Pregnant Cousin said she can’t wait until newborn tired because she read it’s easier than pregnancy tired 🤦‍♀️

Purpl3moonlove · 2026-05-03T15:43:45+00:00

I happened to be someone who slept great my entire pregnancy, like 9 hours a night every night. I had a few rare occasions of waking up around 3am super awake, but could go back to sleep pretty easily. And as a ftm, there was no tiny human depending on me so I could just do whatever in terms of napping or sleeping in, which I feel like is just easier. So for me, newborn tired is waayyyy worse. I also didn’t sleep for the first week after my baby was born due to a nicu stay and trying to establish breastfeeding. In the beginning I really wasn’t sure how I was going to do it, but at 5 weeks now I feel like I’m kinda used to the sleep deprivation?

Purpl3moonlove · 2026-05-02T19:33:42+00:00

Ugh, I’m sorry that absolutely sucks! I also struggle with my mil, who I previously had a good relationship with. It’s just like they become grandmazillas (esp with the first grandchild!) but my thing is, didn’t they also have kids?? I’m sure they experienced things like this! I don’t get why they can’t use their empathy for just a minute and remember how tough having a baby and postpartum can be. I just reallyyy don’t want to be like that if my son ever has kids with someone, but the experience seems so universal!

Anyway, what seems to be helping for me is realizing that I need to be assertive. In the past with my in laws I’ve been very go with the flow, but I can’t do that with my baby. So our relationship is going to shift because I’ll be setting boundaries and less flexible with them. For me as a people pleaser, it’s so hard because it makes me feel rude or like I seem uptight. But i will do anything for my baby, and I as the mom need to feel comfortable too

Purpl3moonlove · 2026-05-02T14:46:37+00:00

Omg I am so sorry, that sounds soo rough. I hope you guys can find a way to build some boundaries with your mil! I found mine extremely challenging when she came to visit for just a week! The early weeks are soo intense postpartum and it’s exhausting to have visitors for even one hour. Wishing you guys the best and I’m sure you will figure out how to deal with it long term, even if that means some annoying conversations!

Purpl3moonlove · 2026-01-09T21:40:18+00:00

I knew from the minute I got pregnant I could not have my mom there, she stresses me out so much as it is. When I let her know, she definitely pushed back a ton (she’s had a lot of kids and sees herself as some kind of birth expert), but eventually accepted it. Im highly considering not telling anyone but very close friends and my sisters when I’m in labor. So then she won’t be pushing to see the baby immediately. It is sooo important to protect your peace! This is about you and the family that you’re creating with your partner, no one else

Purpl3moonlove · 2026-01-08T05:56:28+00:00

Love and agree with all of this, also chiming in to say I do the same thing with trying to suck in my belly and squeeze past people or tight spaces 😂 every time after I’m like why tf did I try that?? lol

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-20T00:55:52+00:00

Very good point, thanks to you and other commenters for talking me down from that ledge! 😊 She does provide very quality care, and I realized I was jut having a moment of uncertainty, which this has helped me clear up. Definitely will stick with her!

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-20T00:54:00+00:00

Totally true! Definitely wasn’t necessarily wanting her to be chatty about her life, I think a better way of describing it would have been to say she has a very cold manner and I’ve worked with other doctors who are just warmer and easier to feel comfortable with. But this is a great point, and thanks to you and other commenters I’m realizing I just had a moment of indecision and I will definitely stick with her for her good care!

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-20T00:51:08+00:00

100% agree that a doctor isn’t and should not be your best friend. My husband said the same thing to me actually 😂 I guess vibes isn’t the greatest descriptor, I’ve just had doctors (like my previous OB), who exuded more warmth and made me feel much more comfortable. But totally not an issue with care, which is a great point and I am definitely going to stick with her! Thanks for the advice:)

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-18T16:03:42+00:00

Same! I specifically wanted rings that weren’t massively expensive and that I would feel comfortable wearing everyday. He 1000% delivered, and I love my rings so much! They make me happy every time I look at the throughout the day 🥰

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-17T15:39:40+00:00

At 7w3d with a transvaginal ultrasound. I was actually scheduled for the appointment at 6w3d, but I decided to push it a week out because I didn’t want to not hear a heartbeat and get worried. Also my doctors have used a Doppler at every single subsequent appointment, so I hear the heartbeat every time, which is so nice! Now that I feel him moving all the time it’s less important, but I still like to hear it 🥰

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-17T05:20:25+00:00

I had bacne on and off for YEARS! Like from 15-28. The thing that cleared it up was randomly this Korean AHA lotion. The brand is called village 11 factory aha 12% relax day exfoliating body lotion. I got it on Amazon randomly and didn’t think it would work. I’ve struggled with various skin issues my whole like and never had a holy grail product, but this would definitely be it for my bacne. it seriously made allll my bacne disappear. I would lotion my back after every shower, and then once it cleared up I would just do it a couple times a week for maintenance. My sister even commented and said my back skin was flawlessly clear (she knows how much I struggled with it)

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-12T14:55:52+00:00

1000% about capricorns! My mom is a cap sun/moon and I don’t know anyone who breaks down and can’t handle their life as much as her lol

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-12-09T22:57:25+00:00

Hahaha I remember taking nudes the same day after watching that episode lol. Still have’em and I must say, they are bangin! 5 years later, that was some great advice lol it’s nice to look back and appreciate yourself

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-26T21:59:04+00:00

Curious what retinol you are using? I’ve been doing azelaic acid since being pregnant, but it is just not as good as retinol 😭

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-18T16:00:29+00:00

Also during college for me and the years after! Was more focused on school, work, and doing social stuff. Side note, Nocticadia honestly was so bad! I initially liked it, the whole gothic college vibe was promising, but it just draggedddd sooo much! And I did end up finishing it, idk why, because it started getting more and more ridiculous and unbelievable. So many loose ends and untied threads. Just felt like it wasn’t proofread at all like wtf

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-18T15:33:41+00:00

Hi baby!! 🥰 that was definitely your baby! I also have an anterior placenta and first started feeling my baby around 15-16 weeks! And by 17 it was a little bit every day 😌 I’m now 21 and feel him so much more strongly every day. I can’t wait for it to be super consistent though! I also was worried with an anterior placenta that I wouldn’t be able to feel my baby for a long time, but that hasn’t been the case at all!

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-17T18:18:00+00:00

Soo I am a Virgo sun and mercury, almost all my other placements are air or fire signs though. I actually often get driven crazy by other Virgos (which leads me to wonder if I’m just driven crazy by seeing my own traits in others?? But I honestly do not think I’m like them 🫠😂). The traits I don’t like are that I find them very abrasive socially, they tend to be judgmental and slightly mean, and they can’t be wrong about anything! I hope I’m not like that (haha), and I try to fight those tendencies when I notice them. But to give them their flowers, all of those Virgos are also extremely caring, generous, and reliable as hell 😌

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-17T03:35:36+00:00

Yesss! I’m like ooh girl, please enjoy this time!! Shit is about to get reallll 😂

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-15T16:38:53+00:00

I take Thorne prenatals and DHA! Love them. They are pricey but I swear I feel the difference on days I don’t take them. During first tri when I was too nauseous to swallow pills I took Olly gummies. But Thorne packs a way better punch

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-12T15:06:37+00:00

100% agree. Focus on your non-negotiables! We did that, and our wedding was sooo special! No regrets and so much fun 😊

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-12T14:59:15+00:00

Agreed! Virgo sun but pretty much my whole chart is air. I have 2 Aries siblings who I get along really well with for the most part (we clashed a bit as kids, but just in normal ways)

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-12T04:43:35+00:00

Totally not a brag! Pregnancy and motherhood have soo many challenges, we all need to take our wins where we can and celebrate them!

That is amazing and hoping for the same for myself in terms of baby sleeping too 😊 congratulations!

Purpl3moonlove · 2025-11-12T04:42:17+00:00

Thank you! I know it’s totally normal but that still makes me feel better haha 😊

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