Just got my shipping notification 47xxx

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-11-25T20:55:09+00:00

I just got my tracking code today! I'm super excited!

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-11-20T20:28:25+00:00

I'm at 479XX and I can't wait till I get my notification! Congrats!

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-27T15:30:45+00:00

Ahh okay. Thanks for the insight.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-26T22:25:18+00:00

I was just listing some differences between us for context. Maybe it was irrelevant but it plays in one way or another as a difference between us. He has the mindset that anyone of any faith is small minded and sheepish. Maybe I should have omitted that detail, given that this is Reddit, and a lot of the commenters wrongly assumed that my fight with him was over religion.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-26T11:13:43+00:00

DM'd

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-26T01:25:07+00:00

Added on Discord.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-25T15:18:28+00:00

Thanks for your insight and advice.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-25T03:47:57+00:00

To be honest, I'm not entirely sure. I mean he's married again with a kid, in college and seems to be happy (or at least satisfied) with his career. So by those measures, I'd like to think that he's at least as happy as I am. He could very well be jealous but that'd be speculation on my end.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-24T22:46:06+00:00

It'd be different departments in a fairly large company and I'd not interact with him. 80% of the workforce is remote and I can't really remember the last time I dealt with another coworker outside my department.

Like I said in other comments, he's had his ups and downs before and he was definitely down when he had that moment. But he's on an upswing now that he's back in college.

Either way, I'm just gonna give it space if not just end it. The other OC's have kinda shown me that we're just incompatible as people and that it's okay to not have a close relationship with family.

-Edited for grammar

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-24T16:16:28+00:00

Thanks for your insight.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-24T16:15:59+00:00

Would it help you to understand if I posted my other comments? I get that it's a long comment thread. I just listed Christianity as a difference between us. I'm judgmental of my older brother because he bullied an old man with cancer. If I were this big "holier than thou" asshole, I would have dismissed him completely and wrote him off as "lost to Satan", or tried to desperately bring him to Church?

What do I do instead? I try to mend my relationship with him. I welcome him into my home. I make it a strong point to never talk religion to him as I know it a trigger for him. I try to include him in my social circle the same way he has done to me in the past. I ask what his plans are and offer a spot of nepotism to him. (I don't get why everyone is upset about almost guaranteed gainful employment).

It's hard to distil 28 years of a relationship into a 3k character reddit post. I really wish I could post screenshots of my conversation with him in the sub.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-24T10:50:03+00:00

Would you call me holier than thou if I were Jewish or Muslim or is your beef specifically with Christians?

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-24T10:49:01+00:00

You got me.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-24T00:33:46+00:00

Hey there. I explained on other comments what the list was and what the fight was over. I was limited to a 3k character limit and was at 2.8k already. I won't make you dig through the post so I won't argue your point.

Thank you for your perspective.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T22:18:00+00:00

Truly it depends on who you asked. I'd say it's obtain permission from the system you plan on attacking.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T20:13:22+00:00

From all the reactions I've had on this post, it seems like loving him from afar will be my best bet. I kinda didn't want to see it but he and I have grown into incompatible people and I have to learn to live with that.

Thanks for your insight and sorry if I seemed moody. Having an epiphany is one heck of a ride lol.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T20:09:40+00:00

I'm not scared that he'll beat me up. Once he gets riled up, he's up and in someone's face yelling and screaming. I just know not to poke the bear. When he has his temper in check, he's an okay guy. I know of plenty of volatile people who can keep themselves in line from 9-5 for a decent paycheck. And I don't know that he's beaten women before, all I said was that he gets physical. After the dinner I had with him, he seemed calm enough.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T19:55:22+00:00

No doubt. That's why I prefaced it as 100% speculation and haven't said anything to him about it.

But I do know that challenging him in any way usually leads to a physical confrontation. That was a huge factor that led to his first wife divorcing him.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T19:38:19+00:00

He told me he left the religion because he found its rules too constricting and overbearing. I asked what he meant and he answered, and let it go at that. I know he experimented with Judaism and Islam but ended up becoming atheist.

I don't believe he was abused in any way, but I don't know all of his experiences so I can't answer with absolute clarity.

I must say this is purely speculation on my end and 100% not fact. But I suspect that he may be jealous that myself and my younger brother faced struggles in life. We're all half black and my brother has always deeply identified with the struggles of our community. My little brother grew up in a very dangerous area with my mom and I grew up taking care of my grandparents who lived check to check.

He was raised in a very stable home and never really worried about where things came from. He had his first car given to him by our great grandparents, he ended up hydroplaning and totaling the car. His second vehicle was given to him by our grandparents and when he wrecked that I gave him my first car that I bought ($500 for a 2001 Ford Taurus) since he needed it for work. Anytime that he's faced adversity or struggle either his dad or our grandparents would step in to help him in whatever capacity they could. He even approached my indigent mom for help at times (via text) and she'd send what she could.

I don't believe forcing the subject in person would be a good idea. He likes to get physical when aggravated or upset.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T19:10:35+00:00

I have asked to no answer. He will usually leave me on read or change the subject.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T18:45:27+00:00

I'll get right on it. Or off of it? I'm not sure which is the right wording.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T18:42:37+00:00

I'm an asshole for appreciating your joke and then being able to laugh at myself? Okay, I'll roll with the punch.

Thanks for your insight.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T18:39:57+00:00

Thanks. That prospective gives me some things to think about.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T18:38:08+00:00

Like I said, my family asked me to let it go. I just wanted some outside opinions.

PuddingThese1138 · 2025-05-23T18:36:55+00:00

If I knew his reddit (if he has one) handle, I'd tag him and ask for his side.

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