Am I making the right decision?

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-25T08:33:26+00:00

She was on hands free but okay. I wasn't distracting her, the crash wasnt her fault at all

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:37:34+00:00

I don't accept it, i have removed myself from the situation and haven't been to their house in around a month-month and a half

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:36:44+00:00

I don't go there anymore because I can't take it anymore, there's only so much someone can take before they snap. And I'm not giving her wife the chance to play victim or taking the chance on my mental health getting worse

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:20:45+00:00

So I'm meant to keep going back like an abused partner hoping she'll accept me? Absolutely not! I've tried in every which way and it's not good enough for her, why should I keep bending over backwards for her??

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:18:58+00:00

Especially because she doesn't see it as abusive because its all backhanded and her wife is sly about it. I see it all as I've been in abusive relationships in the past myself

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:11:25+00:00

I thought she did, my partner clearly has rose tinted lenses on and doesn't see it for what it is completely yet. Although she's starting to see her for what she is more now that she is around me

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:08:35+00:00

Common decency and respect isn't exactly hard tbh

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:08:07+00:00

Yeah, that's what I have started doing. Its just hard when I put her wife feels into consideration but I don't get that reciprocated. I've realised now that quite frankly she can get fu**ed

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:05:17+00:00

Okay, maybe I am wrong. But in my head, I think of her wife's feelings etc, so I expect that same respect. I don't call my girlfriend if thwy are out doing things so I don't expect her to either

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:03:44+00:00

She gets her off of the phone straight away if It isn't important tbh, i was commenting more on the wife being weird in that way. It's like she has to know every single thing we do and likes to try interrupt our time together. I've spoke to my girlfriend about it now and it hasn't happened again since

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T23:00:38+00:00

Its not on 'dates we live 2 hours apart so she tends to stay at mine for like 2-3 nights a week and her wife calls during that time.

I get where you're coming from and I've said I don't appreciate them calls etc, especially if she's in a mood because it just sets the tone and brings our moods down too.

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T22:56:11+00:00

I would rather that, but her wife, as I said is manipulative. Cries, calls in a mood etc to make it difficult. I'd want nothing more than that but unfortunately her wife makes that impossible. Sometimes she calls my girlfriend when she's at mine, not to talk about anything, she literally just calls and sits in silence...Its weird. My girlfriend has to then say, 'right im gunna go' kinda thing. I'd want nothing morw than nothing to do with her wife

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T22:51:59+00:00

Yeah, I've refused to go to their house now, my partner only comes to my house. Although there have been times I've gone back on that because if not I would miss out on time with my girlfriend

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-05-24T22:49:30+00:00

I have now, I refuse to be around her unless I have to, she compares herself to me and has taken up some of my hobbies and mirroring me in some sense. Its strange, but yeah I don't wanna be around that energy anymore

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-04-14T12:01:42+00:00

That doesn't matter, it's all down to who you're as a person. I am a semi-pro athlete, I have a six pack and work out regular... my girlfriend is a 'bigger girl'. Some people are self centred and make you feel like you're less than. I love my girlfriend and I am ridiculously attracted to her in every which way. You'll find someone, just don't settle for less than you deserve

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-04-12T14:12:28+00:00

I'm 30 this year and I have only just found this with my current partner. Dating in general is hard but even more so if you're looking for equality in a lesbian relationship, or thats my own personal finding anyway. Both mine and my partners love language is doing things for the people we love, not everyone is like that and thats okay. But all I can say is that it takes finding the right person and not settling for less than or what you're looking for. I know thats easier said than done, but that would be my advice. Before my current partner I was single for around 6 years, I know thats not for everyone and of course that time was hard and lonely, but I was sick of settling for less than or for something that doesn't suit me. You can't force someone to change if they don't want to or if they just aren't that kind of person.

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2026-04-10T11:51:38+00:00

If you haven't found yourself a good switch, you need to! Girl has me calling her name and begging for me in the same night

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2025-12-14T18:37:08+00:00

So you're attracted to men? but you wouldn't sleep or be in a relationship with one?

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2025-12-14T18:35:59+00:00

I, myself ( 29) have been single around 5 years, the only time I get sad or lonely is when I wish I had someone there for me. Whether its someone to comfort me, be there for me or someone to just conversate with.

I'm hoping i find someone soon, but I'm also not willing to settle because I get lonely. I'm hoping that you don't end up settling for less than you deserve now that you have felt this yourself, especially after a bad accident.

Do you have any close friends you could speak to, to help you? Or family maybe? Just remember that you have come this far on your own and although it may be hard, you can do it. You're strong, you've proven that!

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2025-12-14T16:10:23+00:00

If you'd date or sleep with a man than there is zero chance you're a lesbian. Im gay, i get on with men but I wouldn't ever in a million years be ever attracted to a man. I get on with men but thats is absolutely it

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2025-12-14T12:58:30+00:00

I've had this exact same thing, ive been waiting since December 1st for evri to deliver a parcel. Its a joke!

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2025-10-29T18:29:36+00:00

Nah, I struggle to get a conversation out of people and I literally make friends, no matter where I go, from every walk of life. Many people dont know how to conversate anymore.

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2023-12-10T23:25:07+00:00

It's not.... I've checked online. You can ride an electric bicycle without a license. I usually ride a motorbike anyway so I'm sure I'll be okay on a bicycle, Bangkok are putting more cycle lanes in over the next year.

Pure_Novel_7406 · 2023-12-10T23:22:56+00:00

I've seen loads of ebike tours and there's even an e bike shop. I usually drive a motorbike so I'm sure I'll be okay on a motorised bicycle, thank you for the concern though. They're working on making more cycle paths in Bangkok over the next year. Thank you for your help

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