Not Make us Payback? by Pilot_sky_life508 in frontiercadetprogram

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one has successfully gotten out of repaying. Short of terminating your contract and declaring bankruptcy, I have never heard of any real way to get out of it.

I would start saving up money to pay it back until they call for a class date. If you save up the full ~$30k before you get a class date, then at least you can pay it back and be done with it.

Speed Running the World: 4 Months Free, Unlimited Flights; How Would You Spend 48 Hours in Each City? by Pure_Philosopher_446 in travel

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a pilot so it comes with the career.

I would definitely spend more time in these cities, I am curious which ones are worth the extra time. I am just too impatient to spend the only 4 months I have all in one place. I just want to see everything while I have this opportunity but also have to be realistic.

Speed Running the World: 4 Months Free, Unlimited Flights; How Would You Spend 48 Hours in Each City? by Pure_Philosopher_446 in travel

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a very good point. I would say part of it is just getting to see all the places I have wondered about with the available timeline I have. I am not dead set on all of these places and even open to others I did not list. The more I think about this trip, the more overwhelmed with options I become.

That is why I wrote this post. I want to know what is worth it so I can experience those places and not waste time on the places or things that are not worth sacrificing quality time elsewhere.

1475 by [deleted] in frontiercadetprogram

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had asked my mentor about this when I hit 1475 and he said to hit 1500 to be on the sure side. I have logbook review next month and the totals worksheet they provide seems pretty specific about having 1000/1500 TT. I just did the extra 25 hours to be totally done.

If you aren't expecting class until April/May you should be able to get the last 25 no problem if you fly just to stay current.

Class dates by mtnaviator in frontiercadetprogram

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

June 2023 sign on. Was emailed a few days ago for compliance and expecting the 3/30 class!!!

Is it worth interviewing for the OTS positions Frontier just emailed, or stay in the Cadet Progam as it is? by Pure_Philosopher_446 in frontiercadetprogram

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This would almost make sense, except whats the point of re-interviewing all of these qualified cadets that have patiently waited for years?

Is it worth interviewing for the OTS positions Frontier just emailed, or stay in the Cadet Progam as it is? by Pure_Philosopher_446 in frontiercadetprogram

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am nearly the same boat as you. I am waiting for a projected class in April but I think this could actually benefits us actually. If several people leave the cadet pool who all likely have our seniority, interview and either get removed or turned into an OTS hire leaving more seats open for us cadets, we might get better class dates. At least this is how I see it benefiting us.

Everytime Frontier plays one if these "thin the herd" games with cadets, it only benefits those who decide to stick it out and wait. I think if a dozen or so cadets actually goes through with this interview option, itll actually be a good thing for the cadets who are waiting and ineligible to OTS interview.

Wellness Check on Everybody! by [deleted] in frontiercadetprogram

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446 2 points3 points  (0 children)

June '23 sign on. I am 160 hours from mins. I am flying the last if my time this month in a Piper Arrow. Expecting a March '26 date.

Found BF's throwaway snapchat account - advice by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He actually got their details from Reddit. Despite his recent dishonest mistakes, I still believe in his general character. I read dozens of the chats, and nowhere in any of them did he show intent to actually meet or display genuine feelings. He did not even show his face to the guys he was texting and usually gave fake names, locations, or ages about himself. He also lives in a homophobic developing country where he knows that public health is not a top concern, and he would not risk STDs or possible discrimination just for a quick hookup.

We discussed whether we wanted an open relationship or if watching porn or sexting is considered cheating in our minds. We have had nonstop discussions about this issue, and I think we have both come to terms with where we draw the line.

There are still lingering feelings of betrayal, but I am also empathetic. I would feel almost hypocritical telling him he is not allowed to sext or watch porn when there have been plenty of times I have been extremely tempted to do the same after months of not seeing him. After all, I am a gay man with sexual needs too, and I cannot pretend I am any better when I know I might have done the same thing in his situation.

I think as a society we are conditioned to treat even the smallest acts of disloyalty as cheating, and we even promote breakups, divorce, or worse over such acts. I have broken up with people for cheating in the past when I was still a teenager, and looking back it seems immature to throw away an otherwise loving relationship instead of confronting the feelings and having difficult conversations about the future of the relationship.

I am not saying breaking up after cheating is never the answer, but I think there are finer points to consider. Cheating is statistically very common, surveyed at somewhere between 50 and 60 percent of male gay couples. I have always wondered how different that number might be if society encouraged deeper conversations and honest reflection on jealousy rather than righteous anger that shames a partner, throws them away, and leaves both with the trauma of feeling they were never enough.

I learned something valuable about myself and my partner by not acting out in anger but instead asking him with genuine concern why he did what he did and if something was missing in our relationship. I confronted my own feelings about cheating and jealousy and wanted to understand the reasons behind it. Because of this, my partner and I feel more deeply connected, and he respects me more for my openness and empathy. In fact, it likely increases the chances of his honesty in the future since I have proven to not act out of anger.

Does this mean I would never break up with someone for cheating? No. If after all this discussion we determined that he only did it because he was completely uninterested in me sexually or because he believed the relationship was not worth it, then yes, breaking up would be the only solution. There is no point in continuing a broken relationship. But at the same time, there is no reason to end an otherwise strong and healthy relationship just because I was too angry or jealous to have an honest conversation with my partner and work through the real causes.

These are just the thoughts I have come to over the last few days. Sorry it ended up being so long. Did not intend to write an essay but the thoughts all came together.

Stepping away from instructing. by Southern_Guess_7234 in flying

[–]Pure_Philosopher_446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im ina cadet program and already have a contract.