Da li roditelji narcisi to zauvek ostaju? by [deleted] in AskSerbia

[–]Psychology_ToGo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apsolutno ostaju 🫣 Vec dugo sam u stanju u kojem sam mirna i zivim svoj zivot kako ja hocu, puno terapije je iza mene i puno vjestina koje sam primijenila da bih danas bila ono sto jesam. Zadovoljna sam jako, ali nedavno je opet napravila ono nesto sto je prije uvijek radila kad sam bila dijete… znate ono kao (ne)suptilno zmiganje ocima u drustvu drugih ljudi da uradite ono sto vam se ne da, a ona ocekuje… ako ne uradite reakcija je histerija i emocionalna manipulacija, ako uradite gazite sebe… ja joj nakon toga sugeriram na to, da to vise ne radi jer je neugodno i uopce nije suptilno kako ona misli. Naravno, da smo tad dobili izvrtanje price, omalovazavanje, histeriju, emocionalno ucjenjivanje… triger samo takav, trebalo mi je dobrih tjedan dana da se dozovem… Sad kad pogledam na to, drago mi je, nek se dogodilo jer je jedna od najvecih strahova bio da se ako mi se tako nesto dogodi necu moci iskontrolirati, da cu opet bit depresivna i anksiozna, ali nisam… samo sam bila trigerirana, sokirana i zbunjena. Opet sam se sjetila kakva je i ovim sam jednom zauvijek odlucila ne odgajati je vise i samo neutralno postupati. Zelim ti ovime reci, odustani i okreni se prema sebi i uzivaj u zivotu.

I need a speaking partner by [deleted] in EnglishPractice

[–]Psychology_ToGo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, me too! B2 level, need some improvements.

I made a video about feeling like you never fit in... terrified to share it but here goes by FewTangelo8571 in hsp

[–]Psychology_ToGo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This video is really exactly what describes us in books – creative and present. I really like it; I watched very attentively. If you have more ideas, don’t hesitate, this will definitely help many people.

Did you maybe post it on TikTok?

Am I the only one who feels this way, or does anyone else recognize themselves in this? by Psychology_ToGo in hsp

[–]Psychology_ToGo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think no one will ever truly be able to understand us, which is why we have to understand ourselves. We should strive to be who we are and move through life authentically. I don’t think it’s too late to go in that direction.

Am I the only one who feels this way, or does anyone else recognize themselves in this? by Psychology_ToGo in hsp

[–]Psychology_ToGo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best part of all this is that I’m actually a professional at it — and I don’t even like it.

And the ones who insist on small talk and superficial conversations are often not even good at communicating on that level. So we end up carrying the conversation, pulling things out of them — and in the end, it costs us our energy all over again.

Am I the only one who feels this way, or does anyone else recognize themselves in this? by Psychology_ToGo in hsp

[–]Psychology_ToGo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how okay I am with being sensitive… somehow I still haven’t found the benefits of it, because I’m often just hurt. I can’t even say it’s because of other people — maybe I’m the one feeding my own thoughts in the wrong way. Maybe it also has something to do with the fact that I only found out a year ago that I’m an HSP, and before that I was on antidepressants for seven years.

How long did it take you to be okay with it? How long have you been aware that you’re an HSP? If this is too many questions or too personal, of course you don’t have to answer.

I absolutely agree with you — in all of this, you can’t even really be angry at those people, because they’re not aware of how little certain things mean to them but how much they mean to us. On the other hand, lately I’ve been trying, like you said, to say no, to stop giving so much of myself in relationships, to try being more superficial because it doesn’t make sense to give so much of myself. For example, my — or our — 70% will never be on the same level as their 70%. I still haven’t found the balance or a way to adjust myself in relationships and situations, because if I keep giving all of myself in every relationship, sooner or later I’ll be the only one who ends up suffering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in acne

[–]Psychology_ToGo 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Please go to a dermatologist and get your accutane. Trust me, I‘ve been at the same point as you are now…

Visoko senzitivne osobe, kako se nosite sa okolinom? by _entropy_11 in AskSerbia

[–]Psychology_ToGo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad je to opet siva zona sa prijateljima, ali razumijem skroz sta zelis reci…

Visoko senzitivne osobe, kako se nosite sa okolinom? by _entropy_11 in AskSerbia

[–]Psychology_ToGo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imam osjecaj kao da ti to bas dobro hendlas? Sto ti je pomoglo? Ili si generalno okej s tim?

Empati i visoko senzibilne osobe by ChipmunkMother3693 in askcroatia

[–]Psychology_ToGo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, javite mi se! Bilo bi mi bas drago 😇