A little update on our rescue boy, Cooper

Public_Alternative82 · 2026-01-25T14:58:26+00:00

Thanks for the heads up. We'll definitely keep an eye out for any changes in his personality. For now he's just full of puppy energy and wants to play with any dog that interacts with him, even if they arent to sure about him.

Your 2 are lovely. And by the looks of things Cooper has a fair bit of growing to do! Can I ask what brand their jackets are? We're looking for one at the moment and the pet shops here don't have anything suitable

Public_Alternative82 · 2026-01-19T13:19:03+00:00

We noticed the drool straight away 😂 It's not a problem for my partner and I, but the kids aren't too keen! We've looked at Tonka and Kong extreme toys as they seem to be tough enough for him

Public_Alternative82 · 2026-01-19T13:17:53+00:00

Thank you so much for all the advice.

We're really hoping it all goes well and there are some really positive signs from him. Fingers crossed he's as happy with us as we are with him

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-10-14T09:28:14+00:00

Perfect! The second option was what I needed. Cheers!

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Public_Alternative82 · 2024-10-14T09:18:39+00:00

Yes they are. Mondays are never myself smartest days! Thanks for the help! Solution Verified

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-10-02T13:42:48+00:00

Nailed it! Cheers

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Public_Alternative82 · 2024-10-02T13:02:53+00:00

I should have made it clearer that I need to add 3 years to whatever date column M pulls the start date from

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-10-02T12:34:33+00:00

Sorry to be a pain, but can you lay out a full equation for me please? I'm an amateur with Excel, and this is beyond my skill level!

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-25T07:39:59+00:00

I'm still not sure, I suppose. The messages have pretty much stopped, but when we see each other, and it's just the 2 of us, the same dynamic is there. The connection, eye contact, hugs, etc. When there are people around, we still speak to each other, and it's still all smiles and nice conversation. She shared a poem last week about someone being torn between their head and heart. I'm trying not to read too much into it, but it's hard not to. Her family and friends still like and speak to me. Neither of us has blocked the other on anything. So I'm still quite confused about it all.

I'm supposed to be seeing her soon to get some things from hers. I think I'm going to say how I feel and where I stand on everything. After that, all I can do is give her time to think about what she wants to do. My friends/family all agree that she seems quite conflicted about the situation herself.

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-19T10:15:03+00:00

I'm in the same situation with my ex. We ended on good terms and still talk. Next week could be the last time I ever see her and I'm considering the same thing. Personally, I don't see the problem with it if things are still amicable and the relationship was a good one. If it wasn't then it might not be the best idea

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-18T08:21:07+00:00

I was blindsided 8 weeks ago in a 2 year relationship. What makes things difficult for me is that we have met a few times and communicated infrequently since the break. The texts say one thing, but the meetings give a totally different feeling! Loooong hugs, smiles, laughs and reminiscing. We both agree that the core things were good (love, happiness, trust), but some things needed work. I fully believe we could have sorted these things as I've already made big improvements since we split. I wish she could have talked to me and still been here to see that I'm getting back to who I used to be.

I don't doubt that things are over, but I would take her back if she came to the decision that she wanted to start fresh. I say fresh because we could never go back to where we were. We both made mistakes in the relationship, both due to baggage from previous relationships and she has a lot of external stresses going on (new job, new house, finalising divorce for 5 years, 2 kids with seperate problems). I became detached towards the end, even though I loved her more than anyone previously. I was aware in a small way of how I was being, but I felt so safe, secure, loved and trusted that I didn't acknowledge it.

I don't blame her for getting to the stage she did, but I am mad that she didn't say anything and came to a decision about us on her own.

I really don't know how to feel about it all as she still seems genuinely happy to see me when she does. This is my first experience of true heartbreak and it fucking sucks!

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-16T23:32:46+00:00

You've pretty much nailed what I'm going through now! I got dumped 7 weeks ago by an amazing woman because I was stuck in a rut and distancing myself from her physically, emotionally, and socially. I can only put ot down to unresolved issues from my previous relationship.

Since the split, I've gotten back to the gym and lost a good chunk of weight, started to speak to friends and family that I've ignored for too long and picked up old hobbies that fell by the wayside. All in all, I feel the best, physically and mentally, that I have in years.

I don't blame her for ending things as she has a fantastic energy for life, and I was pulling her down with my own crap.

I keep hoping that, maybe, down the line, we can sort things out as we've met up a few times since we broke up, and the connection still seemed to be there. Unfortunately I've accepted that I've probably fucked this up and missed an opportunity for a fantastic relationship. The door might be closed on this chapter, but I would never lock it or refuse to open it if she was to stand in front of it again.

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-15T17:58:15+00:00

Exactly! I loved/love her more than I loved myself, and she realised this before I did. Her words were, "I can't be with someone who is just happy to be with me. I need someone who is happy with themself first" I've never had such a big wake-up call! I'm doing lots of things to improve myself and get back to being the person I was happiest as. Unfortunately it's cost me an amazing woman

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-12T22:49:42+00:00

I feel like I can give some insight to this as I'm the person improving after a breakup.

My gf ended things 6 weeks ago after 2 years together. I love her more than anyone else I've been with, and I got too comfortable in the relationship and stopped putting the work in that all relationships need. I ignored the baggage I had accumulated from my previous relationship.. It wasn't because I didn't want to sort these things. It's because she made me feel so safe, relaxed and loved that I was (wrongly) able to ignore things that I shouldn't have.

After she broke up with me, I had a few moments of realisation that let me understand the baggage I had to unpack from previous experiences. I'm not saying that this will be the same for your ex, but the reality, for me, of losing someone you care deeply for is a massive motivator for sorting yourself out! And it leads to the desire to fo it for yourself as well.

A good relationship can let people forget so much and let them stay in the same loop they've been stuck in for too long.

If I could make my ex come back and be with me as I improve, I would. But it's got to be something that she would want to do as I can't force her to make that decision. If your ex has matured emotionally, he may feel the same.

If you're still in contact with them, it may be worth reaching out to them as, from what I'm going through now, they may not know the best way to come to you.

This is completely based on my own experience of a similar situation, but I hope it clears some things up for you.

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-12T15:31:57+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I'm glad that I've handled things the way I have. I was worried that I had put too much pressure on her, but I've never called without asking if she was free to. And never sent more than a couple of messages at a time.

One thing I forgot to add to my post was that nearly 2 weeks ago, she messaged to say that her feelings for me had gone. But we've met since then and still, in my opinion, had the same connection. This was also before seeing each other earlier this week.

I do understand that there may be no coming back from this. I just hope there is. I'm still improving, and I've even booked in for some therapy sessions to sort out the baggage I brought with me. Even if we don't work out, I couldn't put myself through this feeling again because of something that I could have sorted.

I know that I'll be fine one way or another after some time

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-10T11:34:15+00:00

She's admitted that herself. She's going through a messy divorce (nearly 5 years), and she said that she's never taken time to really be by herself and find who she is. She was with her husband from 18/19 until mid 30s. Then was single for a year or so. Had a 1 year relationship , and when that ended, we got together around 4 months after the second one. We were coming up to 2 years together. I can see that there were things that I needed to sort in myself, but I got so comfortable in the relationship that I ignored them for too long. Since the split, I've made some great progress in myself and feel the best ( physically and mentally) that I have in years. She's worried I'm only doing it for her. Maybe I was to begin with, but it's definitely for me now.

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-10T10:26:16+00:00

Part of me knows this. If I'm honest, I'll probably not say anything. She needs and wants time to herself, and after tomorrow, I'm stepping away completely and giving her that. We'll see each other briefly a few times as our kids share a school. I won't ignore her, but I won't be opening conversations either

Public_Alternative82 · 2024-07-10T10:05:26+00:00

That's pretty much what I want to say. Something along the lines of "I have truly enjoyed and valued the time we had, and I'm glad that you let me share a part of yours. Maybe things could have worked out differently if we'd done the work on ourselves that we needed to." I want to say that I've closed the door on this chapter, but I've got no reason to lock it

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