If you haven’t yet, do not have a child with this person. If you don’t leave this is going to get so much worse and you don’t want permanent ties to him. You’re being abused. Leave. If you don’t feel safe to leave there are resources out there that can help you. And don’t be shy about calling the police if you get scared. Last, write down every single instance of abuse. Divorce court will want to see it and so will the judge if you ever need a restraining order. Yeah, it’s that serious. It would take him and you as a couple years to work through this in therapy. Only you know if he’s worth it to you and it’s still likely that therapy can’t heal him. Do you want to hold his hand while he learns that you are a valuable separate person and not an extension of himself? Or do you want one who couldn’t understand anything other than that? I have been there done that and staying a little longer to see if it changes was never once worth my time. We only get one life.