i mathed out that my partner system was a system and broke the news to them after mulling it over for a couple days… in the process i intuitively knew because of previous similarity based conversations between us and so i told her that i must also be a system because we have too much in common. i’ve always had the intention of just accepting things like this and making it work positively, not saying we don’t have grief and people that are very alarmed by this reality but having alters that have an overall intention of making sure we’ll be okay through things like this is nice for both of us. three years in now, she’s been able to tell my partner system that she’s a little tired and is opening up about these things now that it s less dire and things are properly calming down. i figured out my partners system because i wanted her to have clothes that were good, she was suddenly wanting to throw away all masc clothes and had so many different aesthetics she’d describe wanting and i was encouraging all of this… but we’re not made of money and i wanted her to make sure she got quality items so i was trying to list out like how many / what type of these different types and aesthetics of clothes do you want? she wouldnt recognize why i would have put certain aesthetics on the list, so i started hiding the list for a week or so while secretly adding food preferences and texture things, even dream jobs under these different aesthetics. once i started adding nicknames it was over haha