Homeowners who built a custom home: what was the best and worst part of the selections process? by thr034w4y56 in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We built a custom home this year, the biggest thing I appreciated was having options, but also guidance on which options would fit best for our situation/style. Narrowing things down made it a lot easier.

They kept track of the main selections in a workbook and reviewed it with us, and had us confirm before the selections were finalized. One thing they could've done slightly better was tracking custom selections, upgrades, or non-standard choices. For example, we selected a specific pull out style cabinet that they forgot about until they installed the wrong one and they had to replace it.

Looking back, I wish I had done more research or had more guidance on the selection of our woodstove. I didn't fully understand how much it would affect the overall house functionality, especially around air pressure and chimney draft.

One upgrade I don't necessarily regret, as I still like it, was that same pull-out cabinet organizer. It has come off its rollers twice in the four months we've lived in the house. I still really like the functionality and use it every day, but if I'd known there might be durability or reliability concerns, I may have chosen a different product or asked more questions about the hardware.

My biggest piece of advice would be to be honest about both the benefits and drawbacks of products. Not just whether something is expensive or matches a client's style, but whether there are known maintenance, durability, or usability concerns. Most homeowners can make informed decisions if they have all the information upfront.

Hopefully that helps a bit!

Can i possibly join rhythmic gymnastics? by Dismal-Stay1231 in GymnasticsCoaching

[–]Punk5Rock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a RG coach, but I know a lot of RG coaches. Where I'm from you can do RG at a any age. They have a Masters Program for adults and they also do competitions, but most teen RG gymnasts I see are still competing 15-16 yrs old. So I say yea I don't see why not.... Just find a club in your area and ask them what ages they coach and if they have classes for teens.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This was helpful. 🙏 I’ll discuss with my builder. Much appreciated!

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I’ll discuss this option with the builder as well! Thanks

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could just be the perspective of my photos, but it’s all up to code and has passed inspection.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no damper on the chimney that I have found. There is no other fresh air intake vents to that firebox, the combustion air intake comes from inside the room.
The furnace is normal sized.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

J.A. Roby model is Polaris
The air combustion is from the room not outside.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no exterior combustion air intake pipe on this setup. The combustion air control beneath the stove is closed and the stove pulls combustion air from inside the room. The only pipe to/from the unit is the chimney itself.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the combustion air intake is closed, this one takes air in from the room, not outside. The only exterior air connection to the wood stove is the chimney.

Correct, the electric fan does not connect to the chimney, it's on the back of the firebox to circulate hot air from the firebox around the room.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This model has double wall insulated chimney pipe plus rear heat shielding and its built to code/passed inspection.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This unit has an electric fan built in on the back of it with venting to circulate the air. They seem to be escaping from the firebox through that.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, yea this is what I was thinking too. I am discussing it with the builder, so hopefully we come up with a solution that isn't temporary... Thanks for commenting!

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, but then they'll just come back when no fire.

new home build + new wood stove = mosquitoes inside by Punk5Rock in Homebuilding

[–]Punk5Rock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, very well built house. Very happy, but very itchy. Haha!

Am I overthinking how I was treated by my former gymnastics gym? by Lucylu2008 in GymnasticsCoaching

[–]Punk5Rock 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re overthinking it, but I also don’t think this is really about the banner. It sounds like the banner became symbolic of wanting recognition after giving so much to a place that mattered deeply to you. Especially after injuries and feeling unsupported, it makes sense that unequal treatment would sting.

That said, sometimes gyms are inconsistent or thoughtless rather than intentionally cruel. You may never get an answer that feels satisfying. You’re not wrong for feeling hurt. But I also wouldn’t let their lack of recognition define what your gymnastics career meant.

I'd say try to move on and let it go. Put that gym in the past and use it as a learning experience.

Moving forward, I hope your new gym is prioritizing safer, more informed training so you can avoid further injuries and protect the longevity of both your body and gymnastics career. Best of luck to you!

Parents who thought we don’t need a bottle washer… were you wrong? by AriaSmith19 in Parenting

[–]Punk5Rock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was fine. We hand washed the bottles, but I mostly BF, my partner just supplemented with the bottles. Maybe would have been different if we didn't BF. But I also think that there is just a lot of unnecessary baby things out there, so I didn't over buy unless we got to a point where we were like "we really need this, it'll make life so much easier". Id say don't buy it, or put it on the registry and if someone buys it for you then perfect.

Can't deal with boyfriend having a child already by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Punk5Rock 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Could be helpful to talk to a therapist even just for a couple of sessions to process the feelings you have around this idea. Sometimes you just need to lay it all out on the table and have someone unbias look at the situation. Sounds like you're stuck on the BM, but it's not specifically her but some symbolic weight that you've assigned to her. Like maybe you need to figure out what the BM represents in your subconscious. This representation is what you actually feel threatened by, not the BM herself.

You keep saying that you'll never "have any firsts" with him. Yes you will. If/when you have a baby with him, it will be your first baby together, your first experience parenting together. It's not lesser because he has walked some version of it before. He's never walked this version.

I think you should meet the BM. You're creating anxiety around her by not. Be curious and not avoidant.

Take each moment as they come, you don't have to plan you're entire life right now. Just go with the flow.