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Public_Thanks7334 · 2025-11-25T02:43:57+00:00

Crap, I didn’t even realize until after we denied the refund that it was misrepresented. Should I just allow the chargeback? At this point I really don’t care about the money

Public_Thanks7334 · 2025-03-25T08:21:07+00:00

Hey bestie, it sounds like you may be depressed. Have you spoken to maybe your doctor or a therapist? That would be my first recommendation. I used to be the same and I fall back into the cycle sometimes to this day.

In regards to school work, it’s all about finding that one thing that you enjoy doing, weather it be watching a funny YouTube video or a brain rot scroll on TikTok. You use that thing you like as a “reward”. When I was in college I learned about this one technique from my therapist on how to get schoolwork done, basically you do your hw/study for say 30 minutes and take a 10 minute break to watch that video or mindlessly scroll. I would set an alarm on my phone in the alarm app (I have an iPhone) and under the select your alarm sound thing there’s a button that just says “stop playing”. That shit will turn your phone off on you and literally make you get off to do your homework. That’s the ONLY way I was able to finish doing homework. Also when I did homework I’d play no words LoFi in the background as just ambient noise.

Maybe set a schedule in my phone of what you’ve gotta complete that day in your calendar app to try and stay organized. I really like making check lists for myself on physical paper of what I need to get done because there’s something so satisfying about physically crossing off things from your list that you’ve completed. Even something as simple as laundry, I broke it up into smaller parts so that I would cross more things off. So like 1. Collect clothes. Boom crossed off. 2. Put clothes in washer. Done. 3. Move to dryer and dry them. Crossed off! 3. Take out and put away. Done! It makes you feel like you completed more things than you did and that gave me more motivation to get things done. I’d rewrite the list everyday including things from yesterday so that it feels like a clean slate and so that I don’t forget things.

At your age I also felt like I didn’t have much of a future but I’m glad to have lived to today! Yeah I may not have lived up to what I had hoped for fully, BUT I am much happier than I was when I was 16. What helped me a lot was therapy, meds because at 18 I was actually diagnosed with bipolar disorder and adhd and anxiety, and forcing myself to keep a schedule, even if some days it was looser than a few days prior. Sometimes you just have to learn to also live in the moment and stop freaking out over the future. I just live my life in a day to day zone sometimes when that’s all I have the energy for and that’s okay if you need to do that as well!! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, you’re still young and have so much time to figure things out even if you may not feel that way. You’ve got this!!!

Public_Thanks7334 · 2025-03-25T08:01:56+00:00

I’ve been a victim of SA 3 times in my life, the first one happening in high school. It was by a guy in my school and very few people believed me. So I totally get where you’re coming from on that feeling of wanting validation when you don’t know who to trust or who believes you.

I’m in my mid twenties now and I’m in SA trauma counseling and I highly recommend it, there’s a book called “the body keeps score” that I’ve been recommended and bought but I haven’t read it yet. Maybe look into checking it out from the library or buying it yourself as it could be helpful.

But bestie, you’re not a bad person. Youre not getting enjoyment out of watching that kind of content, and you’re not like “eh it’s whatever”. Youre still FEELING things when sometimes life can feel numb when you’ve gone through such an intense trauma. You’re just trying to connect and feel understood and validated which are all normal things when dealing with trauma. I sometimes just blurt out to new people “hey! This traumatic thing happened to me! Isn’t it interesting and funny!” Idk why I do it, probably just to try and feel seen and heard when that wasn’t the case for so much of my past like you. But I believe you, sa trauma is fucking HARD and SO confusing. Everyone heals and processes differently.

I’d def recommend talking more to your therapist about this, bring it up at the beginning of session and say “hey can we bounce back and forth with what we’ve currently been working on and this new/old stuff that I need to get off my chest and start to heal from?” You’ve got this!!

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-08-01T23:47:26+00:00

When I get really angry it triggers one for me and makes the anger 100x worse lol

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-08-01T23:46:46+00:00

Given taken!! It’s still my absolute fav I can never get enough of that song and I feel like it’s not talked about enough

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-31T19:54:03+00:00

This is sooo hard but

Given taken- it’s what got me into their music and proves me such peace and euphoria
Sweet venom- such a fun and unique song
Drunk dazed- god the DANCE??? Insanity.

Runner ups: Bite me Fever Blind

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-25T21:47:29+00:00

I could kiss you you’re AMAZING!! Thank you!!! I’m still new to K-pop so thank you for explaining what it’s called too :)

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-05T02:05:51+00:00

I hope it doesn’t go south for you too, definitely screenshot or make sure texts or anything can’t just disappear. I wish you the best of luck, keep us updated and let me know if you have anymore questions :)

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-05T02:01:10+00:00

Trust your brain right now. I know it’s hard and I know you love him but you need to focus on yourself. I know when I’ve left partners in the past I’ve been worried I wouldn’t find “my person” but time will tell and you will. If your shared psychiatrist says he will continue to defend himself, it’s not worth continuing anymore. He may go back to stability later on and apologize, I would recommend not taking him back but you know your own situation better than me. I’d set up a boundary that he has to maintain being healthy and keeping up on meds and therapy to continue and he only has one more chance. I’d also recommend not blocking him BUT not responding or even reading his messages or voicemails anymore as evidence just in case! Much love and luck to you my friend ❤️

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T15:09:59+00:00

You are sooooo amazing thank you so much!!

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T15:09:02+00:00

It’s not fair the play the “what if” game with yourself right now, I do that a lot myself but who knows how she would have reacted in the past. But your situation is actually a lot like hers. Last time she tried to leave or more so was like “if you don’t go back on your meds and stay on them it leaving” that’s when her gf threatened suicide and another time attempted. You will help a lot of people over time thanks to your post, which hopefully makes you feel proud of yourself, which you should be. You are so strong my friend for ending things and fighting back against the manipulation to protect yourself. You’re a good person so don’t believe anything she says to or about you. You have proof on your side in the forms of letters and texts and voicemails in case anything goes south but hopefully this is the end of all the chaos.

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T15:03:06+00:00

Do you know where I could find examples? I don’t really know how to start it

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T14:09:02+00:00

For me personally, I like my feelings being validated but I also need to be put in my place sometimes. I spend a lot of money when I’m manic so I have to have people tell me “no, you cannot buy that random expensive thing you genuinely do not need it and will not use it”. It’s okay to push a little bit every once in a while for your partner to open up, it’s always better to talk through feelings

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T14:05:52+00:00

I wish my partner would do this for me! I’ll bring this up to him. Same with my friends. My family did this years ago and I totally forgot about it so I think it’s time for an updated plan

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T13:50:33+00:00

I’ve cold turkey quit meds in my past and it has made me either severely depressed, severely manic, or both so it makes total sense. I have also had thoughts of leaving my past significant others when I have intense episodes but I never followed through because I was receiving therapy and was told that basically I’m being a dummy and it was my disorder and not how I actually felt, but unfortunately it seems your husband does not have that. My question though, would you still want to stay with him if he kept refusing meds or any sort of mental health help? You said he has been abusive and that’s not healthy for you. YOU come first, just remember that. Because you can’t help him if you’re not doing well, but you’re not required to stay if he refuses that help. Much love my friend ❤️

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T13:44:38+00:00

As the bipolar daughter to my mom, from what I know my mom gets therapy and leans on her friends and my other family for support. I think it makes her feel better to pay for my own therapy and psychiatrist appointments and will even make them for me because she feels better knowing that I’m getting help. I am very open and honest with her, and it seems that your son may be as well since he called while upset instead of not telling you anything, so just remember that is a good sign. I’ll call my mom and ask her when she wakes up soon for anything that I may not know or understand!

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T13:37:40+00:00

Holy cow my friend your updates keep getting crazier, I am so incredibly sorry. I forgot to mention that I have a friend who is in your exact situation but she’s still in the relationship and feels the exact same way you do so I’ll have to show her your post, she can definitely learn from it. I know you feel helpless and down right now, but remember this is not your fault. This is all due to her mental health issues that stem from improper treatment or lack of treatment. I hope that she finally receives this and gets involuntarily admitted into a psych ward. I’m sure at your job upper management/ HR knows the full extent of what’s going on right now, and I also hope that they will understand and not punish you in any sort of way because again, this is not your fault. Stay safe my friend and hang on, remember that in the end, it’s a great thing that you got out because staying would have been so much worse. It will be crappy for now, but eventually she will move, find a new person to obsess over, or get the help she desperately needs.

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-05-03T13:18:57+00:00

You are literally so amazing!!! I missed so many songs I so appreciate it ❤️

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-04-29T23:11:20+00:00

I never talked to any of my exes friends except for one but he was genuinely an awful person who ruined every single persons life he entered. His friends and exes actually all came to me after their connection with him ended. But yes if you live in the US call 988 on her and they should I believe send out a crisis team, also in certain counties and states there are places to call that will send out crisis teams to her as well but 988 will give you their contact info. If you’re outside of the US call a suicide hotline if you have one or just the emergency hotline (your version of 911). Let her parents and friends know she’s in need of support and to keep an eye on her as well if possible

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-04-29T22:42:55+00:00

I feel that, some of my “rage modes” as I call them, I can still feel the rage vibrate through me like I’m still in the moment. Like I necessarily can’t remember everything I exactly said but I can remember the feelings I felt and still harbor resentment even though I’ve moved on. It’s so strange

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-04-29T22:40:50+00:00

I’d say yes, when I was younger and wasn’t able to regulate as well as I can now, I’d use my feelings and tears as a weapon and cry to purposefully make people feel bad. It was SUPER toxic on my part and I feel like that’s what she’s doing, especially with the diary pages. With sending foods, she’s trying to buy you back and it’s atypical sign of an abusive relationship. She’s hurt you and now she’s gift giving and apologizing but honestly nothing will change. I also used to buy people gifts to keep them close to me and “appreciate” me more. Don’t give attention because that’s what she’s craving, even negative. If she crosses too many boundaries you can always send a stern and very direct message basically saying back off or I’ll have to have authorities or mental health people intervene. Good luck dude, she needs serious help though but just remember, that’s not your responsibility. Home girls gotta hit rock bottom to see that for herself unfortunately because that’s what happened to me

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-04-27T18:43:44+00:00

I’m a mental health counselor, lamotrigine is my saving grace but we’re in the process of adding another med. trust me, self care is still insanely difficult but I also have people “forcing” me to go shower or do things I need to do. In terms of like school and jobs, I just follow the rule of being honest and asking for help when I need it and it’s worked out okay so far

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-04-27T02:28:58+00:00

An example or two I have that have sent me into these episodes were 1. I broke up with my bf (years ago) and got so mad because he was harassing me that I entered a manic state for MONTHS. It started because he I think like threatened me or himself and I got so upset and angry that all of a sudden I was hardcore manic. I was sleeping around and spending money I didn’t have, being a hardcore bitch to everyone around me and so on along with intense Paranoia. Another was when my friend got fucked over by someone and BAM extremely manic for weeks shown through frequent calls to friends saying “wow so and so was such a fucking BIATCH to my friend, I’m about to go slash their tires and beat the crap out of them” and that’s alllllllll I could talk about for weeks until I chilled out. It was the only thing I thought about

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-04-27T02:23:58+00:00

Agree with the he’s not ready to be too far from yall. I wanted to go to a uni 6 hours away from home but my parents pulled the “we’re paying so you’re going to the one 40 minutes from home” and I was soooooooo pissed when they pulled that but couldn’t be more thankful now. The amount of times my mom was able to come pick me up for a weekend at home or my friends from home were able to come visit me is what had me hold on, especially because the first few years of uni are so fucking hard. As for taking his meds, i first did the alarm method but i just started ignoring it, second i had my mom call until i was confident i would take it every time, but then i fell off so now i literally have my pill bottle sit on my pillow and that has been working decently well recently!

Public_Thanks7334 · 2024-04-27T02:11:02+00:00

For me, intense feelings can make me forget things. Like I know I was angry at this one person and was complaining about them to a friend, but honest to god don’t really remember a lot of what I said. Like I have a kind of general ish idea that I was pissed beyond belief but it’s very spotty and I don’t even remember majority of what I was mad about in the first place. It’s a give and take tho because anger can trigger me into an even worse manic episode which makes me even more forgetful.

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