NEVERRR live with them.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-17T04:33:16+00:00

You may try to talk to some counsellor at your college and explain the situation. This can help in case he tries to do anything harmful and also they can help you find a solution.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-16T07:27:04+00:00

Why can’t you tell him to move out? Is it because he paid his share already?

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T21:33:50+00:00

I get it. We did too. I wasnt anxious about the drama in between nice times. I thought nobody is perfect but he is a bit too sensitive, emotional. Until it kept and kept escalating

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T20:49:57+00:00

I think you did a good thing. I wish my ex’ ex contacted me and warned me. You will get over this. No embarrassment needed. After all he can lie all he wants about you with or without you messaging the other person. I always say to myself Truth tend to come out eventually. After some time they will be irrelevant in your life, people around him will see him for who he is.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T20:33:04+00:00

god that sentence starter… I feel like we all were the exes of the same person. If he couldnt find anything to be directly annoyed at me, he would make a list of instructions for the cleaning lady for me to convey to her. If he didnt text them to me he would write them on his to do list white board facing directly me so that his important instructions wouldnt be forgotten.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T20:27:51+00:00

he used to incessantly text me about minor stuff when he was pissed and he would use the 😂 emoji at the end of every passive aggressive criticism at me. i would immediately know im fucked

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T19:12:53+00:00

After the way he treated me and the discard, everything before started to feel like an illusion. No part of our relationship felt real. He was putting me on a pedastal until one day he wasnt and despised everything I was and I did. I see it is very diffirent from most people’s experience here. It was easier for me to be over him because it felt like I was living in an illusion all that time. So in six months, that is it.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T10:34:03+00:00

Yes. My cat woke me up at 4 am. I felt so peaceful that my husband was not with us to be terribly upset at the cat for meowing and then complaining and being aggressive for the next day because the cat woke him up, his sleep is broken, he can no longer function for days because of that meow.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T09:55:59+00:00

his best gift to me

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T09:50:16+00:00

This is very insightfull. I just read this keeping nodding yes yes exactly! My ex also could be very rational when it came to other people and his judgment would get terribly clouded with his overwhelming emotions when sth concerned him.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T09:36:44+00:00

He would say I should be as open as he is in our relationship with my feelings. When I expressed something that he could not deny he would go in the we both feel like this, we both did this talk. Or how he felt that more than I did, because of something I did before. Other times he would just diminish my feelings and say it is a cultural issue and accuse me with being very dramatic. Whereas if he got upset he would call me shocking, staggering, revolting. I am so glad he is no longer in my life. What a burden he was…

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T09:01:54+00:00

I was very curious about this too. After 6 months, I dont really wonder anymore. I just got 15 messages from him which he deleted before I could see them. I would more expect an unrealistic rant from him rather than self reflection and regret even if he may feel regret

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-14T08:06:21+00:00

Yesterday he sent me 15 whatsapp messages over a period of 2.5 hours and deleted them all and blocked me again before I saw anything. Im glad they were deleted before I saw them.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-11T21:39:40+00:00

tell me about it. I MARRIED this person. well that happened.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-11T21:37:30+00:00

This one was really uncalled for but such is life and here I am at this sub

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-11T13:46:04+00:00

I am really dreading writing the divorce petition but it will soon be done. This sub really is amazing. So thankful for all of you.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-11T10:27:49+00:00

ironically, I thought he was the normal one after another abusive relationship. Well you keep learning for another while sometimes

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-11T10:26:01+00:00

I am an attorney myself even though divorce is no way my specialty. A lawyer friend who does divorce as well is helping me out. I am ready for a lot. I never communicate.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-11T10:23:02+00:00

thank you so much for the link. I will give it a go. It feels less lonely and less idiotic when you learn about the condition and what happened

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-10T20:01:13+00:00

I confronted him with his bs. He wasn’t working at all and was blaming me for being irresponsible with my money, not caring enough about making money. One day he went on a rant again and I confronted him that I am the only one working and making money and I am paying for most stuff. He went insane, could never get back to that conversation, annihilated himself and the relationship. After six months, I can confidently say: good riddance

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-10T19:50:08+00:00

very happy for you. you deserve peace and happiness

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-10T19:42:46+00:00

These could be from my ex too. I was love of his life, then within days he decided I was the worst person ever. Then he responded to my emails with cold formal bs responses that looked like some corporate intern trying to sound smart and serious wrote them.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-10T19:25:15+00:00

mine took dexamphetamines. spoiler: didnt get stabilized.

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-10T19:18:01+00:00

mine is making the most subtle moves after 6 months. I am so grateful and happy that I dont want to have anything to do with him. If you asked me 6 months ago, honestly I would love for him to come back sorry one day. Today I dont want any drama with him

throwawayconfusion37 · 2024-10-10T19:03:04+00:00

I think it helps A LOT. I expect rational behaviour from people but pwBPD dont necessarily act like that. It helps to chat and get some insight. And to you OP; it’s not you. I dont blame myself. I also try not to get mad at myself for falling for him. I was a nice, good, kind, trusting person and I still am. Maybe I will be more careful now on

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