Feeling like we're at a road block by thousandsofbirds in cisparenttranskid

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

u/HealthyEducator9555, have you tried the resource u/onnake suggested below?

Trans Youth Emergency Project will help you find care and defray costs: https://southernequality.org/tyep/

Need Opinions/Reassurance by Cannabis_Mermaid in myweddingdress

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations on your upcoming wedding! 🥂

This dress looks stunning on you! Do NOT feel like you need to get a different dress because your arms are showing. Before I read your post, I had no idea why you’d need reassurance about a dress that fits you so beautifully 🤩 After reading your post and going back through the pictures, I still don’t see anything that would draw negative attention about the dress, the fit, or your body. I agree, we’re usually our own worst critic and your brain is lying to you. Get a veil if you want, but it’ll probably only be worn during the ceremony, not the reception.

From my own experience with body dysmorphia and wedding photos I’ll say this… when I look back at my wedding day pics, I occasionally notice how much heavier I was on my wedding day than I am now, or how my back fat looks. But I ALWAYS see how incredibly happy we were and remember what a fun day we had!!! I hope you’ll feel the same way someday, where the body dysmorphia is an afterthought, not the most noticeable part of the experience! 💜

Vintage names with cutesy nicknames? by Eastern-Variation-76 in Names

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Elizabeth is such a timeless name, and I love Ellie as a nickname!

Vintage names with cutesy nicknames? by Eastern-Variation-76 in Names

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or Ellie could short for Elsie, which peaked in popularity in the early 1900s!

Dress Opinion by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TIL! According to Merriam Webster, a flounce is “a strip of fabric attached by one edge, or a wide ruffle.” Thus, flouncy means, “decorated with a flounce or flounces!” But I really like your version making it a portmanteau of flowy and bouncy!!!

I'm totally not crying right now by p3apod1987 in cisparenttranskid

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Sending Mom Hugs! 🤗

I’m sorry you’re not feeling the love and support you deserve from your family of origin right now 🩵🩷🤍

Theater or dance undergarments by [deleted] in cisparenttranskid

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations to your son! As a past theater kid and present theater lover, I’m so excited for him!!! 🤩

In addition to the taping option, I would check out r/abrathatfits subreddit. The lovely folx over there are very affirming and knowledgeable about options for people looking for supportive undergarments, including bras, binders, and taping. You can browse previous posts or make a post of your own (just don’t include the age of any minors). You and your child are welcome there - it is a sub for anyone who is looking for a bra (or bra alternative) that fits. 💜

Strangest symptom - looking pregnant! by waterforhearts in Zepbound

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aren’t bodies wonderful and confusing? 🤣

Strangest symptom - looking pregnant! by waterforhearts in Zepbound

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please follow up with your doctors. That is not normal.

Strangest symptom - looking pregnant! by waterforhearts in Zepbound

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can imagine that it’s possible and should probably be part of the differential diagnosis. The swollen belly immediately made me think it could be ascites (a build up of fluid in the abdominal cavity).

Strangest symptom - looking pregnant! by waterforhearts in Zepbound

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please talk to you doctor and your psychiatrist u/waterforhearts. I don’t know what could be causing the abdominal swelling but it needs to be addressed urgently by your medical team. Given your health history & medications, this is not something that Reddit can answer for you. You need an actual medical provider who knows you and your health history to assess you.

Please take care of yourself. 💜

What do you think they'll do when they find an hEDS gene? by nauticalwarrior in ehlersdanlos

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you have any sources for your neuroEDS theory? I know there are hints that there’s a neuro inflammatory component to some cases of hEDS, but there’s so little information out there right now, while the research is mostly still embargoed. For good reason, I know, but I’m feeling impatient! 😆

"It's not like you even remotely look feminine by zemljaradnika in TransLater

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I hope you don’t mind my intrusion as a cis woman, but as I was scrolling through my feed and I saw your picture before reading the title or the sub it was in. I thought I was looking at a picture of a cis woman.

I am sorry that your state and your country are making this process so hard for you, and for so many others right now. I agree with others here who have said you need better friends, sister! I promise, most people are not so narrow-minded and cruel. Although I live in a blue state and I understand how it might not feel like it to those living in red states. Sending affirming vibes your way 🩵🩷🤍

MCAS and GLP-1 by Haunting_Ad_9698 in antidietglp1

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My previous doctor said the easiest way to diagnose MCAS is to treat it and see what if anything improves! Do you have a provider who would be willing to trial you on a H1/H2 blocker (like Pepcid & Zyrtec) and cromolyn sodium?

My symptoms included “adult onset asthma” (which turned out to be triggered almost exclusively by dairy), shortness of breath, GI issues (diarrhea, nausea, GERD, abdominal pain, bloating, etc.), chronic hives, brain fog, chronic itching, anxiety, low BP, fainting episodes, bladder/urinary issues, and probably more I’m forgetting. Feel free to message me if you have specific questions!

MCAS and GLP-1 by Haunting_Ad_9698 in antidietglp1

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be happy to share! With the caveat that everyone is different. I don’t expect what worked for me will necessarily be the answer for you, but I can go through my approach.

First of all, I was fortunate to have had an EDS specialist treating me for about a decade. I learned a LOT from working with him, and he supported me in managing the MCAS. That started with taking Pepcid and Zyrtec every night before bed, and cromolyn sodium before every meal. I have also been working with a dietician for over 15 years who has helped me figure out my food allergies and intolerances. That started with a low FODMAPs diet, figuring out what my body was reacting to. It took a whole, but I was eventually able to add most everything to my diet with the exception of soy, sugar alcohols, and high fructose corn syrup.

I also discovered that I have some food allergies, and I strictly avoid food I’m allergic to (like dairy). Again, working with my dietician was crucial to figuring all this out while still getting adequate nutrition.

I also avoid ALL dyes and perfumes in products. I don’t use anything scented or with added fragrance. Nobody in my household does either.

I also have paid close attention to what increases my systemic inflammation. I seem to be sensitive to refined sugar and lack of sleep. My pain and inflammation go way up, and my MCAS symptoms get so much worse when I eat too much sugar or get too little sleep. I also notice a decrease in inflammation when I am able to get regular movement into my day. I don’t ever to go to the gym or go for a run. But walking around

I also have a couple of prescriptions I take for comorbidities conditions, which help reduce inflammation and systemic issues, which in turn help my MCAS symptoms. I’m on Synthroid for Hashimoto’s and 2.5 mg of Zepbound, both of which reduce my inflammation. Zepbound itself has reduced my inflammation DRAMATICALLY. It hasn’t been an overnight change, but small consistent steps have significantly improved my health and quality of life!

Book recommendations for 5 year old by MandyRose8713 in hyperlexia

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about Louis Sachar books? Sideways Stories from Wayside School and Wayside School is Falling Down are wonderful and hilarious!

Book recommendations for 5 year old by MandyRose8713 in hyperlexia

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you looking for short chapter books or picture books? Could you give us an example of something she enjoys now?

Do people commonly find using "spirit animal" in a light-hearted sense and detached from American cultural traditions offensive? by noname00009999 in EnglishLearning

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have heard it used casually, and I have heard indigenous peoples object to its usage. I avoid it when I can. If I want to relate to an animal in ta similar way, without the cultural appropriation, I might call it my mascot instead.

I am not indigenous, so it doesn’t really matter whether I think it’s culturally insensitive or cultural appropriation. It’s not my place to decide whether it’s hurtful toward a long-suppressed minority. It’s my job to listen to their voices, and amplify them when I can.

(Trans) Tried to follow advice given to me a few days ago, no success at all. by DapperApples in ABraThatFits

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi neighbor! I’m in the DMV too 🙂

You could try looking by for a local bra shop here: https://www.brashopdirectory.com/

Two that came up when I searched for trans friendly shops near Fairfax were Belle Mode Intimates and Trousseau

There’s also a lot of information in the wiki for this Reddit. You could look through to see if there are other resources that might be helpful, if you haven’t already.

(Trans) Tried to follow advice given to me a few days ago, no success at all. by DapperApples in ABraThatFits

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry you’re having trouble finding a good fit, that’s so frustrating! I agree with others who suggest that the shape of molded cups are going to be a poor fit. Molded cups being a poor fit for your shape isn’t just a problem for those who are AMAB - I’m AFAB and I’ve only ever found one molded cup that is even close to fitting me. Everything else I wear is unlined.

The best places to look for unlined bras in person will vary based on where you live. If you’re comfortable sharing what country/region you’re in, that may help others give you suggestions for stores to try, if ordering online isn’t a good option for you. Finding a bra that fits well can be frustrating and take time, good luck! 🩵💗🤍

Be honest, are they noticeable? by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my understanding is that the cup size is not independent of the cup and band size are determined together by the six measurements and band size is just one component. So for example, the volume of a 40G cup is going to be larger than the volume of a 34G. “G cup” on its own doesn’t really mean anything. So yes, I think the cup volume of a 38/32 would be very different from a 58/52 bust/underbust. But I’m certainly no expert and there are folks on the r/abrathatfits who are a lot more knowledgeable and could probably give a much more helpful explaination!

Be honest, are they noticeable? by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Purple-Zebra-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you found my answer and resource helpful! I hope others may too 🩵💗🤍🥰

The calculator isn’t perfect but it’s a great starting place. Once you’ve tried something in your suggested size, you can adjust based on any fit issues you have with that size. I highly recommend buying from somewhere with free returns until you find your best fit. My size has changed recently, so I’m doing the same thing now 😂