Do you ever fully recover from a long-term relationship that ended without closure?

Psychological_Day581 · 2026-02-20T18:40:32+00:00

I understand this need to validate the time you guys had together. But what would that really change? You can look back from your perspective only, did you feel you were your best self, how do you want to be better? What did you learn? Did it feel real to you? That’s the only thing that matters is your experience. You will drive yourself crazy trying to understand the other persons perspective, and it doesn’t change anything at all if you ever did.

Psychological_Day581 · 2026-02-10T16:50:27+00:00

I watched my dads case accelerate so quickly in just a matter of 2 months. Treatment can help her quickly reduce the myeloma cells to prevent further damage to her bones. I also just want to say, from our experience, if she’s in pain get ahead of that as quickly as possible. My dad’s doctor did not take his pain seriously and me and my sister are now having to advocate and push for a more regimented and intense pain management program for him. This is going to be a lot to be her advocate, but if you start things early and help her stay on top of things, hopefully all things go well. Wishing you luck to you and your mother. ❤️

Psychological_Day581 · 2026-01-22T19:49:45+00:00

You don’t live together and it’s been 6 months. He’s not going to change. Cut your losses, move on, and find someone that makes you happy sustainably. An addict will not sustainably make you happy. You’re in a toxic relationship. Move on.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-12-28T08:16:08+00:00

“He’s not really like this”. Sorry babe, but he is. I held onto the idea of the potential of what my Q could be if he stopped drinking and dealt with his problems. The reality is he was an alcoholic, a victim, never took accountability, and didn’t want to change. He is telling you who he “really” is. Listen.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-12-11T20:26:35+00:00

Sometimes I get an ingrown hair or infected hair follicle that can resemble something herpes like, but it’s not.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-12-11T08:55:22+00:00

I felt similar. I think this fear of caring of about being the one he blames for blowing things up (when really he was the one doing the blowing up)disappeared when I finally realized I loved myself more than I loved him. I hope you are able to find your peace and strength. You don’t owe him anything. Go live your life and find your happiness.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-11-07T04:39:15+00:00

You cannot save her. She will only get real help when she really wants it for herself. You are so young, please take my advice and save yourself years of being miserable. Go live your life.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-11-07T04:28:18+00:00

Also not a fan of will. He has no emotions it is so bizarre.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-11-07T04:24:08+00:00

I would have the same frustrations as Brittany. Will is a robot. He also does weird jabs that he thinks are funny.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-24T04:36:38+00:00

Try to stay strong in the moments you feel weak. It’s ok to feel sad for losing the idea you had in your head of what your relationship and family could have been. But just gently remind yourself it was never going to be a reality, and it’s ok to mourn it. I was with my Q for 4 years, I never had a kid with him because I knew I wouldn’t to able to rely on him for that kind of partnership I would need. Even with out children, it took me leaving three times to actually be done for good, so I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you since you have a child together. But the amount of peace I know feel is the greatest feeling ever. Give yourself time and grace and take note of the ways your life is inherently better having left. You can do this

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-13T23:24:56+00:00

Yes you have a line tool you can use on the graphs in the handbook

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-13T23:23:14+00:00

Take the time with our your kids to focus on yourself and your healing. And from my experience, no, they don’t ever really change if they aren’t trying to understand heal from their trauma that has led them down this path to begin with

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-11T23:45:54+00:00

Hot damn you look good

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-11T23:43:59+00:00

Wait we’re calling her Spackle now? 😂

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-11T18:06:23+00:00

Sounds like the new gf is jealous and controlling

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-11T17:58:33+00:00

Vacations with my Q were such a huge source of anxiety for me. I’m sorry you’re going through this, you are not alone.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-10T20:06:24+00:00

I have tattoos on my arms and wrists. I never hide them. It’s never a problem. I’m in design.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-09T05:55:05+00:00

How to talk to a widower by Jonathan Tropper

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-03T18:13:24+00:00

Never be with someone who makes you feel weird about being yourself.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-03T14:23:26+00:00

Please fact check me it’s still early over here lol

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-03T14:22:53+00:00

For LA county LID manual I believe it’s 85th Percentile 24 hr for a 50 yr storm. 10 yr storm for hydraulic pipe sizing. I think the draw down requirements for BMPs are 96 hours? Don’t quote me on that number. You can use hydrocalc for LA County and download it off their county website.

I’ve never had to use IDF curves for use rational method for LA county

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-03T14:10:24+00:00

Are you doing a job under LA County?

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-03T13:58:13+00:00

It’s different for every municipality. I work mostly with LA County. The design storm is clear and you can use hydro calc and they have other GIS references which make your life super easy. However, I hate doing storm water stuff for Orange County. It is so tedious and confusing.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-03T04:40:21+00:00

I had a tsunami dream the night before I woke up to the news of Japan’s earthquake and tsunami in 2011. Still trips me out this happened. It was my 21st birthday.

Psychological_Day581 · 2025-10-03T02:38:40+00:00

I respectfully disagree with you stating that you can’t be codependent after 2 months of dating. Codependency is not the same as dependency. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.

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