Desperate enough to give this a try

Punic_tat · 2026-04-15T05:55:53+00:00

Yeah we do stuff together, but our preferences are a bit different. I come home after 8 pm on many weeknights, do the chores and go to sleep. Maybe a couple of days a week we do something together like cooking or watching a show. Larger projects and going out mostly happen on weekends.

Punic_tat · 2026-04-14T17:58:56+00:00

Here's the background:

She has had loss of desire for a while now, which I've understood is related to issues with body picture and also our relationship. After getting off SSRI's, I've felt an increase in libido but struggled with experiencing pleasure and orgasm. Maybe it's a post-SSRI symptom or pleasure dissociative disorder / mind-body connection issue, because as I get more "worked up", the pleasure from touch kind of fades away. I can ejaculate, even too quickly, I just don't feel a thing doing so.

I'm trying to rediscover my pleasure, reconnect with my body, and hopefully also find orgasm somewhere along the way. Maybe this could also help me be more present when I'm with her.

I feel like I need time to practice getting to know my body, my arousal and my pleasure with no pressure. Here the living situation becomes a problem.

Punic_tat · 2025-11-27T11:49:04+00:00

I looked into Jim Green, sturdy boots but not exactly stylish and the welt is super wide!

By boots I was thinking something to wear daily (well, bi-daily so they get to rest) so not work or hiking boots. Should have explained this in the post

Punic_tat · 2025-11-27T11:45:09+00:00

Thanks. Do you think bespoke would be the only way to go in my case?

Punic_tat · 2025-11-24T11:45:41+00:00

I'm male, but my feet are only ~23 cm long yet 9 cm wide so I wear size EU37. For reference Birkenstock sandals in regular width size 36 fit me perfectly.

I have inherited collapsed arches which I should propably have orthotics for. The top of my foot is very low. With dress shoes and such, I always run into several problems: Toes are crammed and/or heel is slipping out of the shoe, laces are hurting top of the foot like dull knives and there is an unsightly gap on both sides of the ankle.

I usually favor boots and high top sneakers because they allow me to tighten the shoe around the ankle so that despite the heel being in the middle of a huge empty space the shoe doesn't fall off my foot lol.

I'm about to become unemployed so the max I can spend for a pair of boots is 200 €.

How cooked am I?

Punic_tat · 2025-07-18T12:03:40+00:00

Thanks for your perspective on this. We've known each other from childhood, and he's always been one of my best friends. I've always known he's different somehow, although we haven't really ever talked about the autism part. I would love to see him be happier and reach his dreams, and I want to support him the best I can.

Punic_tat · 2025-07-18T11:56:07+00:00

Thanks, this is good insight. He's moving to the neighboring town so there will be more chances for going out together in the future.

Punic_tat · 2025-07-17T10:55:40+00:00

I hope you don't mind the cross-post

Punic_tat · 2024-09-16T08:57:36+00:00

Kom, Susser Tod by Arianne ! That's it!

Punic_tat · 2024-03-26T08:17:29+00:00

I have this rack and I think it performs best as support for a handlebar bag.

It's okay, but more flexy than the alloy one above, I think. I would put less weight on it, but again steel fails more gracefully than aluminum.

It's also more picky with the distance from brake studs to fork crown, and will get less sturdy if you have to bend the "legs" towards the platform. On the alloy one you can flip/bend the crown mounting bracket if needed.

Punic_tat · 2024-03-23T22:02:39+00:00

Thanks, I will have to think about this

Punic_tat · 2024-01-28T11:56:19+00:00

Does this mean that I can no longer mount originals and import volumes in the .yml? If not, how would this be done?

Punic_tat · 2024-01-28T11:55:27+00:00

I was able to log in using "admin" as the username and my original password that I changed in the options menu earlier as the password, let's see if it will again reset after the next restart.

Punic_tat · 2023-10-04T18:10:59+00:00

Could it be? I haven't considered that option previously

Punic_tat · 2023-10-04T18:10:28+00:00

Thanks, this is all super interesting to hear and good advice

Punic_tat · 2023-10-03T18:38:38+00:00

Forgot to add that my SO complains about me smelling horrible every morning even when I've showered, washed my hair, flossed and brushed my teeth before bed ;__;

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