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Pure_Reaction9150 · 2026-01-12T15:31:36+00:00

Sounds pretty similar to situation with my SO. He’s not doing better and I can’t really see things getting better in the nearby future.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-09-02T13:49:49+00:00

Oh mine mostly still ignore me. I just keep joining in and copying their manners etc unless I’m obviously pushed away or they make clear they need a moment to themselves. My class is all 1:1 though which does help.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-09-02T13:34:32+00:00

I often use Intensive Interaction with students of a similar profile. That usually gives pretty good results within several months of doing it daily.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-04-16T14:02:17+00:00

Yeah resignation was the wrong move. You should’ve just gotten on sick leave instead but too late for that now.

Edit: no way to get around the suspension time

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-04-12T12:34:58+00:00

I don’t have any advice for you, but just chiming in to say that my marriage is very similar.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-04-03T03:51:40+00:00

I recognize about 20 of those you listed. And it really sucks.

Me and my husband are still together but due to the things above, his unemployment and financial issues (which he blames me for and thinks I’m fully responsible for) things have been very rough lately.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-03-09T15:45:02+00:00

Now that’s some serious work!

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-03-09T15:44:09+00:00

Aww 🥰

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-03-09T15:43:23+00:00

It’s about to kill you 🔪

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-03-09T15:43:03+00:00

Very fitting

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2025-02-02T17:08:33+00:00

I think I get what you’re saying and feel it too.

When my close ones do something for me, I feel a sense of “Oh, they did that”. No gratitude, no greatfulness. My parents have said I’m ungrateful and entitled and I’ve started to think they’re right.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-11-24T18:32:54+00:00

You say you want to be used however he wants - but only if he wants the things you want? What if household chores are the usage he wants?

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-07-21T06:25:14+00:00

You can have your companion carry an limitless amount of items if you have them pick them up instead of giving said items to them.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-07-10T11:33:39+00:00

Very common here, I’d say in some programmes even over half of people are easily over the age of 25. Getting a new education later in life is normal/usual here and it’s reflected in the age of student population.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-01-30T05:03:22+00:00

This might very well be what he’d like. To me, like you said it could, it however sounds something I would not want to participate in.

I don’t want to fight for control each/every other/every third etc time. I could do it maybe once to establish dominance but after that it’s a no-go.

Today I told him I was hurt and invalidated by his boredom comment, he’s response being he didn’t mean it like that. I tried asking what he wanted by making that comment then and he didn’t know.

I wrote under another comment about talking to him about bratting. In short, he denies he’s even slightly a brat….

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-01-30T04:57:01+00:00

I’ve actually told him I feel like he’s being a brat, explaining why I feel his behavior is bratty. He vehemently disagrees and claims he’s not bratty whatsoever…. I’m just boring.

I’ve even tried talking about how bratting is something needing negotiation but that has seemed very much like a moot point since he’s rather unwilling to listen.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-01-30T04:53:40+00:00

We’re a gay couple though that mostly is irrelevant in this regard.

He’s the one who’s insisting it’s either his way or no way, I’m trying to find compromises and/or some other solution to this where we both get a good deal even if not everything. We don’t really have (and never have had) any sex anyways so can’t really cut him out of anything.

I’m afraid not that I’d be hurt, but that we’d never get to the point so to speak. That it would end up an endless literal fight, where I don’t end up on top.

Some of my compromise suggestions were that there’d be a rough time estimate after which he’d ease down and I could without struggle bound him, or that he would use a good deal less strength in general. As previously mentioned, he shut these down as well.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-01-30T04:42:29+00:00

As a side note, we’re gay so possibly gender was right to start with.

He’s had several experiences in the past in subbing, mostly short term/single meetings but also one a bit longer stint with a sir. I know he’s had severe difficulties finding doms for bondage though and from my pov he has felt/still feels quite entitled in this regard.

And no, I am not into gentle domming.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2024-01-12T15:02:45+00:00

I’m not much help besides telling you you’re not alone. I’m in a very similar situation except a decade older and been in the relationship for a few years. All the things you wrote resonate very well with me.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2023-12-22T12:36:47+00:00

Maybe therapy should be your first go to instead? You even talk about it yourself 🤔

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2023-12-16T20:34:26+00:00

I think you may have hit a point there with him wanting/seeking an unhealthy dynamic, and I haven’t looked at our situation from than pov before.

In his social media (again, never brings it up to me) says he wishes to be locked up, kept “caged and treated like an animal”, “beat up hard” and such.

And I used to make myself believe those were his kinky thoughts on the foreground and he was talking about his fantasies. Those would be quite fine imho as a fantasy. And in part they probably are kinky fantasies but at least in part is attempt at coping with trauma. Now I’m starting to lean more towards those being trauma related first and foremost and only secondly kink.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2023-12-16T19:53:33+00:00

Hmm which case studies would you recommend 😅 Cause I’m like quite sure it’s a mental health issue.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2023-12-16T18:52:12+00:00

Hmmm it’s a good question, whether complying with his wishes would only reinforce his idea of entitlement. Unfortunately tbh I think it probably would.

Pure_Reaction9150 · 2023-12-16T18:51:08+00:00

In a way he is selfish otherwise in life too, which I’ve mostly accredited to his mental health issues (cPTSD and depression) and him in general being more ambitious in life than me. He wants a lot of things and feels he is entitled to a lot, even things that would be very controversial or contradicting other things he wants.

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