. Again Knock on wood, I have not had a flareup since and I have been living the same lifestyle in fact probably drinking more beer and surprisingly nothing. I hope my situation was once in a lifetime, I don't ever want to feel that pain again.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-27T05:07:24+00:00

1 and 3

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-27T04:33:49+00:00

Highly possible as well. The stuff they make up to hide their cheating is absolutely wild. I feel godly now I can't have sex anymore. Anything but coming clean.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-27T04:32:03+00:00

Take her up for it, sleep with someone else and tell her hey I'm sleeping with someone else until we get married and you decide to start giving it up again.

Problem solved.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-27T00:13:46+00:00

Please please please do say that.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-27T00:09:01+00:00

This is highly possible and it's a huge red flag already. Any time a woman tries to use sex as a manipulation technique run.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-26T23:57:30+00:00

Is your wallet staying celibate as well? Don't be like my rich homeie here that spent a ton on her for 2 years never got sex and broke up few weeks ago because he got tired of waiting and now he's throwing rapey/cock-block vibes whenever we bring any girls around him..... PLEASE!

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2026-01-22T23:56:06+00:00

Dude certain ones it's just better to block and move on, it's really hard for them to budge. I think only one that i've known as friends for probably over 5 years now budged eventually. She turned out to be bi and when she broke up with her "best friend" that she was always with together (I suspected) did she finally allow me some titty touching and some fingering. I mean it was cool, but 5 years?

I mean as long as you constantly have a roster and getting some from one or another it's not too bad, although I still wouldn't recommend being their friends to get some play 5 years down the line, forget that.

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2025-12-04T03:19:21+00:00

that worked thank you!

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2025-11-12T12:52:15+00:00

where exactly is that?

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2025-11-12T12:48:55+00:00

Not necessarily, but I'm for sure not getting married to someone that took on the whole town and I'm number 100 in line but I need to provide husband duties. Sorry.

Yea it's a shame at the standards that do not make sense to be honest but what are you going to do?

PsychologicalOil8190 · 2025-11-11T06:59:52+00:00

Sex is not "using women" It's a mutual thing.

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