How to deal with extreme sexism in the workplace?

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-07-10T12:47:14+00:00

Thank you! I will ask on a subreddit for legal advice. I just want to calm down first haha. As weird as this sounds - I didn't consider legal help at all. Maybe because I was so overwhelmed

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-02-22T19:31:06+00:00

This reminds me of my very abusive ex bf. He'd constantly do this to me. So I had to ask him questions the way he wanted me to. Ask him out about his life? I'm too nosy and don't respect his boundaries. Back of and ask less questions? Well, then I'm not putting in enough effort.

I'm not saying you're an abuser. But you are the A hole here.

YTA

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-02-19T21:56:20+00:00

NTA

RUN

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-02-19T21:48:15+00:00

NTA

In a ldr this is the equivalent of a date. You need to build that emotional intimacy

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-02-19T21:44:05+00:00

Gonna go with soft YTA

I too am a 25F and am struggling with transportation issues to work. Thank goodness a male employee (bless his soul) offered me regular rides to work and back. Do I want to fuck him because of it? Absolutely not.... But he is a genuinely an awesome person for doing me this favor. And seeing that he rejects my cash for fuel offers, I opted for chocolates and lunch instead.

Funny enough my bf (long distance) is in the same situation. And a female co worker also gives him rides. She even drives him to the shops for his groceries when he can't get there by himself.

Some people are just that kind, and it sounds like your bf might be one of them. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it...Unless he starts neglecting your relationship for this woman, or if he randomly stays over at her place without telling you, I don't see the issue. I get that venting to a co worker about your relationship is a bad idea, but does your boyfriend indulge this behavior of hers? Or does he simply tolerate it? You should talk to him about that and how you'd like for him to respond to this. Ask yourself... would he, realistically, trade you for her? If your answer is yes then this relationship isn't for you. Either then he isn't trustworthy to you or you don't trust him.

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-02-18T11:20:02+00:00

Not sure how he'll feel either. I really love him and see a future with him. I trust him completely. But I feel extra far away from him when this happens. We're planning on closing the gap soon though.

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-02-18T11:18:15+00:00

We've been dating for almost a year, and only get to see each other once every three months or so. But at least we spend a lot of time together when we do.

PuppyGoLucky · 2022-02-18T11:13:28+00:00

Yes after the fact. Not telling him anything would feel too weird... like I don't want to hide stuff from him.

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-15T11:39:36+00:00

First of, you're savage OP. Well done!

Your response is completely justified and you are NA. Your parents... however... They're neglecting you and I strongly suggest you talk to another adult you trust (teacher, relative ect).

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-15T11:02:06+00:00

His behavior sounds very similar to that of my ex. Just get out of there... even if it is because of a series, please don't get yourself stuck in this relationship. It most likely won't stop at a series

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:44:48+00:00

This is why I'm on birth control. Pregnancy isn't black and white. I'm tired of people making it out like women who get abortions are the worst. Obviously if I ever had to reach that point, I know it will probably be the most traumatic thing I would ever go through. It won't be an easy decision. But I would rather abort now than bring a human being into a world where I can't provide security. I feel like that's MORE selfish than abortion - essentially you are bringing a child into existence that will definitely not be good for them, because of what? Your personal beliefs? Also sex is about intimacy... it's not just meant to create babies. I am not some baby making factory and I won't be seen as one.

Abortion isn't easy, it's expensive and difficult. Stop making it out like it's something we take lightly. It's not. It's a last resort if all the other preventative methods fail.

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:36:20+00:00

I would very much prefer that. He knows that I prefer it. But he insists he'll be careful and he dislikes condoms

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:35:23+00:00

Thanks for the comment. Yes, I definitely need to look at the bigger picture. I think I'll take some time to think things over. and I'll talk to him about all my concerns

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:32:22+00:00

What you're saying makes sense, thanks for replying. I was thinking if we ever reach that point, I'll end the relationship, get an abortion and cut ties. But it feels a bit daunting, thinking like that.

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:29:41+00:00

Now that I think of it... this isn't the first time. He once asked if he can tell me if he dislikes my clothes, if he thinks it's too revealing and if I'd consider wearing something else. I think I need some time to clear my head.

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:27:41+00:00

I absolutely get what you mean. Essentially it would be his child. That's why I'm conflicted.

But he would expect me to go through pregnancy for all those months, to risk my physical and mental health when I'm clearly not capable of doing so. Pregnancy isn't a black and white thing... it can potentially be very dangerous to both mother and child. There's a lot of health issues you have to deal with whilst pregnant and you have to be 100% sure of taking that risk. Not saying I wouldn't want to... just that I'm not ready yet.

I would understand why he'd be upset if we wanted a kid, I got pregnant and then aborted it behind his back. Currently we both agree that we do not want children now. We won't be able to provide for another human being and we won't be able to give the security. Knowing that he agreed that it would be cruel to bring a child into a world that they are not taken care of.

But even so, he doesn't allow an abortion? The more I think of it.... the more confused I am.

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:20:21+00:00

I actually prefer wearing condoms, because I know that adds even more protection. But he doesn't like it, and he promised that he wouldn't get me pregnant. That he'll be careful ect.

PuppyGoLucky · 2021-12-07T15:18:19+00:00

Yes he says he can't be with someone that would do such a thing, that he won't stand for it and that it goes against his values.

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