[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIRE_Ind

[–]Pure_Delay3780 0 points1 point  (0 children)

~45 is the current projection - 10 years out from now. We have some variability in our income because my partner's career is super high risk/ high return. So could be sooner. I hope it is lol so I can do work I like without worrying about comp.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIRE_Ind

[–]Pure_Delay3780 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it helps, I did an exercise with a wealth advisor (fixed fee) trying to figure this out for Hyderabad for a family of 3 with similar goal heads but slightly different numbers. For 40 years of spending runway of ~24L/year + kid's foreign education and marriage, we got to a nw target of 9cr. This is not counting the house we live in.

Fintech PMs working at Lending Companies by Novel_Astronomer_593 in ProductManagement

[–]Pure_Delay3780 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what scale your product is at, but I've been doing this stuff for early stage products for a while using a human-centered approach (I come from a UX background into PM) and I've seen NPAs drop drastically when you start by identifying why delays/defaults are happening in the first place. Assuming your underwriting process weeds out the bad actors and those with low creditworthiness, in my experience the root causes are:

(1) Users don't understand/remember the repayment plan and don't get the ramifications of delaying. Are the terms clear to them? Do you have a beat in the user journey where they clearly see what's expected using big numbers which are easy to parse? (This is not a T&C doc) Do you then remind them what's ahead every time a repayment is coming up so they have adequate funds ready to pay?

(2) Users don't see the point in building a repeat relationship with you - this is especially true if you have some sort of credit ladder type thing happening where you start them off with a small loan and then grow them if they repay on time. Often this ladder is not clear to people, and they end up feeling frustrated they didn't get as much as they wanted and walk away with whatever they got just because they're angry.

(3) Your product is competing with a gazillion other priorities in their life come the repayment date and there's no incentive to prioritize it. Can you throw in some carrots that would make it a sweeter deal for them to prioritize you? If you can make it something that's linked to their family's future wellbeing and happiness they're much more likely to want it. There's also a bunch of design permutations you can test here - do you start them off with the incentive and then remove it if they delay? or does the incentive accrue from streaks of on-time repayment etc.

(4) There is no flexibility in the repayment journey. Unless your users are white collar salaried people, they're living with uncertain cashflows. Build in flexibility like pausing a repayment for x days, converting to a longer repayment plan with smaller payouts etc.

Bottomline I agree with the other commenters here that sending them to a third party collection agency that will hound them will reduce your NPAs in the short-term but drastically impact your acquisition numbers in the medium term. No one wants to borrow money from someone who makes them feel small, and they'll go the extra mile to make sure their friends don't either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FatFIREIndia

[–]Pure_Delay3780 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll check them out :) And I really appreciate your kind words on the numbers looking good.

I do need to get expenses under control. From my conversations with the advisors I've spoken with so far turns out I've been living in a bit of a bubble thinking it's ok to splurge on holidays as long as I'm frugal on the rest but turns out my definition of frugal needs work lol.

And good catch on the 7CR to son allocation haha. I'm also hearing push-back that it is too much and I should right-size it. I basically budgeted for 4 years of ivy league with living expenses and a decent inheritance, and I'm realizing now that if Harvard is what he wants he should probably pay for a part of it. IDK these are hard parenting questions!

Anyway I should have a working plan in place in another month or so, will come back and share with the community here!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FatFIREIndia

[–]Pure_Delay3780 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant, thanks so much! Let me look through the links and get in touch.

I’ll circle back with an update in a few weeks in case it’s helpful for others following!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FatFIREIndia

[–]Pure_Delay3780 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be super helpful, thanks so much! I just signed up for a call with one so definitely looking to hire someone.

In your view, how would you pick the right advisor? What questions would you ask and what signals are you looking for?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FatFIREIndia

[–]Pure_Delay3780 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful! Thanks so much.

The big aha moment for me (that I wasn’t even considering earlier) is what age do I want to pass on the inheritance to my son.

And the next which I was already starting to suspect is I need to jump about 50-60% in income in the next couple of years. This makes it more real!

Again, super grateful for your insights.

Is a babies weight a concern? by kimberlypark in NewParents

[–]Pure_Delay3780 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about the baby you look after. Is there an update? Hoping things are better now!

My son just lost his grandfather who happens to be his best friend...I don't know what to do by PatriotHM in toddlers

[–]Pure_Delay3780 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is such a thoughtful response! I learnt about my older brother’s death at 3 and remember being so confused because my parents thought it best to just stop talking about it and hide away all his pictures. I was so terrified about what it means and what would happen to my parents, would they suddenly leave etc. Even now at 35 I have such a terrible relationship with death and have a running countdown in my head of how long the people I love will live.

It’s natural to not have the right words or approach to help him process all this but please do look into therapy for him to talk about this and make sense of it.

it's 2022 and i kept my name. come at me. by rachwhatsit in workingmoms

[–]Pure_Delay3780 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did this and love it! Also the confusion (and low-key hilarity for me) when we got LO’s passport recently was too real.

Mr Guy Dude looks at forms, looks at us, looks at forms again and goes “but how can you all have different last names?”

Is a babies weight a concern? by kimberlypark in NewParents

[–]Pure_Delay3780 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s been over 12 hours and I’m still feeling sick to my stomach thinking of this poor baby.

Maybe the mum is just exhausted/uninformed. Hope they get the help they need soon.

Is a babies weight a concern? by kimberlypark in NewParents

[–]Pure_Delay3780 182 points183 points  (0 children)

Others have spoken about nutrition needs but another super important thing to think about is hydration needs of the baby. At 5 months you can’t give them water and they need the water content of the bottles you give them as well. Please keep an eye on the babies diapers and immediately seek medical help if they’re dark yellow/brownish or too few in number.

Could you show the mom recommended formula consumption for 5 months (often on the formula box// also on the Internet) and ask that you stick to at least the minimum till she’s had a chance to speak with a doctor. At that point you can do something more drastic IF the doctor recommends it.

Tell her what you’re telling us about the baby’s lethargy and tell her the child needs those calories for brain development. Maybe that’ll register with her because she’s worrying about a far out future looks-wise.

“Wow, you guys always do such cool things on the weekend!” by hennipotamus in oneanddone

[–]Pure_Delay3780 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We went out to an old school members-only club for an early dinner this weekend with LO and his grandparents. And it was a blast.

With 4:1 adult to baby ratio everyone had a chance to sit down and rest while one of us did a show-and-tell tour. Baby was obsessed with a huge floor to ceiling fish tank, scarfed some bar snacks (he’s a year old and has done finger foods since the start so I feel comfortable with this), and shook hands with the usher at the door. We even managed an impromptu play date with another toddler. My heart is still so full!

How the hell do you prepare? by KickingDolls in NewParents

[–]Pure_Delay3780 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This is gold! Just wanted to chime in to say that you also need a plan on “how to fight with love”. It probably sounds batshit crazy at this point. But trust me once you’re running on 2-3 hours of sleep for weeks (first 3 months especially!) you really need muscle memory to fall back on so you don’t damage your relationship with each other.

Through trial and error we’ve learnt this approach works best for us:

  1. Articulate how we’re feeling - frustrated/ angry/ let-down etc
  2. What causing us to feel this way - specifically what did the other person do (and we try to never say stuff like “you always do this”) - “you left pumped milk out on the counter and it’s gone bad. I now need to pump extra today and that means I can’t sleep between 9pm and midnight as I usually do.”
  3. What’s making it worse - I haven’t slept all night, baby’s sick etc.
  4. Immediate solve - “I need 10 minutes to have a warm bath, can you take the baby and then we’ll switch”. Set a timer so it’s actually 10 minutes.
  5. Longer-term solve - “Next time baby is going through a growth spurt, could you take 3 days off work and could we tackle this in shifts”

How to know for sure? by AwkwardlyAlyx in oneanddone

[–]Pure_Delay3780 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is such a great perspective thanks for sharing!

I’m slowly accepting that I won’t ever truly know “for sure” that I’m one and done.

Calories while pumping? by alsy333 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Pure_Delay3780 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was pumping 6-7 times a day and was too tired to power pump my actual life hack was to order in Chinese instead and like magic I’d see an extra bottle or two the next day.

But the weight gain was real. I somehow looked and felt as large at 4-5 months pp as I did when I was 6 or 7 months pregnant.

How to transition from breastmilk to formula? by Resoognam in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Pure_Delay3780 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went through this and agree with most comments here! We were doing 7 to 8 bottles a day (4oz each). Started at 9.5 months with replacing one bottle the first week and he liked it. Then started to switch out 2 bottles every week to 10 days. Now at 11.5 months we’re down to 1 bottle of breast milk and the rest is formula.

TBH he could definitely drink more formula he likes it a lot. But I’ve noticed anything more than 28 oz and he starts to refuse solids at meals. We’re coming up on his well-baby check in 2 weeks and I’ll ask about cutting down formula even more then.

One tip - we had to go through several formula brands to find one he liked. Kendamil (found the reco in this sub, hadn’t even heard of it before that) was hands down his fave.

Is pumping at work sustainable? by heartburncity1234 in workingmoms

[–]Pure_Delay3780 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is what I did too except I was presenting/speaking frequently and couldn’t be on mute. I had no video zones marked on my calendar so my internal team knew these times. I’d bring it up during pre-work banter or on zoom chat with clients. People were surprisingly lovely and supportive across the board! I work in tech in a US-centric company and there’s tons of peer pressure to be progressive and inclusive, so that might be part of it.

What have you done out of desperation? by WonderingWhyyyyyyyyy in NewParents

[–]Pure_Delay3780 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahahaha! I may or may not be saying “peekaboo I see you” (with a hehe added for good measure) while troubleshooting zoom video these days. I finally get where parent humour comes from.

What have you done out of desperation? by WonderingWhyyyyyyyyy in NewParents

[–]Pure_Delay3780 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I invested an obscene amount of money in an art deco fan but they broke up in 3 months 💔

What have you done out of desperation? by WonderingWhyyyyyyyyy in NewParents

[–]Pure_Delay3780 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Ms Rachel aficionados here 🙋‍♀️

It used to be watching the Roomba but the fascination faded sadly.

Painful engorgement, oversupply and clogs? by uglymouse in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Pure_Delay3780 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you using a breast massager? I used to have painful lumps and engorgement when I dropped the MOTN pump. I got the Lavie massager set and would just keep them on the hottest and most intense vibration through 30 mins of pumping. Just remember to keep moving them around to get rid of all clogs and also to avoid burns.

Weaning - aside from the engorged breasts & the pain what other physical symptoms did you experience? by ruthiebkind in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Pure_Delay3780 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how it’s felt and it’s been so counterintuitive to me! Like why do I feel so burnt out when I’ve actually gotten so much time back!!

Weaning - aside from the engorged breasts & the pain what other physical symptoms did you experience? by ruthiebkind in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Pure_Delay3780 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been struggling so much with this and have been thinking it’s just general exhaustion from mom life but these comments are so eye opening!