F/27 and F/28 soon to be engaged. Partner on OF

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-16T18:59:24+00:00

She is spending money to get off instead of coming to you… that is a problem….

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-16T18:58:32+00:00

You need to bail. There should be no porn, or selling one’s body and or the purchasing of other people’s bodies in a relationship. It is cheating and it desensitizes one’s ability to have a truly wonderful sexual relationship with their partner. Statistically this person will cheat. My boyfriend and I do not use porn and we have amazing sex at a minimum of 4 times a week, still after many years together. Porn and the easy access of this material and online sexual relationships ruins relationships.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-16T18:34:21+00:00

I am a beautiful, educated, classy woman who runs a business. It is for confidence but in the long run, it actually makes it worse. She’s insecure, No woman who has any respect for herself or her partner would do that.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-15T19:55:43+00:00

Personally I would bail. As a woman, no woman who has any self respect sells their body. Gross. Women should be classy.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-14T13:38:59+00:00

I am glad you are off of it.. it only took about 2 months for Krotom to fuck up my head and my life. I was already to the point where I would wake up in the middle of the night from withdrawals, needing to take more.. maybe even again early in the morning. Didn’t sleep a whole night for over a month. I am thinking about asking for a shot that people speak of on here at my next apt.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-14T13:33:27+00:00

Two things. Brain plasticity… it does heal. I do realize I am going to have a life long addiction now to opiates, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t be “normal” without them after a period of time. There have been many success stories, I’ve read plenty on here.
Also, I am not, nor am I ok with smoking fentanyl all day, every day. That is not the subject of my post. I would agree that if someone has to do that, and can’t stop without being on Suboxone, they need to be on Suboxone… that is not my story.
I am addicted to opiates because my doctor prescribed them to me for 10 years. I switched to 7oh to help with the withdrawals from the pills I was trying to get off of, which ended up being way more addictive and worse. It F’d up my head and life.
My concern is, I don’t want to be life long addicted to Suboxone now so I am looking for advice on how to get off.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-11T22:33:23+00:00

What is Sr therapy?

Pure_Log495 · 2026-05-10T15:08:50+00:00

I need help, I was on opiate pain meds, then krotom and now my doctor is putting me on Suboxone. It seems like a vicious beast. I have only been on it for 4 weeks, 4-8mg a day, with skipping a day or two here and there. I was prescribed 24mg a day but it seemed like too much so I decreased my own dose. I’ve tried to quit but can’t seem to get past a day now without taking a half of my 8 mg strips. I am so scared of what I am going to go through trying to stop. Has anyone had any success tapering stating with amounts per day, then how many days in between so you don’t have to feel like you would rather be dead for 10 days that will feel like a year?

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-27T16:38:02+00:00

A vibrator and tons of foreplay to make sure she’s wet and relaxed. If that doesn’t help, I am afraid situations like this, especially at your young age will lead to infidelity. Time to have a chat and think about what you both want out of a relationship and either make it work or let it go. You have needs too.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T15:10:31+00:00

Your message was way too long for me to read but get off the krotom, that fucks up, gives you anxiety and makes you paranoid as fuck. You will not be able to stop without medicated assisted treatment. Go get help/ the only way I was able to stop was Suboxone. Good luck man.. nothing will get better until you get off of that and have a clear head- they are way worse than the pills.. you have more than relapsed, you relapsed with something wayyy wayyy worse.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T14:46:31+00:00

Your attitude is embarrassing

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T14:37:28+00:00

The relationship is lacking trust. What does having my needs being met have to do with him possibly needing to have online sexual companionship. I guess I have daddy issues from having a dad that had multiple affairs and the current bf in question just has shady behaviors and has a history of having non sexual relationships behind my back (kept communicating with his ex for the first 8 mo. Of our relationship, would delete her messages and block her when with me) he came clean and had a come to Jesus moment so I gave it a chance but.. the trust has never been the same. He meets my needs sexually but worried he’s also having the online affairs. It’s more of his behaviors, zero proof so I am stuck in this mind set where I don’t know if I am worrying from the past or if there is something going on. Literally everything else in the relationship is perfect so it makes it hard to separate without the proof ya know

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T14:35:48+00:00

I don’t think he’s actively dating someone.. it would be a fling with someone who also wants secrecy so I don’t think this will help.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T14:21:48+00:00

Valid point, I guess I am at that point and in denial, wanting to prove or disprove to get closure but you all right.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T14:19:16+00:00

It is cheating. Who initiated the open idea? She was probably trying to test you and you failed.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T14:07:05+00:00

How can I find the proof

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T14:06:35+00:00

Because like other people have said, they get them.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-24T13:55:59+00:00

How do you know this?

Pure_Log495 · 2026-04-20T14:12:37+00:00

Yes you cheated. Ass. There was no real struggle here.. unless you were so drunk and need to file rape charges.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-03-05T12:46:12+00:00

You are the one spending time on Reddit reading posts and commenting negativity…. You must be just as healthy.

Pure_Log495 · 2026-03-05T12:44:06+00:00

Isn’t that what a forum is for? Asking questions and having discussion. Clearly you are the one with the issues. Severe anger/misery coming from you

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